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Need advice on a man I’m seeing who constantly sexualises me and mentions other girls to me?

I need some advice and perspective, because I feel caught in a really unhealthy cycle with a guy I’ve been seeing. Every time I try to pull away, he finds a way to reel me back in, and I end up questioning myself

When we’re intimate, he objectifies me and makes me feel unvalued. For example, after I went down on him and swallowed, the only thing he said was, “sorry there’s not much, I’ve been wanking loads recently.” There was no care, no appreciation just a crude remark that reduced the whole moment to nothing. He’s also pressured me to do things I don’t want, saying things like “all my ex-girlfriends did it so it’s fine,” which makes me feel pushed instead of respected

On top of that, he tells me how I should look for him once saying, “when you come to mine, wear tight gym gear and a thong.” It makes me feel like he only sees me as an object

On dates, he often ignores me glued to his phone, uninterested when I try to hold his hand or even dance with him. When I went to the bathroom one night, he made a social media video with the DJ but didn’t even include me. Instead of making me feel wanted, I feel invisible

He constantly talks about his ex, points her out in public, and describes her as manipulative, while steering me away from places she might be. It leaves me wondering if he’s really over her at all. On top of that, he makes little digs at me commenting that I look better without glasses, putting down my job, or saying things in a backhanded way so I feel “less than.”

And yet, when I finally start ignoring him or pulling back, he pops up with small crumbs of attention: a random comment about my dog, an invite for a walk, or a suggestion to call. It’s just enough to hook me back in, but the cycle starts again with the same disrespect

I know deep down this isn’t healthy, but he plays control games that keep me doubting myself. I’d appreciate any advice or reassurance right now, because I don’t want to keep going in circles like this. What shall I do?

Need advice on a man I’m seeing who constantly sexualises me and mentions other girls to me?
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