How can I relive my anxiety?

[thomasstubbs28]

I am a highly anxious person, and I can't get over it. I let everything get to me, and think every bad mistake I make changes my life. I have never had a girlfriend, and I always have this thought in my head that I will never find somebody. Everybody has a dream in life mine is simply to do what I love, and have a good family. To be honest though, right now I couldn't handle a girlfriend with all this anxiety, and stress I face. I can't keep my head on everyday, I have thoughts continuously throughout the day that I am going to end up a screw up, and amount to nothing while being alone still living with my parents at 40. I really want to turn my life around, but I know I can't do it with all this anxiety. I have made so many stupid decisions in life, and have let the good decisions I was too blind to see pass me by. Im 20 years old, and just started community college, and im ready to find myself, and stop worrying about every damn thing. Right now though I just want to see if anyone has any tips to calm down, and stop freaking out over every single thing every single day.

[coconutelixir]

I know what it's like to not be able to shut one's brain off from overthinking everything... it sucks, it really really sucks. You just watch yourself fall into the same traps over and over even when you recognize your flaw. You know what really helps? You've got to search for a good daily stress relief. Some people work out each morning to set the tone for their day. Maybe go swimming, or on daily walks, or listen to soothing music. I need to get back to that. Make sure you get good and full sleep. When you are too stressed, take a nap to clear your head. Talk out loud to yourself... give yourself a pep talk when you need it. Watch inspirational youtube videos of people overcoming their illnesses or demons. Have you joined Humans of New York on facebook? Seeing other peoples life stories inspires me to be grateful, keep calm, and move on.

You're already finding a direction with starting college. Amazing, good for you. Please know you're about to enter a journey where you really get the chance to explore your career interests. Get excited. You' are gonna turn your life around, you're young. The simple dreams you desire will come to you when you least expect it. Keep your heart open to a good girl. She can help you de-stress as well and you can help her. Let go of the bad decisions you've made. You can't do anything about them but learn from them and keep going. Before my mom died, she told me to never dwell on what went wrong and focus on what you can do... and just do it. It resonated a lot with me. There are so many unfair and bad things happening all the time, it's truly a blessing to have opportunity and health. Seize the day, dude... you will make your dreams a reality :)