Partner wants me to lose weight and look skinny. What can I do? (Page 2)
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He doesn't love you if he is saying these things to you. Over time in a relationship we change and the love should grow with it. Now say if you were told by your doctor to loose weight for health reason then yes he should be on your ass about it but in a supportive and loving way. He's becoming embarrassed
There's nothing wrong with being honest, but it does matter if he says he'd love you more. Looks should be the sugar on top. Otherwise what will he do when y'all are 80
This a question for him. Why? What about you being smaller is needed? Is it your health? And be honest with yourself. Are you going to be happy with his answer?
He should never tell you anything like that. You should love who your with for every thing about them. However for tips for losing weight: 1, count calories (my fitness pal). 2, try to make food at home more and eat less at dinner and more at breakfast. 3, when walking, your body will get used To it, so you either have to walk longer or jog now and then.
It's just not cool to say he's lve you more if you lost some weight, to me that bulls**t is pure manipulation, like "you lose weight and I give you love". You should lose weight for yourself, not to please him.
Break up with him, and with that you loss 200Lbs+/-. But seriously if you want to lose weight it has to be that you want to not just to keep a shallow prick. Just be you and fuck what others think of you
Tell him to fuck off if he doesn't like what he sees. There are plenty of pther fish in the sea who would for a piece of that ass
Preach
Remind him that skinny chick slide off the bed
He said he would love you more if you lost weight? That means he doesn't love you and what he means to say is that he would lust after you more.
Massive difference!
I see a lot of "leave hims" but not enough "how do you like/love yourself to be". Lose the weight if it makes you *both* happy. I mean, he told you it would be nice. Doesn't sound like he is making demands, or saying he doesn't want to be with you.
If you love this person, lose weight. Seriously.
Not because your gross or anything like that, but it shows that you are willing to sacrifice and care how they see you. If you loose weight and the union goes sour, you're still on top. Win/win
Go Keto and exercise.
Lose weight if YOU want to lose weight. If you being thin is important to him, but not you, then don’t do it
Dump him.
Lose weight and get hot.
Date someone else.
You win.
Ok for one if a guy loves u he is going to love u regardless of how u look i know how u feel k went from 105 to 155 but i dare my so to tell me something like that
Being a guy, this isn't true. We merely keep our mouths shut because, as you said, "I dare my so to tell me".
No.
girls don't understand how to take it. If i tell you "you're fat loss weight "you're going to complain about how we don't love you enough and then go to the personal attack. The best way to stop this is to keep our mouth shut even tho you complain if we get a little fat and ask the same. you didn't date us when we became a whale for eating so much so we expect you to do the same
Yeah we might still love you but we'd still be thinking lose weight you fat fuck
@dannyuk ok for one thats really rude and at my height im supposed to weigh between 135 and 145 so im not that much over weigh i was extremely under weight for my height and also if a guy gains weigh it doesn't bother me
It wasn't aimed at you, so no need to feel bad or justify to me your weight.
It's just a general example of what goes through a guys head when a girl puts on weight when your dating.
It's not even connected to healthy weight. If a guy dates a skinny girl he probably likes the skinny look so even if she goes from skinny to healthy it still feels like false advertising.
Were too polite to say it or actually be nasty but I guarantee that's what he's thinking.
Oddly girls seem to care far less about weight in there men. Studies have shown girls actually prefer podgy no idea why seems strange.
Personally I think girls are more connected to personality and perhaps that's the atraction that glossed over the weight gain.
Either way please don't be upset or mad at the answer I don't think many guys would be mean enough to ever say anything. You asked for the opinion and I wanted to give you a true example of the thoughts behind it.
Never lose weight for anyone but you. If you feel like you want to lose weight then just make healthier choices and add a bit more exercise. Don't ever do extreme diets etc.
The most proven weight loss plan is the "break up diet". He's not important enough to lose weight in order to keep him. Dump him, then lose the weight to find a new man, then gain it all back.
Do sport that is body forming and that you enjoy. Eat three healthy meals per day. Drink water. No takeaway or snacks. And if you really need to snack try out carots and a few nuts
You could start going to the gym, get a personal trainer, eat healthier and when you're looking fine AF dump his bitch ass for not accepting you for who you are
Go to the gym one or two times a weak. Its not that hard.
Loose weight and start working out. If he wants you to be skinny. Then tell him you want him to have a 8-pack and see whats next.
Tell him to do one everyone has a body for a reason everyone looks good in there own way don't change for some guy