Is it true that men are friends with women they find attractive and women are friends with men they don't find attractive?

[Anonymous]

[BDRick]

That’s a popular idea, but it’s an oversimplification. Human friendships aren’t purely driven by sexual or romantic attraction; Though attraction can influence dynamics sometimes.

Men are more likely to feel some level of romantic or sexual attraction to female friends, especially if the friendship is new or the men don’t already have strong boundaries... BUT many men maintain deep, meaningful friendships with women they aren’t romantically attracted to on average, Especially if they value shared interests, trust, or emotional support.

... At least emotional men at that

Women can and do form friendships with men they are attracted to, but it's been shown that they may sometimes be more cautious about crossing certain boundaries to avoid complications. Friendships with men they aren’t attracted to are also very common, often because the attraction factor doesn’t complicate things.

It's a mixed bag of emotion and types of friendship men and women have with one another.

[Zack-Bann]

Nah both want the attractive people.
It’s the halo effect. It works both ways


Also men and women (who are straight or Bi) will never have a purely platonic friendship


It never works. No matter how many people will pretend it does
If they haven’t lived it yet they will eventually
That person they think is their “friend” will one day be a little tipsy and go in for a kiss

[Anonymous]

All the guys I’ve ever been friends with were unattractive to me, the ones I’m currently friends with are also unattractive in my eyes. One of the two of them I have been family friends with and neither of us are attracted to each other what so ever.
the way I think about it is, you can be friends with the opposite gender, there are just some people that love to play the “I’m attracted to you so I’m going to fake being your friend until I get with you” game, and then complain when it doesn’t work out. Which is why if I am going to form a friendship with a guy I let him know right off the bat that I don’t think he’s attractive in a relationship/hook up way, and don’t try anything on me as I won’t change my mind about it. Set boundaries.

[Zionne]

That’s a popular stereotype, but it’s not always true. Attraction can sometimes influence how friendships form, especially early on, but many men and women maintain genuine friendships without romantic interest. Often, people project patterns based on their own experiences, not universal truth, plenty of friendships exist where mutual respect outweighs any physical attraction.

[AviatorTom]

Interesting comparison, but it doesn't apply in general. A person has a friend because they have something in common and enjoy each other's company. Attractiveness may play a small part, but there are many more important things in friendship, like trust and understanding.

[new-person]

No, I was best friends with someone I was never attracted to. We did meet at a group meeting and they needed help so i did help the best i could and we became friends and turned into brother and sister kind of things. I watched over her as she invited guys over and she guided me in my love life. We both had lots of fun with joking.

But I think you are thinking that because most guys need some interest to start a conversation and 80 to 90% of that time it is attraction.

[Anonymous]

No. There are 2 types of male friends a woman can have.

1. Is brotherly

2. Wants to sleep with you.

One will fart in the same room as you, call you ugly sis, ask you to give your female friends number so they can date them and flinch if you get near.

The other one will hug you from behind, tease you.. etc. its very clear which one is which..

[Zack-Bann]

Both would sleep with you without hesitation
Every woman I ever met thinks she’s got a “brotherly friendship” going on with a guy.
10/10 times he’s just playing the long game.
(Not 9/10)

[Opinion Owner]

@Zack-Bann nope. I evan tested them they both said they're not interested. They evan try to get me other men

[Zack-Bann]

I mean no offense when I say this:
But I’ve heard it a million times before.
And every time it’s a woman who thinks she’s found the unicorn.

They said they’re not interested because they think they don’t have a shot

They’re getting you other men because they can then control the competition and avoid you finding a guy that would talk you into cutting them off.

i know I’m wasting my time and you won’t take the word of a stranger over that of your friends.
But you’ll remember them eventually.

[Opinion Owner]

@Zack-Bann if thats true lets see. But that would make them worthless and waste trash.

[Zack-Bann]

No one said worthless trash 😂
I said they think they don’t have a shot.

Every friendzone is the result of low self esteem and fear of rejection

If you asked them
“Hey do you think you like me (because I want a friend who’s just a friend)?”
They would lie

If you actually liked one of them and told him you think you might into him that’s another story
Now he thinks he has a shot so he will take it

Usually men are result oriented.
They won’t say or do something that will put them at a disadvantage just for the sake of being honest

[Opinion Owner]

@Zack-Bann yeah but they are worthless trash if they know i dont want them and they still "trying". It says a lot about them then. They should respect themselves

[Zack-Bann]

I completely agree with you on that.
Their lack of initiative is very unattractive.

But they are already being punished for it.

The friendzone is a sad and painful place to be in.
Especially when you start seeing someone

They have to go to bed at night wondering if you’re out cuddling with another man after having destroyed the bed frame with animalistic sex

That’s a gut wrenching picture to have in your mind at night

[Opinion Owner]

@Zack-Bann yup... I highly doubt thats the case but if it is i would end the friendship

[Anonymous]

i can only give you female perspective. from my experience, yes, men are friends with women who they want to date or sleep with. no other reason.

as for me, i will be friends with anyone as long as they're nice to me, regardless if they're attractive or not. because they're friends.

[RavVid]

Think so in my case. Even women I will just stop and chat with for a minute or two. They all are slender and virtually have the same face.

Women often have gay guy friends so not much is likely to happen there.

[DishLady]

Sometimes yes, but it’s not the same “jump their bones” every the person has for someone they’d like to date. Being around (and accepted by) folks you find attractive helps you feel attractive too.

[OlderAndWiser]

What is true is that all men and women are not alike. Any attempt to find a general rule that applies to all members of either gender is misguided.

[236color]

It seems to be, yes. If you want a romantic relationship with a woman, give up if you are her friend, it's already over.

[Jammannn]

Pretty much, you're friend-zoned for a reason. I've told women that their friends like them and been told nope no way, then a few years later they reveal the crush and the girls are somehow surprised.

[zagor]

No it is not. I've found it much easier to be friends with women I'm not attracted to, though sometimes they try to be more than friends. And I know women who are in relationships but have some VGL male friends.

[Nikki1989]

Not remotely true, despite what some clueless simpletons might say.

[captain_voidwalker]

This sums it upBriffault’s law states: “The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such associati

[Finchie40]

Not true, some of my girl friends’ eventually wanted more than just friendship with me

[spartan55]

There are some exceptions, but this is mostly true.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's mostly true, but not always.

Some of my female friends are very attractive (they friend-zoned me).

Most of my female friends are average, I'm friends with them because we often have interesting conversations.

[Opinion Owner]

I even have a female friend who is not attractive at all (I friend-zoned her because she wanted more).

[MJVillarama]

Not really, people make friends for all sorts of reasons, not just attraction.

[jamesgoldman]

No, I'm friends with those who keep in on the loop of gold

[LiamJHayden]

Shallow ones and those who lack self-control probably are.

[Godihateyou]

No. Women only associate with attractive people. Men fall in love and marry unattractive people. Thays why attractive women are miserable liberals.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Highly likely. Most girls' boy buds aren't exactly studly, while our gal pals tend to be hot.

[Twalli]

Not always the case. My girlfriend was my friend, and she obviously finds me attractive.

[guesswhereivebeen]

Probably not because then all the unfuckables would have tons of female friends

[MrOracle]

Not necessarily at all. Many guys refuse to be Friend Zoned, wisely, I might add. These guys aren't looking for female "friends" because, in the vast majority of cases, a man being "just friends" with a woman is a completely one-sided relationship.

Women tend to want "boyfriend benefits" from their male friends - lots of attention, time, advice, free labor, and even "loans" which are almost never paid back, and the man basically gets nothing he values.

So, lots of women WANT to be "just friends" with a lot of guys, because they are average and most women are only interested in - and I'll be incredibly generous here because it's really a much smaller percentage - the top 20% of men. They'd prefer to have access to the attention, free labor, and other resources of many other men, but only a small percentage of men will accept being Friend Zoned. Most men intentionally create distance and keep those women as acquaintances.

[guesswhereivebeen]

Well said

[AllSmiles30]

I think both genders starts befriending with people from the other gender they find atteactive

[RxR0954]

no lol that is just assumptions

[beenherebefore]

I believe there's some true to it.

[Anonymous]

it's the other way around

[Asker]

How is it the other way around?

[Opinion Owner]

because men have a lower threshold for attractiveness than women

[Rosemaiden]

I only approach men I find attractive

[Anonymous]

Yeah

[Anonymous]

False

[Anonymous]

Mostly true.