Do you, or anyone you know, self harm? (poll) more in description?

[Anonymous]

Comment if you want to add anything on the subject

And when I say self harm I mean cut or burn yourself. In case anyone considered things like risky behaviors or eating disorders as self harm. I'm just asking for cutting or burning

and when I say someone you know I mean in your personal life, not celebrities or people online

yes I have self harmed (Cut or burn) and I know others who have

yes I have but I don't know anyone else who has

No I have not but I know someone who has

No I haven't and I don't know anyone who does

[Anonymous]

There's this one spot on my feet that never touches the ground, on the arch, and I intentionally burn myself there sometimes. It doesn't hurt enough later to effect my walking, people don't see it even in sandals, and burns don't scar as much as cuts do (at least on my skin).

I know two people for sure who have cut themselves, both friends from one of my classes. One doesn't try to hide her scars and has managed to stop. The other still cuts sometimes and hides the scars.

[Opinion Owner]

*affect

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing

[Opinion Owner]

No problem. Just thought it would be good to point out that it's not a trendy, attention-seeking issue like a lot of people seem to believe. Some of us make a lot of effort to avoid attention for it, particularly irl.

[Asker]

Exactly, I'd be so embarrassed if people saw my scars, I don't want people to know just for the attention.

[miadestiny14]

I have and I also know a lot of people who have/do.

[dangerDoge]

I haven't done it. If some things went differently in my life, I may have gone down that path, but I luckily didn't. I do know some people via internet or GAG or whatever that have self-harmed. I try to help them as best as I can, but no, I don't know them in real life.

[Riggers]

Never self harmed, But i have attempted suicide if that counts?

[Asker]

Damn dude, I suppose it does

[Anonymous]

I know quite a lot and dated a few infact, it's never an easy topic to tackle.

[Asker]

Do they usually tell you or do you see scars and ask? How long before you find out usually?

[Opinion Owner]

They usually tell me, my last ex kept it quiet until I she burned herself on her arm, I lifted her sleave up to check, she got really quiet afterward when I saw the scars, I kissed them and had a talk with her about it there. Well most of the time it's usualy about maybe a month or two, it depends when you two are willing to talk about really private stuff and know they won't react badly, sometimes it can be a week sometimes it can be a month, but usually it has to be done in a serious tone. it doesn't make any girl any less of a woman for having to go through it, but what matters is she got through that, the past is to be learned from afterall.

[master_poop]

I haven't but I went to school with a couple of people who did.

[complicated_soul]

I heard something similar to this, "self harming is being weak"

[Asker]

Well you have to be in a low place to want to hurt yourself. Usually people do it when they're extremely angry or when they're depressed and have a numbness and do it just to feel something, since pain releases endorphins. Some people smoke or drink, some people self harm

[complicated_soul]

Yes, same thing applied to drinking or smoking.
Simply, giving in to weakness

[Asker]

I wouldn't call it weakness per se. Just a way to cope with a mental disorder, a way to feel better.

[complicated_soul]

Nope. I think it is weakness. There are other ways to deal with anger or other emotions. One just has to be conscious of his actions.
I can understand the urges or how it helps them feel "good" but it isn't a good way to cope and is just being weak.

[Asker]

So is someone with a stomach ache weak for taking medicine? If someone is bipolar are they weak because they have to take medicine to make themselves feel better? Is a depressed person weak because heir medicine makes hem feel things?
There are ways to deal with depression or bipolar disorder, you just have to be conscious of your actions?

[complicated_soul]

"Some people smoke or drink, some people self harm " these are being weak as they are doing to cope with anger or etc.

[Asker]

But isn't taking medication "coping with your emotions" as well?

[complicated_soul]

If the medication is prescribed by doctors, then fine. I don't suggest antidepressant for depression anyway. It's better to do research and work on improving naturally.

Anyway, medication is not being weak as it is not self harming or doing something worst to the body.. esp with that intention of harming oneself.

[Asker]

So people should just learn to deal with mental disorders naturally

[complicated_soul]

Better to talk to a doctor if it is mental disorder.

You were talking about self harming.. which is being weak.
If the person has mental disorder, he should go see a doctor.

[Asker]

Self harm is usually a result of depression or bipolar disorder. For some like younger teens they may not know what happening or don't want to tell their parents or have to take drugs to feel happy.
Is a little knick or burn really that much worse than taking artificial chemicals to have the same effect?
I'm not saying it's the best method, but it's not weakness, I think it takes a lot of guts to be able to hurt yourself.

[complicated_soul]

It is being weak. Giving into harming oneself is of course being weak in this case.

[RexCatholicissimus]

I'm not friends with 14 year old girls, so no, I don't.

[Asker]

Found the asshole