Going on sixth date - what is he thinking?

[Anonymous]

hey guys so I've been seeing this guy for only a little over a month...we both met online, still have profiles up but neither of us have gone on in over two weeks (I'm not spying I swear, lol...my friend online noticed his profile hasn't been used lately...though that doesn't nec. mean anything I know) anyway, last two dates have been sleepovers and we have had sex (4th and 5th dates). we started very slow didn't kiss til 3rd date and all our dates have lasted for hours and hours and with great talks, etc...we don't just hook up...never do until end of night after we've done something beforehand. he's planning our next date, says we'll try to do an activity not just hang out at home as we have on our last two dates. he's really sweet but we both have a LOT of baggage from divorce and his is more recent. like really heavy stuff. so I am wary to make anything out of the fact that we are still hanging out. but of course sex makes things that much harder...though I don't regret sleeping with him...he's never made me feel used or unwanted or bad for it. just the opposite actually...he's a great cuddler and always calls me to plan next date shortly after. but we don't talk every day or even text every day. just a couple to a few times a week...and we only get together once a week, usually on a weekend. but we both are busy with work and family stuff. anyway, is it a good sign that we still are hanging out? does this mean he views me as potential girlfriend or too hard to say? I guess it's possible he could still be seeing other people but I really don't get that vibe...

[Anonymous]

the fact that he is asking you for another date shows at least that he enjoys your company and I don`t think it`s only for sex, he maybe wants to get to know you better.approach to it wisely without letting him think you are desperate but at the same time without making him think you are easy too.

good luck.

[Asker]

thank u! yeah that's the tuff part I want him to know how much I like him but don't want to come across desperate or pushy for sure!

[Opinion Owner]

you can show that to him with simple gestures that you care .he will understand.

[Anonymous]

He's thinking he likes your company and that he's glad to be having sex. Guys don't think very far into the future. Don't assume you're exclusive until he says so, by the way. Not saying things might not end up serious, but its doubtful if he even knows if they will at this point.

[Asker]

thanks for your feedback!

[dnately]

It sounds like you are having a perfectly good beginning of a relationship. It's hard for me to say how he views you, but it's clear that he is interested in exploring that question with you.

Relax.

[Asker]

thanks...i will try to relax lol! luckily I have this board to ask questions to so I don't ask him and freak him out lol

[Anonymous]

Just take it easy and relax. Overthinking is just going to make you anxious and drive him away.

[Asker]

thx for your reply yeah I am not going to ask him anything or act anything but cool around him as I know he'll run for the hills at this point otherwise lol