What can I do when people are so cruel?

[Anonymous]

I am trying hard to lose weight, but it's really hard when people are criticizing me when I am out exercising. I usually go on walks, and when I approach an intersection I get people laughing and making comments. These are usually guys who are in their early 20's and mostly male. I was walking today and there were guys staring at me and lauging. Some have made comments like "want a ride? Sorry no one over 300lbs!" Which I have never been over 200lbs until recently.

Now I realize I need to lose weight, I don't need someone to tell me that. I am about 220-225, and about 5'6". I am looking to lose about 40lbs and then re-assess my plan after that to alter it to my then current needs and see how much more I will want to lose. I have to be very careful too because I have a thyroid issue and I have had it thrown off before with weight loss.

But how can I stay motivated when I am constantly being ridiculed?

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I'll admit, I am pretty ashamed of the weight gain. But I don't feel as though I should have to endure the harassment I receive. At least I am trying to do something about it.

[Jinmetsu_Rasetsu]

F*ck those guys... At least you are doing something to cause change for yourself that is positive. So what they laugh. When I first Joined the military, I weighed 220 and I am 5'5"... I barely could run a mile without choking up a lung... Hell, I barely made the 1 mile in 8 minutes... But after 6 weeks, I was 167 and could outrun all of the little snigering bastards (well, except the korean guy, he was still the fastest runner in our company, but he did not laugh at me...) that doubted me before... I was able to run 3 miles in 15 mins...

My point is this... I bet the bastards that laugh now will be the first limp d*ck bastards hitting on you when you get your shape. THink of that as motivation. If you are cynical enough, perhaps the idea of you rejecting the bastards when they hit on you is a worthwhile motivational thought. I wish you luck!

[learningthegame16]

Great advice!

[Jinmetsu_Rasetsu]

Meh, I hate naysayers that f*ck things up for those who try to do good for themselves... I'd love to be the first to dissapoint them when I don't fall down...

[Jinmetsu_Rasetsu]

I hope that you are keeping with it! Hell, I would not mind seeing the transformation photos of you when you get to where you would like to be.

Still, I wish you luck with your endevours!

[Asker]

Thanks! I realized why I was having such trouble, haven't made any progress unfortunately. But its not really in my control at the moment. I have a condition that is screwing with my systems in my body so I can't really do much until it's resolved. But here's hoping that I can after. Right now I am just eating healthy and trying to do my best to workout.

[Jinmetsu_Rasetsu]

Understood... Take care of yourself first. If a machine malfunctions, it is not prudent to cause it to run continuously when the case be it is not repaired.

I hope for the best for you.

[myspacemybroke]

No you don't deserve it. People enjoy the ability to ridicule others in whatever way they can. It's part of being around humans. I would suggest getting up earlier, it works quite well. I used to get up a little before 6 am and go for a jog in the morning. Though I'm also in a bit of a suburb area with just residential buildings. If you're farther towards the main city then that would be a little more difficult. You could always try getting one of those stair master things or private gym tutelage.

[Deft_maiden]

I find I hard to imagine such assholes exist! I mean they must be pretty miserable

Themselves to take pleasure in ridiculing someone so harshly. Put on some music and head phones. Go to quieter places and keep focus on what is important. Also realize that everyone gets criticized for something or another. Keep it in perspective and don't place undo importance on these dirt bags. They mean nothing.. Also seek help from a nutrition counselor and make sure your taking medication for your thyroid problem.

There people out there rooting for you. Best of luck :)

[ThenThereWas1]

I hope you are so proud of yourself. Loosing weight is a big task to take on, and its hard enough to do without being talked down to by those who are ignorant. I'd recommend finding a friend who will exercise with you. There are some things that I feel so much more comfortable and confident doing when I have a friend at my side. Because when you're with a friend, you're having so much fun that nothing else matters. AND, a good friend will stick up for you. I really hope you don't let those low lifes stop you from reaching your goal. Best of luck <3

[slipslender]

WTF

what assholes. I hope they get runover by an 18-wheeler. repeatedly. if I were you, exercise with music on. it will totally help you zone out and you won't notice such douchebag behavior. ugh. I want to beat those guys up. don't let them discourage you. when you're at a weight you like and you look bangin', those dudes are gonna be lining around the block for you ;)

at which point in time, you may reject them as you please :p

[curiouschica]

If I were u, I would ignore those idiots and walk even faster! Use it as motivation! Could you possibly look into joining a fitness center as well (Curves or traditional coed kind)? Could use other equipment like the bike or elliptical or even swimming because walking will only get you so far...

[christian2724]

Exercise somewhere that's more private. Not near a school. Usually there is a park, or trail someplace where you'll be around adults and not the asshats you describe. You just need a change of scenery.

I'm curious where you live, where people would treat you like this.

[J_White90]

Wow, those guys are straight up assh0les. I'd say maybe see about getting a gym membership or something. People will probably will still glance a bit but pretty sure there won't be any staring or ridicule like that (since other people are there to work on their bodies as well). If that's not an option, I don't really have any other suggestions other than try not to let those b@stards get to you too much.

[Lee10]

F*** anyone and everyone that tries to put you down.. Your motivation should be from inside, you wanting to make that change.. Not because of what other people think, yes people can cruel but there obviously pathetic weak people who take their insecurities out on others. Just think do.i really need to lose weight to be happy? If so think of how good you will feel not.just on the inside but physically..

[gummybear888]

Work on your health, exercise, drink lots of water.

ignore the douche bags

cut out the bad people in your life and tell them they can go suck a d*** because what they just said isn't nice.

just believe in yourself and eventually you get there.

just hearing what those guys said makes me want to punch them right..now.

[BoobMan]

Seriously--don't worry about it. You're doing the right thing working on your health. Remember with weight loss only half the battle is exercise. The rest is eating right.

Maybe join a gym. People there tend to be too focused on their own workout to bother you.

[HidingMyHeart]

Stay Strong, Focus, Eat Right and just Believe in yourself and you will get to where you wanna be :)

[Voltaire]

Shouldn't the ridicule motivate you? Seeing as, you know, it would stop if you weren't fat.

[Jinmetsu_Rasetsu]

Not the most tactful advice, but I understand what you are trying to do...