I've been told I have a pretty face, but i'm overweight if I lose a ton of weight will the guy I like (who I think kinda likes me but idk) like me?

[Anonymous]

Ik this is so sterotypical dont change yourself for a guy and everything trust me I've hear dit a million times, but there's this guy and he always stares at me and i feel like there's something there, i would approach him but i have no confidence i think losing weight will give me that confidence and attitiude but will the guy be like she looks amazing and is hot or does she have an eating disorder or something. Im losing a ton of weight over summer so the transforation will be that much more bigger

[cth96190]

There is no guarantee that he will 'like' you, but it is more likely.
If he does not, I can assure you that male interest will increase significantly.
Not many males are attracted to girls who are overweight.
There is also your health to consider. Obesity can lead to: type-2 diabetes (you are not too young for that); heart disease; kidney failure; arthritis (especially of the knees and hips); depression caused by poor self esteem.

[Drast]

When I started working out, it was for two reasons.
1: to be able to fight (I got beat up a lot as a kid)
2: to look attractive to girls.
That "don't change yourself for anyone else" speech is an excuse people use to legitimize not to better themselves. Do what you need to do in order to do want you want to do.

[aamy811]

That don't yourself speech doesn't mean never change. If a guy calls you fat and you feel you have to change, don't lose weight. But if you want to be confident, or be more attractive to others lose weight because that's how you want to be perceived by others. Not you letting others define how you perceive yourself.

[Drast]

Thanks for MHO!

[reptocarl]

Look you don't have to modify your body for someone to like you. If he can't accept the way you are now then it isn't meant to be. Get some inspiration from the actress Melissa McCarthy and Ann Wilson of the rock band Heart. Both beautiful women that had love come to them

[Tarvold]

It's never worth changing yourself for anyone other than yourself.

Having said that, it's worth losing that extra weight because it'll make you healthier and give you more confidence.

[Asker]

but do you think he'll be like ooh she looks good or what happend to her does she have an eating didorder?

[Tarvold]

He might. He might not. There's not enough info to tell.

But either way, if he hasn't noticed you now, then he's not worth it. Imagine what it'd be like if you did lose the weight, and did start dating him and how much pressure there would be for you to keep that weight down? If you had proof that he's only into you when you look hot, what's going to happen when you start growing old together? This is a path that is guaranteed to cause you a lot of stress and heartache down the road. Don't do it.

Be happy about who you are. Lose the weight for yourself.

[Jinta]

He will no doubt like you more. If you take the initiative to lose weight and get to a healthy point, it will show that you aren't lazy and that you care about your health. If he doesn't value those things in a potential partner, he isn't worth chasing in the first place.

[Nathand]

of course... have you see those fat shows where the fat women go in as so fat and ugly and by the end they are slim and look good.

Block me please.

[Anonymous]

He will be more attracted to you because you are healthier, so it's a win-win.