How can I get over him?

[Anonymous]

I just broke up with my boyfriend 3 days ago. & I loved him so much. He was the world to me, and now I've lost him.

For the past couple of days, I have done nothing, but go to school (Barely talked to anyone), lock myself in my room, and I think I lost my appetite. My friends have tried talking to me and telling me that everything's going to be alright and that breaking up was for the best because he's a jerk. And I've tried all I can to forget about him, but I just can't. It just feels like all the happiness has been sucked out of me.

I've tried talking to him on IM and tried calling him, but on IM he'd act like nothing ever happened between us and that just hurts me the most. On the phone, I always have to tell him I gotta go in like 10 minutes or so because I can't talk to him without crying. He was my best guy friend ever and whenever I had something going on and I really needed someone to talk to ... He was always there for me, and now I can't even talk to him or look at him in the face without crying.

I know I sound like an idiot, but I'm just telling you guys how I feel. How can I get over him ... ? Because It seems like I never will ...

[chnseboi35]

I agree with wanacot. You're definitely going to want to do your best not to talk to him at all. I know it'll be really really hard, but trust me. Talking to him after you two have broken up is the worst thing to do at this time. I had to learn that the hard way. I also thought that since my ex broke up with me but wanted to be friends still, it was ok to talk to her but I ended up saying all the wrong things unknowingly and now she thinks that I'm clingy and probably an idiot too. So don't talk to him at all until you know you're completely over him.

[wanacot]

First off, 3 days is not a long time. You're going to need longer than that depending on how long the relationship lasted.

Second, stop all contact with him, that's only going to make it worse.

Third, surround yourself with friends and family. They will support and care for you.

Lastly, keep busy. Don't sit around thinking about what happened. Do school work, sports, anything really to get your mind off your ex.

[samantharah]

It's hard moving on when your boyfriend was the one you told everything to and whom you loved to spend time with (trust me..i know) but do things that make YOU happy. Play sports, go shopping, hang out with friends, meet new ppl, and keep yourself busy because that will take your mind off of him! I've learned to never let a guy become your "Everything" because when you break up..you have nothing, but heartache.

[mishkaluv94]

i'm going through the exact same thing. although my ex cheated on me. and I still love him. although I found out like 5 days ago, everyone tells me I'm better off without him, and I should move on. but I CAN'T. it's too hard. so I know what you're going through. believe me.

[Jessica79]

Don't blame yourself. Everybody will have the same pain when they lost their love. Time will help. Just don't contact him at all. Give space to both of you to process your feeling. Contacting him now only can push him away. Doing some emotion evolution during the No contact time. He will get back to you if he loves you after a while. If he not love you anymore begging won't change it.