How to I get my wife to lose weight?

[skinnyblack28]

now to start off dont take this post the wrong way. when i met my wife she was small and decently fit. she's only 5'2 and when she was pregnant with our daughter obviously she had cravings etc etc and her eating habits changed... im not the healthiest eater to start with either. anyway from being pregnant she put on 60 lbs. our daughter is almost 20 months old now she my wife hasn't shed any of her baby weight. dont get me wrong... i still love and am very attracted to my wife but i also want to her old body back i guess... and its not only me.. she has very low self esteem about her body also and i want her to feel good about herself and i know she wants to but she also feels so bad about herself that she doesn't think there's any point anymore. we are going to cuba in march and id love if i could get her to lose a bit of weight before we go so she at least feels somewhat comfortable on the beach. i hope this post doesn't sound shallow... hope everyone understands.. any advice is appreciated thanks

[Saraaaa]

Don't make it sound like it's about her. Make it sound like it's all about you. Say that you want to get in shape to feel better about yourself and be healthier. Then start buying healthier foods, and go to the gym 3-4 times a week, ya know. Or just go for walks/joggs, whatever works for you. She'll probably want to join you. Not to mention, if you're bringing healthier foods into the house for "yourself" it'll be there for her to eat too.

Basically I'm saying that if you do it, she'll be likely to follow your example. Plus, you don't have to sound like an asshole by flat out asking her to lose weight. After you create a routine for yourself, you can invite her to join you, no pressure. In fact, she'll probably just decide to join you herself. That way it's kind of like her idea, and not yours.

Hope this helps :) Good luck.

[skinnyblack28]

very good idea... never thought about it like that... i guess if im eating shit and sitting around she's not gonna want to work out she'll wanna lounge with me. very good advice thanks for the opinion.. now i gotta get motivated now... only issue would be i work a lot.. regular 12-15 hours day so im not home much

[Saraaaa]

Your welcome (:
And since you work a lot, it doesn't have to be hours spent at the gym. Maybe just go for a 20-30 minute walk once a day, before/after work. Or just go the gym on your day off for an hour. Something is better than nothing.

And definitely do the food thing. You'd be surprised how much weight you can lose on diet alone. Sodas, sugars, and greasy stuff are packed with calories, ya know. Try to fill your house with healthier options. You'd be surprised how many delicious healthy snacks you can make. Look on the internet and get creative.

You can do it! Be the change you want to see :) (haha, that sounded so corny, but whatever.)

[harakiri]

Work out with her, eat right with her. you're married. Act like a fucking team and lose that weight together.

[blondfrog]

Yeah I saw that on the King of Queens Doug got Carrie to work out with him and they got Lou Feregno to be their personal trainer only thing is Carrie eventually finds out Doug hasn't been training.

[beesod]

You have to encourage her to do exercise or sports together. Try a sport like tennis, squash or badminton if she's not keen on running or going to the gym. Cycling is also a great one because you can make it fun and also take your child.

Of course walking is better than nothing to begin with. You can go on romantic walks or bike rides.

You can say it's important to you that she gets healthy again not because you want her to get the perfect body again but you actually want her to be confident with herself again. You can use the bikini in Cuba example. As long as you are clear you love how she is now physically and that you are still attracted to her I don't see the problem. You just need to be careful with your words.

[matheus_mb]

Be with her. The only way to lose weight is exercising and changing habits. Do it with her. When people aren't alone doing something their confidence increases and even motivation.

[HeatherJoanGaG]

Why don't you work-out together? To start most of the time it is difficult but even more difficult when you want to change something that big.

The person who has the problem is the one that needs to say "I want a change".

Support her, tell her to go to the park for a walk with your daugther, stop eating junk food, keep track of calories, buy a lot of fruits and vegetables, this will change your whole family life style.

[blondfrog]

Its okay for a woman to tell her man to lose weight, but when a guy tells her she needs to lose weight she becomes super upset. There is no nice way of telling her and still not hurting her feelings dude I am sorry to tell you this.

[skinnyblack28]

haha so true bud

[blondfrog]

That getting her to work out with you advice that one other girl said might not be a bad idea I've seen it being done in comedy shows before lol

[blondfrog]

I feel like your Doug and your wife is Carrie lol :P https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YclJj3xuccM
Do what this guy did it might work :P

[been_waiting]

If you eat unhealthy and don't work out then don't expect her to eat right and work out.
You should start, and ask her to do it with you.

[Anonymous]

Get a gym membership and take her to a nutritionist so she can set up a good meal plan for her.
Good luck :)