Why are black girls the least desirable? (Page 4)

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Why is it that black girls are the most undesirable? (For non-black guys)I'm seeing a lot of negative things being said about black women in the media (mainly online). I even saw a forum thread dedicated to how black girls are the ugliest. Sure there are racist people that will say that other races are ugly, but black girls get the most heat. I've seen a lot of black girls ask similar questions, and people just think we're imagining things. I mean, look at the marriage rates. Black women are the least married race. I've heard people say that even black guys don't want black women.

This issue is causing my already low-self esteem to plummet to uncharted territories, even though I think I'm pretty compared to most black girls but not so pretty according to regular beauty standards (if that makes sense). My school is mostly white, but the few black girls that go there don't have boyfriends, and to me they are pretty and seem intelligent. Boys aren't everything and at our young age it's better to be more concerned with our academic and career goals, but I feel so discouraged when it comes to dating (keep in mind that I live in a predominately white area).  

In conclusion, I would like to know what it is about black girls that's so unattractive? (BE HONEST, answer anonymously if you must, and don't feed me any crap about "preferences" because in most cases I find that there is underlying racism behind this so-called racial preferences).

jacquesvol · Answer

Does a majority really believe black girls to be unattractive?:-o

I've also seen unattractive black girls of course, but in general they're pretty. All other things (kindness, intellect, her tastes and interests) being the same, I would prefer a black girl. (I'm white and happily married to a white woman in an area with 95% or so white people. When we met it was 100% white. Europe, you know...) To be completely honest, I'd rather bite(very softly!) in black skin than in white skin. Just more appetizing.

WeaponZero · Answer

There's nothing wrong with black girls at all, physically. In fact the way their bone structure is, it makes their curves generally more pronounced and gives the illusion of a toned physique even if there really isn't one, and that's sexy. My problem is with the uneducated-sounding way most of them seem to talk, and don't get me wrong I've known lots of white girls who talk that way too but honestly I could NEVER date a girl who talked that way. That and, to be honest, there is a stereotype about black girls that may or may not be true but I'm a little weary of it, the fact that they generally have bad attitudes. Yes I know, its bad to listen to stereotypes and I shouldn't be, but this one just gets to me for some reason.

But yeah, if I ever met a black girl who spoke in a way that made her sound educated and didn't seem to have the "attitude" commonly associated with black girls, I wouldn't really pay attention to the fact that she was black at all.

SemiShy · Answer

Honestly, I think it has to do a lot with a guy's family. In my family, I wouldn't be able to bring a black girl home. It would be incredibly awkward. A lot of parents would be pissed if there son hooked up with a black chick. Also, there are physical features that men have been told are beautiful, white skin for example,  also bright, colorful hair, full red lips. It could also have to do with some deeper more primal themes. Many black women are portrayed as powerful, independent, and strong; this could be a turn off for many guys who still think it's their duty to protect and care for their woman. Although, the answer could be much simpler, you might just hang out with a bunch of douche bags?

thelittlethings · Answer

I think it is more about personality.  I am not racist so please don't take offense to this anyone.  But black people are generally louder.  They say exactly what they think without thinking about it.  When someone pisses them off the entire room will know because they will scream at you not caring who hears.  I am not saying this is a bad thing and it's a very big generalization because I hang out with a lot of black girls and some of them are very shy and quiet and I know a lot of white girls who are just as loud.  But I don't think guys like to be overshadowed and shown up.  Black girls will stand up for themselves and they will kick a guys ass if he messes up.  Every one of my exes didn't like me when I stood up for myself.  They prefered the quiet girls who just took things as they came, and didn't make a big deal of things and got over them faster, they could f*** up more with less consequences.

HikerDude · Answer

The problem is that even if a black woman is attractive, her attitude is usually a major turn-off. Black girls are among the haughtiest and most self-centered women out there, and that's saying something, given that attractive white girls are a pretty tough pill to swallow themselves.

I've seen so many overweight, moderately attractive black women proclaiming how hot they are, and that just puts me off in so many ways. It's like they have zero self-awareness in addition to a sense of narcissism. If you're a 250-pound girl, you're not attractive, period. Same goes for guys. If you're a 350-pound guy, you're unattractive. It is what it is whether you like it or not. Telling the world you're hot when you don't really take care of yourself just makes you look foolish and clueless.

Esisso · Answer

Thank you for bringing this up because I notice that me and my guy friends are less attracted to black girls too and that there is racism. In addition to racism, Guys like soft, shiny hair, high pitched, quiet female voices, and minimal fat flabs (except for above average but not saggy boobs) because these represent vibrant health and more feminine-ness. Black girls tend to have rough, not so shiny hair, loud, lower pitched voices than white/latino girls and more fat. Also, black girls are suspected to be less likely to take the once monthly birth control shot (which guys want girls, especially black girls, to take because there is a stereotype of the pregnant black girl) then white girls and black girls tend to have less money. Also, black girls have a lower average age of reaching puberty than white girls and there is the assumption that this means that they're more likely to not be a virgin. Sorry, but guys are mean like that.

attractiveontarioguy · Answer

first off I would presume you live in the "good ole us of a"...=tons of racism. not so much here in canada and I can speak for myself when I say I LOVE black women. send me a pic if you REALLY want me to judge funstuff01@hotmail.com but seriously, fk em if they ain't into you, racist bastards

djvegapowell · Answer

Omg lol isn't it obvious. This is obviously a white girl who's lashing out at black girls because her WHITE boyfriend left her for a black girl or either her crush is crushing on a black girl. At first you sounded like a curious white girl but then you changed your tone lmao, what black girl would that low about them selves. I'm a guy and I'm sexy as f*** and white girls love me ...but I'm gay the white guys flock too but I'm more interested in blacks and Mexicans because we're more real. Sorry that's the way I feel.. but honestly at the end of the goshdang day people are going to be attracted to whoever even if they don't act on it. That's just the way it is. :/

Deathecutioner · Answer

Let me first say I am not racist.

I also do not find "black girls" attractive.

Alright.. I'm not saying I don't find most attractive. There are very few if any that I can say I find atractive. But the same istrue for me for asain girls.

Im only talking about looks though.

When it comes to personality and adittued. I usally don't like the way they tend to act. However I'm sure that they don't all act the same way but I have yet to find one that isn't annoying, loud and obnoxious and rude.

Say what you want but I personally find it very difficult to find black woman that I find attractive.

Deathecutioner

Caliboy · Answer

You said be honest, so I will.

I don't like black girls because I don't think they are attractive. This goes for most non-white girls.

There are some exceptions but for the most part I really only find girls that are a high percentage white attractive.

You mentioned race. Is it because I am racist? Possibly. I don't hate non white girls or people. I am not racist in a sense that I think white people are better than everyone else. I just don't think they are attractive.

Bottom line, Attraction isn't a choice. People don't get to chose who they think is attractive.

Anonymous · Answer

For me, it's about being attractive and feminine. I'm attracted to girls that are youthful, slender, firm breasts, and a tight butt. I also like them to have poise. I have seen a few (very few) black girls that are like this, and I could fall for them.

However, most black girls that I've met are ghetto as f***. They have the ghetto accent, they're out of shape, wear baggy clothes, think they're the sh*t, loud as f***, and listen to nothing but boosie and wayne. They have no poise and are uncultured. It's not about being black or white, it's about being ghetto. I also don't like ghetto white girls, I have higher standards then that.

Put this into perspective, I'm not racist. My two best friends are black and puerto rican. I've been with a black girl once and she was wasn't ghetto. She wore nice clothes and presented herself like a female should. That's all I'm looking for.

yeths · Answer

i disagree with what you're trying to do, you cannot look to the internet to get the answers for that, some people are going to be even more cruel and blow your self esteem further, you ever wondered why Oprah and other famous people don't reply to critics, because it is not important. You need to visit sitesthat build self esteem, it seem you are looking in all the wrong places. No one has the authority to speak on which race is rough or cute gimme a break, some whites, Chinese , blacks all have their nice looking and ugly people. WHO CARES!  a sad group of people will like you to care but you are wasting your time. YOU ARE WHAT EVER YOU FEEL! LOOK AT OPRAH, HALLE BERRY they don't give a sh*t they just live the life they were given!

23wavvy · Answer

iight foreal if anything I find black women to be more desirable over all other races I always have and I'm puerto rican there's jus something about them, they seem more confident and independent and I love that about them they don't take bullsh*t they're fly and they're more real than any other race I've been wit straight up (no offense) that's why I'm wit a black girl right now yooo! forget what everybody else gotta say I love black women

Track4roy · Answer

I'm sorry but I'm attracted to all race. It doesn't matter where you come from if the guy loves you and she gives her all and they communicate well to proceed to a longterm relationship. Then it's ment to be. It's hard for women to find the right girl, and vice versa .  Just because the rates show that doesn't mean that the whole world is in it. it's just stats. Everyone is raised differently. An example some people hate rap, some love it. Some like country some don't. I like missionary positions some like doggie. See everyone has different opinions.

SLL2019 · Answer

I am a white female and I think that a lot of black women are absolutely gorgeous... the thing is why they don't have a long married relationship is because black women are very strong a very independent they won't stay around and put up with any bodys shit... ya know... And I mean that as the highest compliment...  that is an excellent thing... very excellent thing... I would be building my self esteem on that you are a very strong beautiful black woman and you know what you want and you won't settle for less or let someone take advantage of you on the way to getting what you want. Black women are the mentally and emotionally strongest women I know and I envy them for that! You should feel very blessed... the right man will come along I promise some man down the road will worship you for your values and your bluntness and independentness...

kisi85 · Answer

I am a straight white girl, and personally don't date guys that aren't white, as a personal preference. But I know a hot guy when I see one, regardless of race! As for black girls, Most I have seen I consider to be very attractive! Some people have said some nasty, racist things on here. Just know you are beautiful, and look in the mirror, and look at yourself and tell yourself you are beautiful! Race doesn't matter...ok, easy for me to say. I am white (although, part Pakistani, part Irish too though, so very fair!) and English. I think racism against blacks is more commonplace in the US then London. Funnily enough. I am caucasion in a mostly afro caribbean area of London!

So, race to me doesn't matter...it's about the person inside, to me!

jennifermusick3237 · Answer

well my boyfriend, who is white, has told me many stories about being with black girls sexually and relationship wise, and he just tells me that black girls have a smell to them that make them unattractive, all of them, not bad hygeine, or anything like that, its just black women, that is it. I don't know if this is answering your question, or anything, but I'm just telling you what I know. or what he supposedly knows. but he grew up in st. louis and grew up with mainly all black women and men. sooo...yeah. that's all I have to say.

paintballguy · Answer

I haven't been around many black women that was my age to start with. In my school there was only 1 black boy and no black girls until the middle of the 8th grade. They never got treated any differently and color was never an issue. We all hung out together, played ball and went to the school dances...I even danced with her. They was both cool as hell to hang out with. I am still friends with both of them.

After school the few black women I have talked to or been around in my age group was rude, loud, ghetto and obnoxious. I wouldn't have given them the time of day, but it is due to the they act and not their color...I would ignore any girls that acted that way. On a sexual level I don't like big boobs and most of the black girls I have known my age have really big boobs. I mean really big...watermelon size.

freedomlives · Answer

I'm black and i`m far from being ghetto or a hoodrat , I think that some black are raised up yo believe that the stereotypes are all they can measure up to be , but it`s so un true . I know I can be loud , but not in public loud , i`m quite and shy sometimes , I don`t have a black girl body ( sad ) like the shapely cruves and big ass . I mean I do have big boobs ( 34 / 36 D ) and a size 3 body . Many would kill to have my body , I live in oakland were everybody like everybody , but there are some people who stick to their races . I guess the bay area is more liberal than other places , but yes a lot of people out here LOVE black women girl so don`t get yourself down and i`m pretty sure your beautiful because mixed kids are beautiful I actually want my kids to be half asian or half mexican or latino ( I do know the different , it`s just it`s mostly mexicans in oakland ) so yeah . F them losers they`re just missing out on a good thing

EvilPimp · Answer

They aren't. Black people are the most negatively stereotyped in history. Black women need to stop buying into the negative stereotyping and just be themselves. Black children are born everyday in the world so That means that someone must be attracted to them Now even though I attract other races of women, I don't get worried if I'm attracting them or not, nor do I go out my way to date a particular race. Color doesn't matter to me.If I meet a woman that I like and we click and she happens to be black, Latino, white, etc, then so be it.

kettle84 · Answer

Honestly. I'm a white guy, well mostly white with a bit Greek tan lol. But if I'm very honest, I don't find black women attractive. And maybe 2 I fought yer there hot, but then I think about fact id have to be around a black family and I've found most black men are bully's and thugs. So ether way I stay clear. Black guys only like white girls because they give blow jobs where most black girls don't.

same as black guys won't go down on a girl where white guys do, hence more black women going for white guys. That's my opinion

floydmartyres08 · Answer

Well, I'm attracted to women of all races and cultures (as long as they fit what I look for). I like black women too, but yeah most of my friends are "scared" of black women or least attracted to them, and I just don't get why

They complain mostly of:

1. Hair

2. Physical structure

3. A "Slut" Stereotype.

4. Some just find them too black :(

The hair can be fixed.

Physical structure well, I've never considered that a problem, (so black women look like they can take care of business on their own, when was that a problem?)

The Slut stereotype, well that's thanks to p*rn I guess.

Well, if you're black, you're black, and anyone that hates you just because you're black isn't worth it anyway.

LonelyEmperor · Answer

Well, you said to don't feed you crap about preferences, but in my case it is the truth.

I prefer the european beauty, so mostly white girls...

But as you asked for a reason, and I don't want to sound racist, which I am not, actually I lost my virginity with a black girl (that was probably unnecessary to say, but ok...), what I really dislike in black women is the nose, the large nose I mean and MAYBE and JUST MAYBE the hair, because if the girl knows how to uses her hair with style, there is no problem too... besides that, I see no problem in black women... I even have a theory that black girls have a facility to keep their body in shape, I obviously don't have any statistics or stuff like that, it's just my impression... Of course maybe that's just because I live in Brazil, so here I see lots of black girls and most of them with perfectly attractive bodies :)

Johnnyboy84 · Answer

I got to disagree, they're not any more or less desirable than any other girl. Each man has his own taste in women. I used to think that it was black girls who didn't like white men which may be the common misunderstanding on this subject, both seem to think because of skin colour the other wouldn't be interested. I've been put off before as being a shaved headed white guy I thought black girls wouldn't be even slightly interested but I was proved wrong. Its actually the opposite, a lot of white guys find black girls more attractive. Just its a subject that's hard to openly discusss as race issues have always been a hard subject to tackle.

4everbebe · Answer

IM A PROUD BLACK GIRL and I get a omG your gorgeous or you are very respectful girl and all that other stuff, I'm sorry but F**k with those racist ass people saying, They are just haters and if they do not like black girls that there problem there a lotta man out there who would want a black female. So when I hear oh black women or this or that I just ignored it, because DON'T NO ONE KNOW A BLACK GIRL LIKE ANOTHER BLACK FEMALE DO. so its whatever.

Excuse me if I sound rude, but I am Black girl and when I see people talk so lowly of my fellow Black females, I get kind of p*ss off lol

~GorgeousblackDeesse~

TaurusFemmeFatale · Answer

I know many Caucasian males who prefer Black Women.  What I think is sad, is that you're desperately trying to get the attention of Caucasian males. I understand there is a shortage of African American males in your school, but this should not plummet your self-esteem. Maybe the men in your school choose to date women within their race. It's not always a bad thing. Do not take it too personal. Another reason why you probably have not attracted a White male is because you are thinking about it too much! I am a Black Woman. I have  never been in a relationship with someone outside my race...but I have always been approached by White males.  But if they didn't approach me, my self esteem certainly would not plummet!

sunspotmia · Answer

Black women get dumped on because that is how this petty society has it set up. Does it suck yes. Are you a victim... Only if you choose to be. So you're black, you're a person first. Stick your nose in the air and assume that you are just as good as anyone else on this green earth and when people see that you are not stigmatized by their bias they will know that you know that you can't be put down. Date persons who are cool with you as you are on the out side and on the inside, and don't let the thought, "Am I as good as they are?" even be a logical question in your mind. Because it's not logical, it's bull. 50% of the battle against bias is in YOUR head. Win that war and all you have to contend with is weeding through the losers in this world who accept that white is right. White is not right...That is just not logical... White , (or beige if you want to be a bit more accurate) is just another color.

Anonymous · Answer

underlying racism. I'm a black female and I get hit on by mostly white guys surprisingly. people that say that go by the stereotype for the ghetto hoodrat which of course is not all of us! then there are people who just are not attracted to african features, which is not racist just their preference. don't worry about trying to please other people. be the best you you can be and you will attract many guys.

people who say black guys don't want black women are dumb! there are many arm chair psychologists who discuss things without knowing what they're talking about that. the biggest "experts" on black people are the ones who barely know any in real life or can't be racist because they have that 1 black friend lol. laugh it off sweetie they are the ones who are ignorant. don't let people like that determine your self worth

Anonymous · Answer

There's one thing that is unattractive about black women and one thing only: STEREOTYPES!!! I will explain some of the facts about black women...

Most black women have very symmetrical faces and are super duper pretty.

Many black women have nice development in their thighs and buttocks

Black women tend to be very kind and sweet, and are usually receptive to men being gentlemen and cute. I did a social experiment, where I blew kisses to random girls. White women were disgusted, and generally black women were flattered

Race is not just some fun thing to think about like the color shirt you wear that day. It is a big part of our identity. Dating outside our race can be very intimidating and a lot to get used to. Some things that white men often wonder about:

Could I date a woman with that kind of hair? Will my d*ck be big enough to satisfy? What will my parents and friends think? What will it be like to be with a black woman and a black baby if she gets pregnant?

AmieMangeDesOurs · Answer

I'm an asian girl so this isn't really directed to me but desirability has nothing to do with race. If an individual is attractive enough, physically and emotionally, racial barriers would mean nothing. I know many black women who are very rude and very loud. I think it's great when people stand up for what they believe in but many black women don't know when it's appropriate and when it isn't appropriate to be loud. Good luck, and you shouldn't have low self esteem because your a certain race. Never be ashamed of who you are!

Tinkerbell_13 · Answer

honestly I feel the same way and I have always wanted to know myself why black women are the least desirable...simply because all of my expieriences with white guys were "lets not tell anyone that we're dating but I still like you and want to have sex with you." type of thing. then when I started dating black guys they always took me for granted. I wonder if its just me or if it really is a race thing because I don't fit the typical stereotype of black women either in fact a lot of of black women excluded me a lot in school because I didn't act like them.

boribori90 · Answer

Well, where I come from, I have had exposure to many difference races of women, although it's still mostly white, and here is what I have to say:

I find black women the least approachable. This may be because I am asian/white and act both very Asian and very White, but I think it does have to do in part because of the way stereotypical black women act. These women who are very loud, defiant, and into gangster/tough guy types are intimidating.

But if I were to meet a black girl who acted more like me and I could be comfortable around her, she would be absolutely no different than any other girl.

Physically though, I am not so much into the really darked skinned ones, but I find that a lot of black women have rockin' bodies! it's crazy!

skycat · Answer

Honestly, there are a lot of people out there who are racist. And yes, I've noticed a lot of black guys like white chicks. Whatever. I've seen in my time as well a few men (white) who like all sorts of non-white girls. People are usually more confortable dating within their race though. There are many types of people out there. And the concept the black women are ugly, I've seen so many black stunners... oh well. I'm from Canada, if you're from the States things may be different, but that's my POV.

ayerhockee · Answer

im an african american girl and I tend to attract mostly white guys (especially jewish guys, for some reason). but anyway I'm full black, not mixed at all, but people often tell me that I attract white guys because I have "white features", not typical black features. I have a small nose, average size lips, I'm pretty thin, no real booty or curves :( , also I'm fairly shy & quiet...people say I'm "built like a white girl". so I don't really know if being a black women is the problem or maybe its just the "white features" that the media glorifies.

dhendable · Answer

I don't know about the rest of you white gents out there, but for me the issue was never that black girls were unnatractive or that there was any huge social stigma against me dating one, for me it was just that i never saw it, so i never even considered or looked at women of colour as potential relationship partners. Over time i think that could/possibly had have turned into a strong personal preference towards white girls, but ever since i had moved out of my whitewashed world back home to Ottawa i slowly came around to the idea of interracial dating. Of course, i'm now rounding up on my 1 year anniversary with my Polish/Slovak girlfriend, but if anything happened (god forbid) i don't see myself having a problem dating the right black girl.

ofallthings · Answer

for me at least it's because I have so little in common with most black females around where I've grown up.

they all seem to fit that old "undereducated, rap listening, pot smoking black person" stereotype, and I personally like a girl with a brain, who likes music that isn't about drugs and gangs and that, as for the pot I don't care, but 2/3 is a fail.

other than who they seem to be (where I am), they are usually physically attractive, nice butt, chest, and pretty faced

i guess it's all who you know and where you grow up

Anonymous · Answer

Don't believe the media if you spam it enough times while making yourself look convincingly smart people are going to eventually slightly believe you I am saying I have fallen in love with to many black girls to just ignore them... and I am white I just feel like they are not attracted to me.

therockcomic · Answer

IM sorry you feel this way about this. Don't let it get to your self esteem. And STOP classifying "Black beauty" and "regular beauty." Its the same. And the thing you realize as you get older(im assuming your in high school by context of question) is that what makes someone truly beautiful is the kind of person they are. So work on being the best person you can be and when the right guy comes along...he won't be able to find anyone whos more beautiful to him.

Oh and by the way..

Im Irish Italian. And I'm dating a black girl right now. I think she's great (although I will admit she has a shorter temper than even the spanish girls I've dated). But I've never just classified any race as unattractive. Its on an individual basis. I've seen ugly in every color lol!

Keep your chin up!

Appleater · Answer

Well I have a black friend and he doesn't think most black girls are hot and neither do I, BUT if a black girl is hot we both agree that she's really hot. Like we were at a club and there was this black chick there that was gorgeous, but it's rare. I'd say I'm only attracted to a tiny percentage of black girls. Not trying to hurt anybody's feelings. I think it's kind of the same with Asian chicks. A lot of them aren't hot but I would choose a hot Asian over anything else and I'm white. Sadly, where I live almost everyone is white, like well over 90% so not many asians to choose from. For me white girls can just be ok whereas other races they're either hot or not. I don't think this makes much sense but whatever that's how it is for me.

rudyhuxt · Answer

I have to admit that there are some very truthful, honest and educated comments regarding this question.  So instead of repeating what has alreaady been said I will just comment on something that I do not believe has been brought up.  Yes, most the peopleon this site may not be racist BUT their parents grew up in a different time and they may be.  Most people care what their parents think and I have experienced white men that like me and think I am beautiful but have told me straight up they couldn't see bringing a black girl home to their families.  For some reason Asian women are acceptable but not black or hispanic to bring home to mom.

TOXiCLOV3 · Answer

I don't think black girls are ugly, just like every other race, some white bitches are fugly lol Chinese, mexican, it don't matter all races have somewhat an ugly person... but I'm white, my ex who is also white told me him and his new girlfriend wanted to come kick it so I was like sure whatever, and he texted me like "She is black, don't be racist!" PFT as if I'm racist! he goes around calling his own "white" mom a Ni****. so this girl and him show up and DAMN, This girl was way pretty for a black girl, It just depends, take good care of yourself, your skin, and you are just as beautiful. Every race has their own unique qualitys that make them beautiful!

undecided_beach_chic · Answer

I am  a white girl, but do truly believe black girls are really beautiful, my freinds often say how they wish they were darker, I don't believe that there any less desirable guys that think that are obviously shallow and not worth your time, if your smart and are confident in your own skin your attractive :) ( this might be a sterotype but there's a hell of a lotta excelently amazing black singer's and dancers and there all really gorgeous :) and extreamly talented (I envie that ) don't be to hard on yourself you probly just haven't met the right boys yet who value you for your amazgingly fantastic self :) and unique vales and traits that no other gurlz have)

Gianni · Answer

Sweetheart be proud of your culture...forget the asses that believe black women aren't attractive. I guarantee you that America is probably the only place in the world where you would be considered ugly. Black women have been known for being strong and somewhat domineering in your homeland but considering everything and the fact that they had to fight for everything then it is to be expected.

Where I live in the Caribbean being a black women is more than the colour of our skin, here we are intelligent, gentle but firm when need be, wonderful life partners, proud mothers, leaders of countries, doctors, lawyers, humanitarians, teachers, artistes in every sense of the word and a beautiful people. Ignore them and remember that you come from a long line of women just like that.

Not everywhere in the world is the standard for beauty long straight hair, a straight nose, thin lips, coloured eyes, fake breasts, skinny hips, collegen and a flat bottom.

thompson75 · Answer

I'm black, and I like black women. However, here are the issues that I have:

1) It takes forrevvver for them to have sex. Not that they're NOT sluts, but it's just lame to me to be so NON-carefree about things.

2) They seem to have a lot of respect for thugs, which a) I am not, and b) I think is corny

3) They are not always as fit and toned as they need to be. (I've got like 3 - 4 total that go to my gym)

4) The really hot ones all seem to live in Atlanta and Virginia. What's up with that? They like migrate down there after high school. WTH?!

Anyway, I see you've got like a billion responses, so you're probably sick of the opinions. But, keep your head up, and know that there are Many guys out there, black, white, and other that should most definitely want to date you. Maybe it's just your location... or maybe one (or more) of my comments above. Good luck!

memo1989 · Answer

im black girl but I'm from arabian world, you should know that a lot of guys doesn't like a black girls  because they thought they're ugliest but they're wrong in my city black girls are the hottest .. hotter and more beautiful then some white girls.. look I don't say that white   girls are ugliest but there's something called ( NO one perfect ) as  an example ( a white girl is hot but she's ugly from inside Or a white girl she's fat and also ugly ) white Or black it doesn't matter  Because all of them are humans and you can't find this days a girl she's beautiful from outside & inside her soooooooooo you should know that No one perfect and if your white or black guy and she's  black or white girl it doesn't matter, you like her and she likes you, and black guys a lot of them are dumbs they're looking for sex .. but not all of them... thank you ^___^

Newport100 · Answer

But anyway today I met the sweetest girl and she happened to be black. Of course due to my perpetual shyness towards any female of the human species...after all the flirting and question asking, all I did was shake her hand and tell her "you are so nice" and walked away. She was a true ray of sunshine in my usual gloomy cloud covered day. lol. Yep, I;m a dick sometimes. sad but true.

AzaleaDimitrionazxo · Answer

BLACK GIRLS A BEAUTIFUL! I'm latino and you have full lips curves that are just amazing! I think the whole black race is gorgeous! I prefer black men over any other race, and as I said before black women are gorgeous so sassy and just sexy. Keep your head up girl stand up for you and others don't listen to idiots!

randyc · Answer

I see where you are coming from. I personally think black girls are gorgeous. One of my best friends and first crushes is black, I still have feelings for her and we hang out almost every Tuesday. I never actually asked her out tho, not because she wasn't pretty or anything at all. It was her dad. For some reason Black Male Fathers always "appear" threatening to a lot of people whether they want to admit it or not.

MrXYZ · Answer

I'm sorry, I had to actually laugh at this post to myself, only because I'm a black male and I've come to ask myself why I do not find majority of black women attractive as I do with other women. I can never get the answer I want from just looking at them or talking to them for that matter. It's not the hair, it's not the butt, it's not the chest. Something about their personality that just keeps lingering. See some I dislike because they are excessively loud, they dominate over me because I'm shy. Some just give me this weird vibes, like "I'll hurt you if you try anything stupid." Then the ones whom I do prefer just seem like they have it all already, they don't need anyone in their lives. So I just tend not to bother talking to them.

Anonymous · Answer

First off, I just want to say that I'm so happy this question got so much attention. I am not black, but I'm persian and I deal with stereotypes all the time, some pertaining to my looks.

I live in StL, and there are a lot of black men and women who live here. Also, a lot of those people live in the poorer areas, as in within the heart of the city. That is not to say that some also live in richer areas. So, some stereotypes have to do with nuture.

Unfortunately, stereotypes against blacks are so degrading. However, some blacks seem to build upon that by using irrational anger and degrading themselves by stupidity.

You however, are not doing that and are obviously much more intelligent by that. I'm sorry that you deal with stereotypes. I just hope that you realize that you're better than all of the stereotypes and racism. You are obviously intelligent, and I bet you are beautiful because you seem like a really beautiful person.

Stay strong dear!

Julian · Answer

I don't find this venue to be a place that is going to be very affirming for any WoC. And I recommend you surround yourself with people who see you as beautiful just as you are. Below I recommended one site called "Racialicious" and there are so many more: The Feminist Texican, Womanist Musings, and all the blogs they link to. I would never send any of my Black woman friends here! I find this place generally too white-dominated.

Littletad · Answer

Oh hell no. I've been interested in many different woman. Perhaps the most desirable, or at least the top of my list were 2 black girls. Sadly I did nothing more than heavy physical flirting, but I remember them very much. So I don't think black girls are less desirable at all, and I'm mostly Hispanic.

1995girl · Answer

How about the question you should ask is why do some people like  feel the need to hate on certain others? Some might find African Americans unattractive, while others would find them beautiful. Though I'm not black, I do wish I had their amazing figures and strong attitude. And who gives a crap about what the media says? I don't think black people are ugly, nor 'divas' how some might call them as. I have this friend in school, and she's black, but she's extremely beautiful and the nicest person ever. Don't let media, or online people make you feel down :) I know some guys who only go for black girls because they like everything about them.

inlovewithamexican · Answer

First off that's definitely not true it just depends on the preference of a different men. Most men that are intimidated but love black women you can meet on line because they are more comfortable with meeting you that way. I am in an interracial relationship which is my first in 26 years of my life where I'm black and he is Mexican and after opening my eyes past color it's about who you connect with not color. As far as black men you don't have to date them there are many options unless black men are your preference. Don't settle for any man that can't see your potential because this world is bigger than what it seems.

Mande1985 · Answer

I'm not a guy.. and not bi or gay but do find beauty in women. I live near New Orleans and see that the black girls here are beautiful. I also.. for some reason... have a "ghetto booty"... which in the end... I find black guys and white guys white a big ass obsession love. I have met more black girls in my time who were married or dated a white guy. So, don't get discouraged. You'll find that there are probably a lot of white guys who find you attractive but won't say so because of the stigma of mixing races or dating outside of race (which I find dumb as hell).

So, to the guy who said that black girls are the ugliest... probably himself is ugly. I do hope as you get older come into your own and feel more better about yourself. If I were near I would hug ya girl!

MsNikki_Nicole · Answer

well there's all kind of people in the world with all kind of opinions just be happy with yourself don't worry about what people might say or think I have a bunch of guy friends of all colors most of them like black girls some don't  one of my brothers doesn't not like black girls btw I'm black I've asked him why he pretty much said he can't handle them he like girls who jump when he says jump he said they are too hard to control pretty much if you don't have a mind of your own he doesn't want you which he finds most black girls to have you can't please anyone sterotypes are sterotypes sadly most people believe them like I've been asked many times why I act white anyone care to explain me what white is thought you had to be born white to be/act white black girls come all different kind of ways just like everyone else but people seem to forget that

smallz660 · Answer

I'm sure that this isn't true in all places, but in my school all of the black girls hang out with the dumb "gangsters" and I am not interested in that type of girl. I know not all black girls are like the ones in my school, but whenever I see one I unconsciously group them with the dumb gangsters just because that's what I'm used to seeing. Although I know stereotyping is wrong, these stereotypes are there for a reason. Just try and distance yourself from that crowd. Try to get to know people better so they can see what your really like, and people will look past those stupid stereotypes.

misskiss17 · Answer

i can't say I understand because I don't

i can say, however, you have to think about backgrounds

a lot of people have arranged marriages

in my personal opinion there are a lot of black girls that I'm jealous of

tyra banks, halle berry, brandi, beyonce, and two of my best friends are those friends

you hate being around because you KNOW when you're around them you're the ugly one out of the group?yea, they're black and absolutely gorgeous.

if you are or aren't gorgeous, has nothing to do with your skin color, it has everything to do with who you are as a person.

some black guys I know, white girls is their thing, but just because

black guys will date white girls doesn't mean black women are less desireable.

as long as you're keeping up with yourself and you KNOW what you deserve, then you're desireable:)

CO_CO · Answer

Personally I think who you are attracted to has a lot to do with how/where you grew up and the things you were taught when you were younger. Growing up for me and most of my friends we were always taught to see people and not colour. But in my lifetime unfortuantaly I have come across people who were not taught the same things as myself and these tend to be the people who have negative things to say about other races. I went to a highschool in a small town that was 99% white, and I can honestly say that people of different races dated white people just as much as everyone else. It could be that your focusing on the issue a little too much or reading too far into it.

bbmmc · Answer

I'm not a guy, so I can't give you the answer you want, But I can tell you, as a white girl, I think that black w omen are so much more beaautiful. I mean, white men idolize the big breasts and voluptuous asses of white women, and personally I think black women are so much more beautiful. For one thing, they have amazingly gorgeous skin. I agree with you--I would want to know what's unattractive about black girls too, because I think theyre beautiful. I'm a straight white girl, and actually, many of the guys I know think black women are just as beautiful/hot. I'm really sorry this is getting to you...I know exactly how it feels for something to get to you so deeply.

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