In a nutshell I am a single mother who has been with my new partner for about a year. I was in a really abusive relationship before that .
Due to getting on so well and because I am unable to move house he moved in with me haphazardly a few months back and all was good. Lately there has been tension because of bills, long working hours and he's weekend consuming hobbies which left me feeling like an after thought and a bit unimportant.
Anyhow I decided for the first since we had met that I would go away for the night to Dublin to see one of my few closest friends. He was invited but declined due to he's loyalty to the sports team he was due to be in Sunday. I was so excited
He mentioned a cousin of he's was going to be down that night also - he said they might have a drink or two but be back early. As I don't know the cousin and have always heard stories about him being a lunatic on drink. I asked that he didn't stay in the house. He agreed and I was so relieved I didn't have to clean the house.
Anyhow night went on - he was out in the pub and when we spoke after it I was told he was chasing he's cousin down the road trying to stop him getting in drunken fights . Que panic.
After an hr he rang again to say he was back in ours and that he's cousin had gone to friends.que me doubting. I asked him repeatedly to be honest he said over and over I was being silly and he was on he's own. My doubts were confirmed when he rang me back to admit the lies. When I got annoyed he made out like it was all my fault.
Next day no calls till the late afternoon,He had missed the sport that had caused him not to come with me, no apology or mention of the night. When I brought it up he got defensive . After an hr of me discussing it he apologized but it felt forced and a bit convenient when I discovered he was planning on going out again that night.
He wants it all to go back to normal but its really hurt me and made me doubt a lot of stuff. Trust is shaky and I don't know if I should give him forgiveness so easily. I'm thinking of staying at families for a night but will that just cause more damage.
Due to getting on so well and because I am unable to move house he moved in with me haphazardly a few months back and all was good. Lately there has been tension because of bills, long working hours and he's weekend consuming hobbies which left me feeling like an after thought and a bit unimportant.
Anyhow I decided for the first since we had met that I would go away for the night to Dublin to see one of my few closest friends. He was invited but declined due to he's loyalty to the sports team he was due to be in Sunday. I was so excited
He mentioned a cousin of he's was going to be down that night also - he said they might have a drink or two but be back early. As I don't know the cousin and have always heard stories about him being a lunatic on drink. I asked that he didn't stay in the house. He agreed and I was so relieved I didn't have to clean the house.
Anyhow night went on - he was out in the pub and when we spoke after it I was told he was chasing he's cousin down the road trying to stop him getting in drunken fights . Que panic.
After an hr he rang again to say he was back in ours and that he's cousin had gone to friends.que me doubting. I asked him repeatedly to be honest he said over and over I was being silly and he was on he's own. My doubts were confirmed when he rang me back to admit the lies. When I got annoyed he made out like it was all my fault.
Next day no calls till the late afternoon,He had missed the sport that had caused him not to come with me, no apology or mention of the night. When I brought it up he got defensive . After an hr of me discussing it he apologized but it felt forced and a bit convenient when I discovered he was planning on going out again that night.
He wants it all to go back to normal but its really hurt me and made me doubt a lot of stuff. Trust is shaky and I don't know if I should give him forgiveness so easily. I'm thinking of staying at families for a night but will that just cause more damage.
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