It's easier to blame it on women's "hormonal rollercoaster" than to just accept that maybe there are reasons why women don't like being around you personally
Dude its not always the hormones i have 2 girlfriend en they have moodswings all the time
Sometimes periods seem more like a curse... just saying
Wym? They’re ONLY a curse, there’s nothing good about them at all.
You're lucky :)
It's all those good minerals that you absorb from the sea... lol
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You are spending way too much time in introspection.Here's what you need to do... turn your focus to others, instead of yourself and put it into action.Volunteer at CERT, Red Cross or any other Charitable Organization of your choice and start helping others instead of constant worry about yourself. Your self confidence and self worth will sky rocket and you will meet the best people on the planet who will love what you are doing and who you are.Don't walk... RUN to sign up immediately! ... you can thank me later :)
Well I have a lot of plans such as learning how to ride a horse and stuffbut I stand up in the morning at 4:40 am to go to work,arrive at home at 6pm and have to sleep at 10pm to not fall asleep.I do not yet have a drivers license and live in a remote village.No. Chance.
[...] but I can still generally tell what [that] something is and it's usually still not so abrupt of a change.
In general, I've gotten decent at accurately self-diagnosing what sort of things are making me upset or angry since I've learned to resist those types of thoughts. I wouldn't necessarily say 100% accurate since there might still be subconscious things going beneath the surface, but I've learned enough to bring enough of those subconscious kinds of thoughts to the surface to be able to challenge them with a counter-thought that makes me calm if not reasonably cheerful once more. I think "mood swings" as in like abrupt and unaccountable changes in mood might relate to not quite understanding what sort of underlying thought patterns are causing these changes in mood. I've devoted a lifetime to gain some degree of understanding and control there.
I also try to extensively psychoanalyze myself. I try to constantly ask questions like, "Why do I like/dislike this?" And I don't settle for simple answers because they're usually too simple. I try to reflect back on my entire life, and the way I formed my values, and the types of thoughts I tend to associate with various experiences and try to assess and reassess my estimated probabilities of every possible explanation I can come up with for what something might mean. And I sometimes do this out loud if someone is patient enough to bear with me in exploring my messy thoughts.And in that process, I gain some clarity over the underlying and some degree of subconscious reasons why I may like/dislike something. The more I can dig into my own subconscious, the more I can understand the gist of the causes driving one mood or another, as well as gain some control in resisting the negative types of moods that I find unpleasant to be in for extended periods of time (irritable, angry, upset, etc).
[...] And in that process, I gain some clarity over the underlying [causes] and some degree of [understanding behind the] subconscious reasons why I might like/dislike something. [...]
... lolI didn't think you were ever going to stop!You don't like to talk do you? ... I don't mean with me, I just mean in general? ... lol
I'm slightly less talkative in person, or at least a bit more back-and-forth! Surprisingly I get compliments about being a good listener there. :-D But with writing, I like to mull over what I'm trying to write and figure it out as I'm going. It's also kind of a process of trying to figure everything out for me -- out loud! :-DI would benefit so much from an editing function since I could iteratively refine what I'm thinking on top of the original draft instead of continuing in the comments as new thoughts arise while I'm reviewing and trying to challenge and dig further into thoughts and feelings associated with what I formerly wrote.But my writing style is kind of tied to how I avoid mood swings. If I feel a certain counter-productive mood coming like irritability working its way towards anger, I try to ask why. And I don't settle for the simple answers that crop up immediately like, "I don't like this," because there are many things I don't like that don't irritate that way.So I have to dig deeper and ask why and how I'm feeling irritated exactly over this specific event, and whether there were other events similar to that one that might have caused me to accumulate some stress that I'm just now becoming aware about. Perhaps there was an event from childhood that caused me to become really stressed that I'm subconsciously associated with the present event. Or perhaps the present event is still subconsciously causing all kinds of unrealistic and cynical thoughts to appear that need to eradicated.
... I can keep challenging and attacking this way. If it was verbalized on here as a question like, "Why are you so irritable?" I might end up with an answer starting with a list of things bothering me and then have 30 comments below that are 30 further iterations and attempts at trying to mull down exactly how and why these things bother me while ultimately trying to dig into my subconscious.But towards the bottom, I'll likely have reached some sort of "eureka" moment: some level of clarity where I've discovered something further about myself that I never knew before. It's then when I get some indication that I've successfully tapped into the subconscious, and with moods, I have a second litmus test since all this self-analysis of what is bothering me is of no practical use if I can fix the problem after I figure it out. But I find if I analyze well enough and at least break through the first layer or two of the subconscious, it becomes simple enough to fix the problem and revert back to a cheerful mood where I'm laughing and joking and feeling great, and can even laugh at the fact just moments later that this was bothering me in the first place.I also might have some ego here since I seem to have reached some level of ability to tap into the subconscious that I think is beyond normal thresholds as a result of this extensive self-analysis. One example is that I don't think I have mood swings, and I don't think people around would say so either (not even my wife who sees me in my worst moments). Another is that I don't have ordinary dreams. I can only lucid dream in a way that I'm fully aware that I'm sleeping and inside a dream. I think I ended up losing the ability to dream in a normal way as a result of poking so many holes from the layer of conscious to the subconscious that the first layer or two of the subconscious is now fully exposed and spilling into the conscious layer (although still often difficult to articulate in spoken/written verbal language).
[...] If it was verbalized on here as a question like, "Why are you so [irritated]?" [...][...] I have a second litmus test since all this self-analysis of what is bothering me is of no practical use if I [cannot] fix the problem after I figure it out. [...]
I hope it's okay to ask but does the medication help you?
For the most part, yes. I have very bad generalized anxiety disorder, and social anxiety disorder. So I can't function around people without the anxiety meds.
That's good what is the medication called?
That it helps I mean
OMG, I know! ... I hate when that happens!
@FunkyMonkee You'll figure it out.
Oh! It's a girl thing!!
@FunkyMonkee No, no... think orange, like a baboon.
Al the baboons I've ever seen are grey or brown.
@FunkyMonkee I apologize.. I mean the orangutan
You mean, Clyde? https://youtu.be/i98QrSSHxo4
You're the lucky one! :)
Actually quite normal for many of us :)
Ya I'm not complaining just stating a fact lol