It's kind of like my boyfriend doesn't appreciate me. It seems like hanging out with me is only an item on his checklist of things to do. He is over obsessed with sports, and therefore wastes all of his time and energy playing basketball, football, and running. And then he will come in his precious spare time to see me, wherever I am, and as soon as he gets there he finds a reason to leave. And then he goes and its almost worse than if he hadn't come at all. It's like he only came to make me happy and "check me off the list". like he can just ignore me the rest of the day because he already saw me, even for only a couple minutes. This doesn't happen very frequently but it's enough to ruin me for a couple weeks, and I feel very used sometimes. Like I'm only his girlfriend because he likes the idea of a gf, not me specifically. Then if I talk to him he twists it so it makes me feel like it's my fault for "not trusting him" and stuff like that. and then he tells me he just needed a personal day. Why didn't he tell me that in the first place so I didn't feel like crap? But here's the worst of it--he acts differently around me than with everyone else. I fell in love with him because he was so quirky and fun to be around. The first couple weeks of our relationship was great, and then I started noticing that he was always more serious around me, having in-depth conversations and stuff, but never just messing around and flirting like we used to. We're from the same circle of friends, and even they notice that if I'm not there he will act all crazy and fun but if I'm there he is way more serious and not himself. I don't know if he is trying to make it into a serious relationship by this or what but I just want my fun guy back. But I have no clue how to get him to be himself.
How do I help this?
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