Guys, do you ever lie to your girlfiends to make them feel better? How can I get my confidence back and trust my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I've always been very insecure. My mom always had a habit of bringing me down calling me fat or whatever (knowing that I'm borderline underweight and with anemia...) and my so called girl friends always humiliated me saying I was kinda ugly.

I was molested during my childhood and that also made me develop lots of self hatred.

My ex boyfriend would always compliment me and he made me feel pretty all the time, but when we broke up he said I was gross, that my stretch marks grossed him out completely, that whenever we had sex he had to close his eyes and think ab someone else, that his ex was much better etc.

that shattered me completely.

Now I'm dating someone new and he always compliments me, but I always feel like he's lying and never believe him. I don't know how to feel confident again and not hate myself.

[Fashionistax03]

Love yourself girl you deserve it. I don't know you but you are beautiful. Don't give the time and energy to people who say mean things about your appearance, they are not worth it. they are just not happy with themselves so they have to bring someone else down with them. Do things that make you feel good about yourself. Go to the gym and get that revenge body and there are nothing wrong with stretch marks that makes you unique. Scars make us who we are today. I'm going to keep you in prayers you shouldn't hate yourself.

[Asker]

Thank you for your kind words ❤️

[Anonymous]

First of all, if you were molested, you aren't ugly or they would have chosen someone else.
Second, many people are pretty mean when they break up.
Third, people that excessively compliment you are just BSing you. Either they just use you, or are doing something behind your back. Many girls think those guys are really nice, but someone that genuinely believes the compliments he gives to you, will use them sparingly, not every day. The people that do it every time you are together and up to something.

[Asker]

First, I was molested when I was around 3 till 7 yo... And I wouldn't say my current boyfriend compliments me *too much*, I just can never accept any compliments

[Opinion Owner]

Oh, well never mind then if it was that young. Sorry.
If compliments are only every few times you are together or less, then they should be believed. The people that BS, usually do it like every time you are together.

[Sjeggy]

you poor thing...
you know, you should let your value not depend on others ^^
you had an awful childhood, and that douche deserves a kick between the legs for what he said.

they don't lie to you, for the example of the stretchmarks, to me i don't mind them because i like the girl herself :) and the girl had better not mind them on me since i have them too. and when you broke up with your ex he became bitter and tried to hurt you

[CyberToothTiger]

Nope, i never lied to my ex girlfriends. I loved them each at one time
when they were in my life but there are guys who lie. How could i ever
lay my head down knowing i am lying to a girl nope just couldn't do it?