I'm attracted to deep, complicated guys..are we all complicated?

[Anonymous]

I've been called an "old soul", I'm a Gemini so I overthink a lot, am very analytical, not very one dimensional, have trouble making up my mind, think and feel deeply about things though I have to really get to know a person before I can fully open up all my insides because they are complicated.

My friends and family tell me I'm complicated too :P ..great

And I find this affects my attractions with men, when it comes to liking guys, I don't like the cute funny guy my age. I usually like older men, men who aren't gorgeous but usually somewhat complicated/deep personalities. I notice they are strong willed and have this vibe that there is a lot under the surface.

None of my friends understand it either..recently dated an older guy (not parent old just 10 years up)and none of my friends understood, they thought he was old, and therefore unattractive, but he just really knew how to appeal to my mind and I felt a major personality and mental connection. And feeling that is what will turn me on and make me interested.

I notice it is a certain personality..I feel that my soul mate has to be someone deep, intelligent, complicated, strong..someone who can understand me and really discuss things.

I don't mean to sound snobby but sometimes I feel I meet a lot of guys who are great and nice but I don't feel that deep connection mentally..they are not so complex and therefore I feel like we can have fun but never truly understand each other.

does anyone else understand/feel this way? or am I just odd..?

[Marshall33]

Deep thinking, analytically skilled open minded men need not be complicated. They simply need to have a positive view on life and have learned from their past mistakes and experiences. You are not odd for wanting such but the mere fact you associate it with 'being complicated' could get you into trouble if a man has a troubled past, secrets galore, is secretive or borderline...so watch out. But in terms of enjoying the serious type of men well good for knowing what you personnally like and want. Simple does not mean boring nor stuipd though! Remember to keep an open mind about that too!

[Asker]

you are right..i do not mean to say simple is boring or stupid..just a more straight minded person. which is fine I just feel like people who are not deep thinkers and I will not really relate to each other in the long run. I would get frustrated that we can't see things in the same way or perhaps find someone like that too rigid.

[Daniel89]

i don't like complicated , people with to much rational information's in their head don't talk with emotion in their words and it makes thing bad.

[vmw2008]

As a fellow "old soul" Gemini, I know exactly what you mean. Although I had not as good of an experience dating an older man. He ended up being less mature than guys my own age in fact :/ Either way, I'd prefer to date guys a little older than me, but mostly they must be the deep, intelligent, strong man you described. Although maybe not as much of a worrier and overthinker as me haha

[Asker]

finally someone who can relate :) mine was childish and self absorbed but still had the "older man" mental factor which got me. I like older men now because I'm 21 but I think in a few years it will even out as the guys my age get older..i just feel like I relate to older guys better, and feel more of a mental connection with them, and without the mental connection I won't feel interested, but when I find it I stay interested for a LONG time.