Girls, do you ever have mood swings? Guys, do you have mood swings too?

[laurieluvsit]

A. OMG! ... ARE YOU KIDDING? ... my life seems like one giant mood swing after the other!

B. Yes, in, and around, my monthly cycle

C. Only when something, or someone, irritates me

D. Yes, and I am on medication for it

E. No, I am rarely moody. I have a pretty even temperment

F. OTHER, see my comments below, or just open the "Mood Swing" survey

[cth96190]

Women live on a hormonal roller coaster until menopause, when the car goes off the tracks and the nature of the hormonal misery changes.
From about age 12 until they die, women have mood swings (and more).
That is an unavoidable byproduct of the biology that is required to make babies.
I have also concluded (supported by government figures) that most females are bipolar. What varies is the difference in severity between individuals.
Here in Australia, government figures show that a quarter of the adult female population are on prescription psychiatric medications.
Those are active prescriptions.
Add to that 25 per cent women who have been prescribed medication, but do not take it; and women who have not been diagnosed.
Hence, there is an expectation that the typical female will have hormonal mood swings, probably exhibit some degree of bipolar disorder and be unstable in general.
Ask just about any man who has sought female company for a few years and they will say that there is a lot of crazy out there.

[mistixs]

It's easier to blame it on women's "hormonal rollercoaster" than to just accept that maybe there are reasons why women don't like being around you personally

[jolospongebob]

Dude its not always the hormones i have 2 girlfriend en they have moodswings all the time

[VikingBlood86]

They're called hormones and chemicals. Everyone gets them. Some more than others and some are better at controlling them than others.

[CarpetDenim]

I generally get more emotional the first few days of my period, yeah. I don’t know if I go through mood swings exactly, but I definitely get a lot sadder more easily and I definitely cry a lot.

[laurieluvsit]

Sometimes periods seem more like a curse... just saying

[CarpetDenim]

Wym? They’re ONLY a curse, there’s nothing good about them at all.

[Tiffanykells]

I voted for B as that's what I blame it on lol but some people say I'm a bitchy drama queen with an attitude lol 🙈🙈

[animelover14]

Rarely. Even when I'm menstruating my mood remains stable.

[laurieluvsit]

You're lucky :)

[Nicole812]

Ask my boyfriend...

[laurieluvsit]

... lol

[mermaidia_lol]

No..

[laurieluvsit]

It's all those good minerals that you absorb from the sea... lol

[mermaidia_lol]

😂😂

[Kevinnnn]

When I go to work it makes me happy to do something else than sitting around at home.
I was once heartbroken because of a rejection (because I have a lack of confidence)
and it took me 8 months to recover completely from it.

2019 is giving me a lot of mood swings.
My brother listening loud to rap music when I come home for example.

Or when I am introverted in the fact that I am a 19 year old virgin even tho it is normal

It is just because I don't have anyone and my lack of confidence needs some affection.
It makes me really feel like a weakling
and I try to do something about it. I have not found a solution yet.
I have not enough time to build up a relationship at the moment, unfortunately.

[laurieluvsit]

You are spending way too much time in introspection.

Here's what you need to do... turn your focus to others, instead of yourself and put it into action.

Volunteer at CERT, Red Cross or any other Charitable Organization of your choice and start helping others instead of constant worry about yourself.

Your self confidence and self worth will sky rocket and you will meet the best people on the planet who will love what you are doing and who you are.

Don't walk... RUN to sign up immediately! ... you can thank me later :)

[Kevinnnn]

Well I have a lot of plans such as learning how to ride a horse and stuff

but I stand up in the morning at 4:40 am to go to work,
arrive at home at 6pm and have to sleep at 10pm to not fall asleep.
I do not yet have a drivers license and live in a remote village.

No. Chance.

[Flamdring]

Men have mood swings for sure. Firstly, we tend to suppress them to the point where it may seem we are calm and in control. Social conditioning is to blame. Secondly, we deal with mood swings in a different way than women: we go to our best friends and do things together; many of us tend to take more dangerous activities during such moments; some of us may become less communicative and even disappear for a few hours or even days in order to think or do some stupidity that we may regret later etc.

A relatively new term to coin our mood swings is Irritable Male Syndrome. You can google it.

[SuperManiac]

I don't think so. I mean I have "moods", and transitions between one mood to the next, but not so abrupt usually and generally I can sort of pinpoint what's causing the shift from one to the next. Sometimes I do find it surprising that something can make me so irritated, or excited and happy, but I can still generally tell what something is and it's usually still not so abrupt of a change.

[SuperManiac]

[...] but I can still generally tell what [that] something is and it's usually still not so abrupt of a change.

[SuperManiac]

In general, I've gotten decent at accurately self-diagnosing what sort of things are making me upset or angry since I've learned to resist those types of thoughts. I wouldn't necessarily say 100% accurate since there might still be subconscious things going beneath the surface, but I've learned enough to bring enough of those subconscious kinds of thoughts to the surface to be able to challenge them with a counter-thought that makes me calm if not reasonably cheerful once more. I think "mood swings" as in like abrupt and unaccountable changes in mood might relate to not quite understanding what sort of underlying thought patterns are causing these changes in mood. I've devoted a lifetime to gain some degree of understanding and control there.

[SuperManiac]

I also try to extensively psychoanalyze myself. I try to constantly ask questions like, "Why do I like/dislike this?" And I don't settle for simple answers because they're usually too simple. I try to reflect back on my entire life, and the way I formed my values, and the types of thoughts I tend to associate with various experiences and try to assess and reassess my estimated probabilities of every possible explanation I can come up with for what something might mean. And I sometimes do this out loud if someone is patient enough to bear with me in exploring my messy thoughts.

And in that process, I gain some clarity over the underlying and some degree of subconscious reasons why I may like/dislike something. The more I can dig into my own subconscious, the more I can understand the gist of the causes driving one mood or another, as well as gain some control in resisting the negative types of moods that I find unpleasant to be in for extended periods of time (irritable, angry, upset, etc).

[SuperManiac]

[...] And in that process, I gain some clarity over the underlying [causes] and some degree of [understanding behind the] subconscious reasons why I might like/dislike something. [...]

[laurieluvsit]

... lol

I didn't think you were ever going to stop!

You don't like to talk do you?

... I don't mean with me, I just mean in general? ... lol

[SuperManiac]

I'm slightly less talkative in person, or at least a bit more back-and-forth! Surprisingly I get compliments about being a good listener there. :-D But with writing, I like to mull over what I'm trying to write and figure it out as I'm going. It's also kind of a process of trying to figure everything out for me -- out loud! :-D

I would benefit so much from an editing function since I could iteratively refine what I'm thinking on top of the original draft instead of continuing in the comments as new thoughts arise while I'm reviewing and trying to challenge and dig further into thoughts and feelings associated with what I formerly wrote.

But my writing style is kind of tied to how I avoid mood swings. If I feel a certain counter-productive mood coming like irritability working its way towards anger, I try to ask why. And I don't settle for the simple answers that crop up immediately like, "I don't like this," because there are many things I don't like that don't irritate that way.

So I have to dig deeper and ask why and how I'm feeling irritated exactly over this specific event, and whether there were other events similar to that one that might have caused me to accumulate some stress that I'm just now becoming aware about. Perhaps there was an event from childhood that caused me to become really stressed that I'm subconsciously associated with the present event. Or perhaps the present event is still subconsciously causing all kinds of unrealistic and cynical thoughts to appear that need to eradicated.

[SuperManiac]

... I can keep challenging and attacking this way. If it was verbalized on here as a question like, "Why are you so irritable?" I might end up with an answer starting with a list of things bothering me and then have 30 comments below that are 30 further iterations and attempts at trying to mull down exactly how and why these things bother me while ultimately trying to dig into my subconscious.

But towards the bottom, I'll likely have reached some sort of "eureka" moment: some level of clarity where I've discovered something further about myself that I never knew before. It's then when I get some indication that I've successfully tapped into the subconscious, and with moods, I have a second litmus test since all this self-analysis of what is bothering me is of no practical use if I can fix the problem after I figure it out. But I find if I analyze well enough and at least break through the first layer or two of the subconscious, it becomes simple enough to fix the problem and revert back to a cheerful mood where I'm laughing and joking and feeling great, and can even laugh at the fact just moments later that this was bothering me in the first place.

I also might have some ego here since I seem to have reached some level of ability to tap into the subconscious that I think is beyond normal thresholds as a result of this extensive self-analysis. One example is that I don't think I have mood swings, and I don't think people around would say so either (not even my wife who sees me in my worst moments). Another is that I don't have ordinary dreams. I can only lucid dream in a way that I'm fully aware that I'm sleeping and inside a dream. I think I ended up losing the ability to dream in a normal way as a result of poking so many holes from the layer of conscious to the subconscious that the first layer or two of the subconscious is now fully exposed and spilling into the conscious layer (although still often difficult to articulate in spoken/written verbal language).

[SuperManiac]

[...] If it was verbalized on here as a question like, "Why are you so [irritated]?" [...]
[...] I have a second litmus test since all this self-analysis of what is bothering me is of no practical use if I [cannot] fix the problem after I figure it out. [...]

[Maraneva]

I don't really get sudden swings without reason but if someone keeps irritating me often, I'd shift smoothly over to a monstrous version and bite their head off.
Sad thing though, is that whenever friends, mostly female friends with the exception of my best friend who understands me well, see me going a bit sour, they easily tell me to shut up or stop being so moody and arrogant. Not even allowed to have any other emotion other than happiness. Yeah, nice.

[matchrestore]

I think a lot more guys have mood swings than let on about it. We're just taught from an early age to be stoic at all times that we hide it and internalize it. Unfortunately sometimes bottling all of that up can cause it to burst out all at once sometimes which is worse than mood swings in my opinion.

[Finchie40]

I tend to try not to. for the most part but if i do get moody i pretty much just walk away until i calm down. I dont like snapping on people , but if. someone approaches me after i have walked away and then they will. get a Taste of. it lol but again i barely. get moody. I think we all have. mood swings, part of life just some people have it worse. then others , if you were my girllfriemd., give me a beer or sex I Will get over my mood swing real quick lol

[Joker_]

A. OMG! ... ARE YOU KIDDING? ... my life seems like one giant mood swing after the other!

[Jjpayne]

For me it's nothing radical. It's transition between irritable and or tired, satisfied and happy something like that. Anger and sadness are rare for me to experience

[Amanda269]

Mood swings are normal. It is odd to think, that humans stay in one emotion for even a day. Energic/grumpy in the morning, relaxed/stressed by lunch and hangry by dinner.

[jgokgotit]

My mood usually depends on what is going on in my life and is a response to those events. However, god is working on me to where I am starting to be able to be happy in life's biggest storms.

[Giggletr0n]

Not really, my moods are pretty set in stone. Angry when random crap falls out of the cupboard when I am trying to put something away aka minor inconveniences that affect only me and calm about everything else.

[MindYourEyes]

I do but I definitely don’t lash out on people. I just let em know I’m not feeling myself and keep to myself. XD simple as that.

[Imcmullan]

Hahaha! I have the worst during that time of month... I'm pretty positive something possesses my body and brain😂😂

[MajesticTwelve]

I'm usually normal, sometimes I'll feel sad for no reason for like... an hour or less, then I'm good for another 3-4 months.

[JustAPerson2u]

My boyfriend keeps telling me it's unhealthy to only have two moods. I'm either happy or neutral. I don't get mad or upset (with the exception of people I love dying). It might have something to do with my anxiety meds

[MrPickles13]

I hope it's okay to ask but does the medication help you?

[JustAPerson2u]

For the most part, yes. I have very bad generalized anxiety disorder, and social anxiety disorder. So I can't function around people without the anxiety meds.

[MrPickles13]

That's good what is the medication called?

[MrPickles13]

That it helps I mean

[sawno]

My mood tends to be 50 shades of happy.
If i am not somewhat happy something is seriously wrong.

[Dongtai]

I used to when I was younger. I’m more emotionally mature now though.

[hotmom32]

yes especially during my TOTM and they can intense. I feel bad for my husband.

[EmmaMary]

Probably like most women, always around the TOTM, but thankfully nothing too severe.

[Clarke510]

Kind of yes
I have a non permanent condition resulting in wildly swinging from anxiety to depression and back and I'm on medicine to stabilise it.