Do men have less need to vent?

[Anonymous]

My man holds space for me all the time and never gives me a chance to do the same. Does this mean he doesn't feel comfortable, or does he not have same need to talk things through?

How can I support him if he has had a tough day or challenge?

[OneViewpoint]

Oh no, men need to vent all the time. But virtually all women cannot handle men venting. And there's no point venting to other men because they are going through the same shit. Men are trained from birth to take that shit to our graves. So we keep it bottled up internally. Some men are successful at that. Some men eventually break because of it. But as a woman, count on never knowing what any man is dealing with for the rest of your life.

[236color]

When men vent it is either perceived as childish or dangerous. Neither of which is helpful, so we keep it to ourselves.

[Asker]

Is there anything a partner/wife can do to make it easier, other than avoid judgement?

[236color]

That's going to be tough. You fighting against years of conditioning. Not judging is good, expressing willingness to listen without insisting "vent to my now". It may take years, and pushing is counter productive. Lastly, if you use anything he told you against him, it will never happen again.

[Asker]

Thank you! Will try to be a safe space for him

[Nikki1989]

So you haven't been on here for long.

Men whine all the time.

[jahaims]

We tend to solve the problem instead of wasting energy. Solving the problems feels good, not bitching about it while doing nothing to fix it and ignore advice

[Agape93]

Nope