Is there any way to be cured from wanting to crossdress?

[Mr_Pix]

Okay, first clarification because I can foresee questions in comments, I'm a guy, straight at it, no desire or thoughts about wanting to be a woman (I'd consider something drastic/lethal if that was the case).

I used to do it some time ago, but got in some really uncomfortable situations at home when any of it was discovered. I cannot even be in a relationship without the fear of it becoming roasting material or a dealbreaker, so I have tried to quit it, stop it at all, even psychologically torturing myself because of it, but the thoughts only come back and stronger. I'm sick of this, I hate myself. I just want to be normal and not having something to hide.

There was even a time I went to therapy, but the only thing I got there was a "Your behaviour is not dysfunctional, your environment is", but what do you do with that? I just started hating myself even more after that. Not even excercise is effective to keep the thoughts away, it makes them worse, like "Would a dress like the one I saw the other day fit better if I got thinner?" or wanting to try more things or outfits.

What can I do? I'm sick of all the "You need to accept yourself" stuff. I don't even understand how does one even do that.

I hope you had or will have a nice day or evening.

[Anonymous]

It’s not normal. Society today is just obsessed with encouraging men to become more feminine, as well as with telling people that any behaviour that is not normal is acceptable because they don’t want anybody to feel bad for any reason. Some people are obsessed with normalising everything that isn’t normal.

People who are already like that are also very often looking to recruit as many other people to join them as possible. That’s why if you’re to ask other CDs they’ll tell you to accept yourself, they won’t even consider the fact that you want to stop.

You shouldn’t hate yourself for it, that’s not good for your mental health. Admitting that you have a problem shouldn’t make you feel bad about yourself. Your head is screwed on straight enough for you to notice this rather than trying to justify it, unlike many.

When did you start doing this, and why do you think you started? Do you find it sexually arousing?

[Guy13]

Simply stop doing it... It is an unnecessary bad habit !!

[dustybiker]

Legitimate question.. Do they have cross-dressing forums online? Somewhere you can ask this in a more understanding space? I fear GaG isn‘t the best experienced source. I myself don’t know what to suggest. But I feel for you.

[Mr_Pix]

There are and I have asked the same or very similar questions there, however, responses are just about me having to accept myself and embrace it, which is confusing. I don't care if I like it or if it makes me "happy", I just want to be normal.

[dustybiker]

I think you might have to see a professional. Sort out what it means to you. Get past the frustration.

[Anonymous]

It’s nothing to be cured. The problem isn’t with you, it’s with the people around you. If they can’t be chill about you and what you like, I mean screw them.

You shouldn’t hide something from a relationship. After all, if it does turn into something long term, are you going to be happy? Cause after all, isn’t that all that matters?

[Andrew1968]

Is there a way of being cured from believing that crossdressers need to be cured?

[cyclist89]

What clothes you crossdress? It's important.

[boobliker]

I don't know of any but what is wrong with it if that is what you like

[Iron_Man]

Talk to a psychiatrist

[Anonymous]

Talk to a therapist.