Feeling really low. need advice?

[Anonymous]

For a while now I've been feeling really numb. Like I've lost all emotion to everything. I'm always struggling to sleep at night. I can't take it anymore really.
Thing
is, I have a crush on my friend. For ages now. And when I talk/text him I feel kinda 'alive'. Like I actually have emotions. Its weird. He doesn't know this. For the past few days he's been really distant and it's just made me feel really shit about myself. I can't rely on a texting someone to make me feel things. So yeah... Advice please. Thank you.

[ImNotGoodWithNames]

I've been going through the exact same things before, and I know exactly what you're going through. I was, and am usually down and depressed a lot, though it was worse before. Over the course of 2 years, I had a crush on my best friend, and only friend for that matter, and she unknowingly helped me get through the worst part my depression. I didn't want to confess to her, since I didn't wanna lose my best friend in case she wouldn't accept my feelings, or if we'd break up. I felt really happy when she spoke to me, but when she wasn't around I'd feel empty and numb.

I felt as if there was no one who was experiencing the same feelings that I had, that I was alone. I spent days, heck, I spent months trying to find ways to make me happy. It turns out, I just needed to stop thinking about it too much, and try to spend time with other people who makes you happy too. Like you said, you can't just rely on someone to always talk to you.

I know it's very hard to snap out of things like these, trust me, I know. But I assure you, things will most likely get better in time. I'm sorry if I wasn't able to help in any way, but stay strong and take care!

[Asker]

Thank you, just knowing that someone else knows how I feel has made me feel that little bit better

[Kinstrome]

You need to confront him about it. Even if you don't get a straight answer, you will feel better that you were direct about it. It is much better than simply missing an opportunity.

I should say, though, that him not responding to texts does not necessarily mean that he is trying to be distant, if that's what you mean by saying that he's been distant.

[Asker]

I only say him not replying texts is him being distant as that's how we contact each other the most. We dont see each other other in person. So we text every day usually and he'll reply back a few minutes later. So from going long texts to each other to a text a day is a big leap ahah, to me anyway...

[Anonymous]

your youth. don't waste it on any guy. go out to do stuff to keep your head off of him and meet new people. or tell him how you feel at this point.
I can tell you my sob by story to make you feel better if you want.

[Asker]

Yeah, I don't want waste it on him! I go out but I make no new friends, I try. I have no luck.
I would tell him but I don't have enough courage in me.

[Opinion Owner]

then don't tell him. go to museums, join some free activities from your city/town... no need to hang up on a guy.
easy for me to say. i was in your shoe at one point. i am much older and learned my lesson... well still other life lessons waiting for me lol

[NerdInDenial]

You should talk to him face to face. Ask him if there is anything wrong since you feel like he is distant for some reason. Then, you're going to have to work the courage to let him know your feelings; otherwise, you will regret it. It's hard since you don't want to be rejected, but for your sanity, you should.

[Bluemax]

Have you told this guy how you feel about him? I kind of think your feelings for him and your feelings of numbness are not the same thing though.

Aside from pondering this guy, what are you doing in your life? What are you doing to make your life an adventure?

[Okasdin]

Music is the easiest way to feel. What kind of emotions do you want?

[Asker]

I listen to music all the time aha. I just no emotion to anything. Example, I'll be on a night out with friends but instead of feeling happy or whatever I'm actually saying to myself in my head 'i am happy. Look happy' if that makes any sense hahaha

[Okasdin]

Well music with your friends is more like... pop/dance am I right? There are a whole lot of other genres to explore and I'm sure there's something that can help you bring out your emotions

[Okasdin]

Since you feel alive with your crush that might be the reason why you can't feel anything unless he's on your mind

[Anonymous]

Easiest thing for you to do is cut him out of your life and fin the happiness inside of you.

[Asker]

But I don't want to loose a really good friend

[Opinion Owner]

Lose teasegirl lose

[Asker]

My bad aha

[Opinion Owner]

:)
I will forgive you this last time