Why do my crush lie to me, guys need your advice please?

[Anonymous]

I told my crush I was going on a date with one of my buddy who is a guy friend only nothing more. I told my crush I wanted to talk to him later on the phone when I get back home from my date. I been texting him but he's not replying to my text. I told my crush I like him a lot and he said he like me a lot too but why the fu*k he isn't replying back to my text?

[godfatherfan]

Because you went on a fucking date with another guy. If your not dating this 'crush' then you have that right. but obviously the guy has feelings for you and is hurt. Sorry, I have said it 100000000000x and I will say it again. Women do not have straight male friends. Those friends want to fuck you. that is not to say they cannot be friendly also, but they definitely will screw you or take a blow job. So this other guy figures your doing that with this guy. It really doesn't matter what really happened on your date. the fact it you went on a date and you can't take that back. So you need to move on or you need to make a big move on this other guy and try to convince him not only will it never happen again, but that he is the only one you want. Blame it on your period or something guys don't understand. he is really hurt. it is not a little thing. your going to have to do major damage control if you want this other guy. I would never trust you again so good luck...

[Asker]

He hangout with his female friends too. I trust him I thought he trust me too. He also seems cool and not bother by who I go out with so I don't get why he acts like this if he was hurt why can't he just tell me and not leave me hanging all confused about him and I. I'm not fucking with my guyfriend he's like a bro only.

[godfatherfan]

it is confusing because you don't say your dating. so he can be hurt, but you technically did nothing wrong.
however, if you two are considered dating, then neither one of you has any business being out with a member of the opposite sex (who is straight) without the other being there. zero reason. I don't care if you have been friends for 30 years. I know women love to think they have guy friends but that is not completely true. we stay friends with a woman to stay on her radar. maybe the right circumstances comes up at some point and we can have sex with her or get a blow job out of it. It really doesn't matter what your intentions were. So if your not technically dating, then he is still hurt that you went on a date with this guy. and that was what that was, a date. You were not "hanging out"
if you are together, then you really fucked up.
either way if you want to keep this guy you need to talk through things.

[Asker]

Thanks he finally text me back this morning. Sayin he fell asleep that's why he didn't answer me. He also ask if I had fun on my date. So I guess he isn't jealous or mad. I'm just happy he not upset with me.

[Klaatu51]

i'm afraid he's jealous u went out with another guy basicall. y...:-/

[Asker]

Thanks he finally text me back this morning saying he fell asleep and ask if I had fun on my date with a wink smile. I guess he isn't jealous just tired.

[shadowlegend]

Because he is busy or isn't interested. Why would you go on a date with another guy, and then tell your crush that? To make him jealous or what?

[Asker]

No I'm not tryna make him jealous at all! We are really honest with each other about our daily life. I'm so mad now if he lie about liking me a lot too because I really do like him.

[shadowlegend]

Why would you go on a date with one guy, if you like another? And then tell the guy you like? That seems manipulative.

[Asker]

He was a guy friend only. My crush knows I'm serious about him. We are open about our daily life like I said. So I'm confused about what he really feels. Please don't judge me I'm really confused and a bit hurt.

[shadowlegend]

Then why go on a date with you "guy friend"? If I was your crush and you said that you liked me, then went out with another guy, I'd think you were trying to play games or lying about liking me. Maybe your crush doesn't want to bother with that.

[Asker]

But he goes out with his female friends too. I get mad when he does I dont tell him it bother me cause we aren't officail yet but I understand they are just friends that what I want to believe.

[shadowlegend]

If you get mad when he goes out with other girls, then why would you do the same thing and go out with other guys? Sounds immature and like you're playing games.

[Asker]

Im not playing games it was a guy friend that I went out with not someone I'm sleeping with but I guess maybe its my fault for being to honest.

[godfatherfan]

exactly. you should have told him you were going out with female friends and not on a date with a guy. how do you expect a guy to react?

[shadowlegend]

You're not acknowledging how your actions could have made your crush feel. Have you asked him if he was annoyed that you went out with another guy?

[Asker]

No I never ask him because he seems so cool and understanding I'm so mad at myself 😢 I thought by being honest with him was the right thing to do because its not like I'm sleeping with my guy friend he just a friend almost like a bro to me only

[shadowlegend]

Best to keep it simple, if you like one guy, don't go out with another, at all. Pursue the guy you like, have the maturity to ask him out.

[MJas16]

Tbh i wouldn't text you either. Why would u tell him you're going on a date. Common sense. Stop playing games

[Asker]

I am not playing games! It was a guy friend. He hangout with his female friends too. He so confusing and he know I like him a lot.

[MJas16]

Then just say you are going to hang out with a friend not go on a date. He's probably mad and thinks yourejust trying to make him feel bad

[Chiko98]

That wasn't a good idea to me and i tell you that you were wrong by doing that. Going on a date with someone else and yet your crush is all alone? He couldn't stop you but if you think properly i don't you should continue doing that. You have to choose between the 2.

I should point out on this one. You don't go on a date with a mare friend. You're members of the opposite sex and that's why you're able to go on a date. Can members of the same sex go on a date? The answer is no unless they're gays.

All i can say is that you're not stable and you need to change if you really want to be in a relationship with your crush.

[singlebee]

You shouldn't have gone on that date!! You did a mistake... you told him you like him.. But also went on a date... So now he feels it was all a lie... that's why he is not texting you

[Asker]

I never lie about who I like seriously. He know I like him a lot and I'm not even into my guy friend.

[singlebee]

Then why was it a date? A date is so different and a hangout is so different... you should have told him that you and just hanging out with your friend not going on a date... It sounds so different when you say that you are going on a date... Seriously even i won't text you after that...
And we guys know that a women can't have a straight friend... is not possible.. a guy is a friend either because he has between friendzoned or he likes the girl he wanna be friends with

So now he thinks you are playing games with him...

[Asker]

Oh wow I used the word date with both my male and female friends. All my guy friends I friend zone them even though I know they like me more than a friend. Again my crush was cool about my date he even make jokes about it saying he hope I had a great time. So that's why I'm confused why the fu*k will he make jokes and wink face and all the sudden ignore me. He's the one whom I think its playing games with me!

[singlebee]

Just wait for his call.. Or text him... and get it over with... cause both of you are playing games now by not talking to each other like adults😑

[Asker]

Thank you. He did text me back. He's not mad at me he ask if I had a fun date.

[Anonymous]

Sorry to hear 😟

Don't text him too much because it can make you look desperate. Wait it out. It WILL NOT be then end of the world haha.. He may be mad because you went on the date. But yeah, wait it out.. Don't think about it too much.

[Asker]

Thank you for your kind words. I hope he isn't mad and text me back soon cause his silent is hurting me.

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome. He may be a little upset, but I'm sure he'll come around. Don't stress it.

[Asker]

Why would he be upset at me though? He seems cool with it I don't get guys at all 😓

[Opinion Owner]

He may have said that he is okay with you going and all because he doesn't want to seem all controlling and all you know. Yeah we can be confusing. I know I most definitely can get very confusing.

[Asker]

I already confessed my feeling to him. What do I do now to make him not mad at me and take me seriously again? I don't want him to hate me because of a dinner date that means nothing to me.

[Opinion Owner]

Let him know that you care. He may be a little sensitive that's all

[Asker]

Let him know that I care about him? Like a friend or bf caring way? because we don't have a title and he's confusing so I don't want to come on to strong.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah sort of. Do it in a subtle way.

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice I will do let him know

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome. Good luck.