How do I tell my boyfriend I dont want to work out?

[atleasticancook]

My boyfriend is all about weight gain, getting cut, and being super fit. He has been asking my since we got together to join him. And I have tried. I've tried videos going to the gym joining my friends cross fit group anything I can think of. But I hate working out. I'm an artist, I was never athletic at all. I don't know what to do. He keeps pushing me and telling me to work out. Its making me feel terrible because I feel like he doesn't like my body and my lifestyle choices.

[NotJustAnotherGuy]

Being a sloth is not a lifestyle choice he should be expected to like (or anyone). You need realistic expectations of, yourself as a person in a world with other people who have different desires.

There are a few options:

1.) You can be healthy and workout for the sake of the man you love (since you apparently can't do it out of self-appreciation)...

2.) You can break up with him.

3.) You can stay with him and just be really whiny about how he cares about your health and/or want's to create healthy hobbies/bonding with you.

FYI-- I love poetry, philosophy and by all accounts consider myself creative.. but that doesn't mean exercise isn't in my spirit.. or however you're trying to phrase it. It wouldn't be work, if it was enjoyable. I don't exercise because it gives me a raging hard on. I do it because it is good for my health and encourages those around me to maintain their health as well. You were never athletic, because you never did physically intensive sports/training.. doesn't mean you can't be athletic. It's not just magic bestowed upon certain people through genetics. Being a good artist takes months, if not years, of work and practice. Why would athleticism be any different?

[NotJustAnotherGuy]

Learn, grow and be a better person than yesterday. Don't expect acceptance, don't desire acceptance. Not from yourself; not from others. Acceptance is not evolutionary; it is not progress. It is a hindrance to progression to be content. It's not shallow for your boyfriend to expect progression, to work towards progression. It is good and healthy to let him push you physically, and in turn you should push him intellectually. But wanting your lethargy to be accepted and considered beautiful, is not a healthy desire at all. You're just asking people to lie to you, convincingly.

[rambunctious69]

I feel like I did the same to my girlfriend. I wanted her to go to the gym with me, not because she was fat or anything, but I wanted to share something I really enjoyed with her. In my mind I thought we could have a great time while spending time together doing something healthy. Never thought I could've been making her thing that she wasn't perfect as is. Luckily later on she was the one pushing me to go to the gym.
So basically, dont assume that your bf is trying to make you go to change you, he might just want to spend time with you, and share the activities he enjoys doing. I'm sure he'll understand if you tell him that you dont enjoy doing physical activity, there are plenty of other things you could share together

[fairiez]

Oh please don't doubt yourself. If you do just ask him if he doesn't like your body and your lifestyle. And if he doesn't then it is his problem not yours. you both can find a way in between like walking or just taking up dancing, I mean seriously dancing is fun and it burns calories. anyways, Please don't think low of yourself. And if he doesn't really understands you, then you are all free to walk out of the relationship

[NotJustAnotherGuy]

How does she word that? "Do you like how I refuse to workout and make healthy choices?" and if she's gonna answer "Well, deal with it", then what's the point of asking ? Just to shove it in his face?

[fairiez]

Whenever next time he ask her for joining gym, she can tell him that, oh I feel so suffocated in gym I don't know but I really do, do you think I need to loose weight? If he says yes, then she can always tell him then lets take up dancing together or anything that she is ok with.
But if he is still hard headed to understand that she really doesn't want to be in gym then it's his loss.

[NotJustAnotherGuy]

It's not him being hard headed though.. It's him being a good influence on his peers. Even if she finds it annoying, the problem lies in that she finds it annoying, NOT in that he doesn't stop trying to help her improve her physical health. If you read closely it's not about the gym, it's about working out period. She doesn't want to hike, do dance, yoga, run, cycle, anything involving working out-- because she's an artist and doesn't think she has to.

[sdmaverickg]

You know, I had this issue with my ex girlfriend. I grew up as a computer nerd, I played video games, I never did sports. However, as I grew up I always wanted to get involved in fitness and getting into working out. She kept pressuring me into doing it and she's all about lifting and the gym as a personal trainer. Well the gym just isn't my favorite physical thing to do.

We broke up and I ended up getting involved in Volleyball, then I started hiking, then eventually once I was in the habit of being physically active I started going to the gym. Maybe suggest the two of you find something that can be common ground between what he likes to do and what you might consider fun? Try rock climbing? Kayaking? There are so many ways to get a good work out while still having fun, that's not as boring as going to the gym and lifting weights.

The biggest thing that held me back from working out with my ex girlfriend when we were together was the fact that I didn't know how to properly work out. Since we broke up 2 months ago I desperately learned how to in an attempt to get her back and now I'm actually more physically active than she is. Try instagram, there are great short videos on there.

[chocolatedragon]

I love your username lol :)
Hey, sex is a workout that needs two participants. You can easily bur 150 calories doing certain positions for 15 minutes. More sex and healthier food choices. When it comes to losing weight, diet is more important than the work out. Maybe your bf is a health freak, but you shouldn't have to be as cut as him to feel desirable. Tell him you wanna do your thing your way through sex and some light yoplait lol.

I tried convincing my mother and sister to come working out with me and miserably failed, your bf needs to back off lol.

[Theguyoverthere]

If he doesn't like you as an artist, I don't think he shoulda went out with you. So unless you were saying things like "I need to lose weight" and stuff, he shouldn't be pushing you. If you want to be an artist, that's it. I think he needs to accept that.

If he doesn't like your body and what you do with your life, you're not compatible. He shouldn't be trying to change you. Not everyone has that passion for lifting weights and such. I lift weights myself. Some days it's fun. Other days I'm just getting through it and getting outta there.

[CheesinIndian]

You are who you are. Just flat out tell him that you dont want to work out, if he does not leave you alone about it then he prolly isn't worth your time. He sounds very shallow to me.

[NotJustAnotherGuy]

Wanting your girlfriend to be physically active / healthier is not even remotely close to shallow. People like you are why America is obese. Using the word shallow as a scapegoat to an epidemic destroying this nation is misguided ignorance if not blatant malevolence. America is a less physically active nation-- it's a serious problem and further worsened by people encouraging each other to be content with their wastefulness, laziness, excess, malevolence, etc.. We all have flaws-- but that doesn't mean they should be "accepted".

[Anonymous]

"I rather be a fat slob than work out into a fit lady"

Something like that.

hey at least you can cook.

[Athleticbroo]

Wohh... not sure if just said no to

Workoutbuddy. Id kill for it