I got ghosted by 2 guys after sending nudes and videos why?

[Anonymous]

I was using bumble n shit and I matched with a a few people of them were 2 dudes both were cute and I was excited so I sent them some stuff and then I noticed they kind of weren't talking as much and today they both blocked and deleted me off everything that really hurt. They didn't seem super into it from the start but they swiped right... Why swipe right and bother to get to that point if you were just gonna ghost or was I that bad? Usually the reactions have been positive and they stick around. They told me they were good and liked them but why wouldn't they wanna meet up for the real thing? That hurt my feelings I'm so depressed and embarrassed today. Any reasons why?

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3 mo

Edit***** they didn't ask I sent them to keep them Interested because I could feel them not being very in contact with me. I thought this would help but embarrassingly both blocked me damn :(

[Master_Debator]

I stopped playing on those sites a while back but I'll try to speak on it. Most of the girls that did that were just trying to get me to go to their onlyfans page or hit me with their Amazon shopping list. Then the rest that I'll consider "real" would be mentally ill, seemingly on drugs, or literally have no intentions beyond getting attention.

I'm not saying that was you, but try to understand why both of them probably started thinking that was you. I mean on those sites, that's the majority of what we get out of those sites and that's just for those of us that get any girl to swipe right at all... which means pretty much every girl swipes right for those guys. So there is that factor too... these are guys that gets all kinds of girls due to how photogenic they are or even better yet... that's not even them and they're using pictures they pulled off the internet to see if they can get any attention at all!

My gold mine ended with the end of Craigslist personals... where it was filled with women desperate for some dick and they were down to meet up sooner than later. Don't get me wrong there was a bunch of homos on there using fake pictures and asking for cock pictures which real females simply never ask for. I still had to vet my choices.

Honestly though I think you may of just come on too strong... so strong they didn't even think you were real. I mean make a fake male profile and hop on Adultfriendfinder and find out if you don't believe me. You'll get hit with fake profile after another fake one real quick like and then find silence. You might of come off as one of them.

Chances are they jerked off to your pictures and then blocked you. Chances are they thought that was the penicle of what they'd get with you. Enough material to blow a load and then move on before you hit them with the website link that they were probably expecting to hear about. Like I mentioned before, if they weren't catfishing you, they're dead ass seriously used to being catfished. I've gone out to meet girls and those women looked nothing like their pictures... I got some real horror stories I could share where that happened.

The online game was successful for me, but I met nothing but cheating women that were not relationship material to be honest. There is a reason I slowly just quit clam hunting online at all. I'm sure I could hit the weights for a few months and pull some more, but the juice isn't worth the squeeze... it's not worth the effort. So consider those guy's mindsets might of been like mine as well. Oh... some nudes... beat session starts up and ends up finishing to some videos that don't even have you in it. Post nut clarity kicks in and they ghost you. "Next!" when the mood strikes again.

[MrOracle]

I can't give you any definitive answers as to why they ghosted you, but there are a few probable possibilities.

• They were looking for something serious and you proved that you weren't relationship material.
• They were just looking for attention and/or to see what they could get from a woman online - without wanting to risk anything in the real world
• They weren't local, and so they bailed out when meeting IRL was the next logical step.
• They didn't find you physically attractive enough (this is the least likely of the probable answers, but it IS a possibility).

You didn't state what YOU were looking to get out of this, but I get the strong impression that what you hope to gain doesn't align with how you are behaving online and other choices you are making.

In your 20s, you could get away with making plenty of mistakes and most of the time, things still worked out OK for you. Those days are behind you, and now, in your 30s, you will be held accountable for your choices and behaviors, and your outcomes will be pretty directly reflected by them. The "get out of jail free" card that your youth provided you has expired, and you have to be an adult now, and act like one.

[youkhlat3002]

dating apps are weird, guys want easy sex for the least work. and i mean the leassst work. it might have nothing to do with the images you sent. going forward though don't send NSFW images to anyone - and i mean anyone. esp in this day and age where anything can be altered. once its out there you've no control over it. dont feel down though, at least you didn't sleep with them and they ghost. lesson learnt

[FreyaRed]

"Usually the reactions have been positive and they stick around..."
Well, not this time.

[techgirl7]

Jesus, I thought you were 18-25 age range. Lesson learned: don't send nude pictures or videos to random men to gain or keep their interest. Reserve that for a man that you're actually in a serious relationship with. You have no idea how many men collect thousands upon thousands of naked pictures of any women for their "spank bank", with no real interest or care for any of the women. Free porn websites also exist for this reason.

source: life experience and I repair computers for a living

[Anonymous]

lol I love how the women said men use women. This is t about using. They didn’t use you for a damn thing. You sent unsolicited “doc” pics to which sure a lot of men would like that. But too there’s men who don’t, especially if they’re looking for something serious. Maybe that’s what these two men were looking for. So when you sent those pics it told them all they needed to know about you. That you’re a whore who they should steer clear of.

[Cyfris]

Likely you gave up your value by sending those pics and went from a girl I could potentially love to just another whore on the internet. Sending nudes is such a value move it will drive away most high value men.

[Drumlin2001]

So you sent unsolicited nudes and expected that to encourage them to keep talking? If there was someone who you weren't vibing with who sent you a dick pic would it change your mind?

[beenherebefore]

Well, you shouldn't be sending nudes to men who are not committed to you. You're giving off the wrong impression and putting them off.

[Nikki1989]

Men use women all the time. Don't be that sucker.

[Brady]

Maybe they didn't want their SOs 2 find out. Maybe they changed their minds about wantin 2 meet up n blockd u.

[Alex-Snow]

They might want to sell them or just use them to jerk off to

[NerdGuy89]

If you just sent them to “keep them in contact” they saw how easy you are to sleep with and no man wants that

[ABC1x1x]

Either you aren't attractive or they already got what they wanted

[Anonymous]

they think you are a whore I would guess. Too easy

[queenofcardio]

Maybe they thought your pictures were fake.

[Anonymous]

They didn't like your body

[Mike_Hum]

cause they got what they wanted.

[Lucianmagnus]

cause they wer corny men