Guy says 'I'm bored entertain me'?

[Anonymous]

I was kinda offended when he asked me that. It has been a guy who I have been talking online through an online dating site. He says he is looking for a relationship. We talk on the phone now and asked if it was OK for him to call me babe. he ask how I am. But he always says I'm bored entertain me.. and then he has joked around coming over to cuddle.

Which I am not that kind of girl.. and I'm kinda pissed if he is just looking for a booty call. He doesn't do it all the time, but it has happened twice.

What should I do, should I tell him I'm not looking for a booty call that I am looking for a relationship, or not? I feel bad if this is him just flirting - any hints or advice.

[themastaplan]

youre not the kind of girl to cuddle? what does cuddling have to do with having sex?

why are you over analyzing? I mean don't get me wrong, I understand completely where you girls come from thinking that when ANY guy says they want to cuddle it means sex...well you're WRONG...i hate how those kind of guys screw it up for the normal guys who really are just trying to cuddle and be intimite WITHOUT having sex on the first date or whatever...

what should you do? lets start by not assuming he wants a booty call, got it? assumptions are bad and make an ASS out of You and ME hense the word (ASSuME)...anyways, just tell him you don't think you're quiet ready or comfortable enough for that...you'd like to go out somewhere before anything serious...i mean first date, with a guy over the internet, who you have NO idea who he really is, what he REALLY looks like and the thought crossed your mind to MAYBE go therE? no no no no no...NO...do the first date and second and third in a public place...REALLY get to know him and see his intensions...

TAKE IT SLOW, DONT ASSUME, DONT OVER ANALYZE...just go with the flow

[Asker]

he said want to cuddle and we will figure out the rest from there ;) that where I got the idea of sex. I know I don't want to jump to conclusion. I think I might do a friendly text today. yeah I want somewhere public we haven't met yet, and he is already saying cuddle and stuff.. it just got my flag up that's all.

[themastaplan]

ok well yeah that is def a red flag with the wink face and all that...be careful

[Asker]

should I say something then to him and just say I'm not into being a booty call or something. He said the cuddle thing today.

[themastaplan]

just say "lets take it slow"

[sfauo]

I wouldn't ever say that, because I'd expect the exact same reaction you had.

[Asker]

should I say something .. or just leave it? I dunno..

[sfauo]

If he only wants to talk to you when he wants to get physical or cuddle, that's a booty call. Otherwise, if you two talk normally, it's just him trying to be funny I guess. If you don't talk that much and he says this then he's pretty lame to be asking that.

I'd say just let ask him why he thinks you should entertain him, but only if he's done this a lot of times, since like you said it could be his way of flirting, as bad as it is. You could always flip the tables on him and ask him to do it.

[Asker]

lol you mean entertain me? we tallk so far every day or throughout the day then not talk for two days or three. He doesn't bring it up every time, he ask how I am.. but he kinda turns it that way. I'm not sure yet anyway if he contacts me just to imply that. if anything it starts out normal then it builds up.

[lottierose]

He could very easily just be flirting. If he has only said it twice, I wouldn't read too much into that. It's one of those lines that could be taken either as quite sexually or purely innocently (i.e. you're fun), and it's probably deliberatly ambiguous like that. I think it's just flirty, if he wanted a booty call I imagine he would be less subtle. And he probably only repeated it cause he thought it sounded good the first time.

Just respond with something jokey, but not necessarily *that* flirty if you don't want to encourage it. I think it's probably harmless, don't worry about it.

[Asker]

how will I know if I am booty call though. He said this to me want to cuddle and we will figure out the rest from there ;) and to come over to give him a back rub. this is only once or twice.. but how will I know. I know he doesn't take me at like 2 or three in the morning or anything. He just texts me that stuff during the day to.

[lottierose]

I think it's just flirty, like he's implying he would be interested in more, but seen as it's only a few times it's not all he is interested in. If that was all he wanted I think he would be more direct about that. Yeah he is interested physically, but also emotionally (seen as he is talking to you about other stuff) and surely that's what you want in a relationship? I think it is just flirty :)

[Asker]

ok I will stick it out. should I say something though if he keeps doing it? I wouldn't mind being intimate but after a few dates or at least meet each other face to face since this is online dating. I'm just not one of those girl to hop right in bed.

[lottierose]

That's fine, and I'm sure he doesn't expect you to. If you feel a bit uncomfortable with it, try saying something jokey but slightly dismissive of that idea. That way he might see how you feel without you needing to make it overly direct as he might not mean it seriously. If he carries on, tell him you feel uncomfortable with it, but give him the benifit of the doubt as it is in my eyes just flirting.

[Asker]

ok will do I will make it as a joke if it happens again :) and see waht he says.