In what way did your family shape your body image? Is it a problem for you or like bothering you?

[melanieeeB]

Like we have always been a family of skinny tall people (and then there is my minion ass).
I never grew up with problems of how to lose weight and personally tried to gain weight but never succeeded until now

This weekend we had family come over, who we see once a year and all of them kept talking about my body (as usual!) but this time also about how much "weight" I gained and me becoming "fat" and my aunt was like oh don't eat that and shit... and to be clear, yes I proudly did gain a lot of well healthy weight! but I'm aware that for other people I'm still considered skinny but ughhh it was just soooo damn annoying!
I hate if people focus to much on my body.

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Oh yeah I forgot ass and tits hahaha most females in my family are flat, my aunt and me have some curves... my well big sister even cried when her ass grew a tiny little bit and my mom was like 'Omg you immediately need to lose weight!" smh thankfully I'm not like that and not supporting super thinness or fatness...

[JDavid25]

My family never criticized per say for my body, but they do comment a lot on it.. My mother and father ( I guess) gave me pretty good genetics, so I was pretty skinny growing up, but by 19 started gaining weight slowly til I was in my early 20s getting kinda chubby.. They used to comment on how I was getting fat, (it was mainly my little brother because of my stomach, and the fact that he is still skinny but kinda muscular.) Now it's that I'm just muscles.. I'm really a medium lean muscular guy.. But to my family I might as well be huge.. They can be my greatest motivators negatively or positively.. LOL

[JDavid25]

Thanks for MHO L!

[NathanDavis]

hmm... body image was never a thing really, not in our family

nothing extreme really, not thin, not fat... we would all just eat balanced and we're all fairly active, work a lot, so the focus was health, if anything but not body image

now, because of our extended family, in which there's issues with heart conditions, blood pressure, and sugar, and all that... our parents were more conscious about our health, so it was more to prevent those issues in the future, rather than mantain certain body image, nowadays with all being adults, that is just a lifetime habit

[melanieeeB]

Sounds pretty positive and balanced 🙏🏼

[NathanDavis]

so far, so good (=

[DizzyDesii]

My fam was hating like fck when I had my shape. But it also made them want to dress me up everywhere we went to shop as if i was some lifeless barbie doll they could toy with. Other than that, we joke about how we want eachothers body parts, like my mom and grandma wish they had bigger tits like me, and i wish i had a bigger ass like theirs. My sis got lucky and got blessed with both but she doesn't use her power 😂 what a waste lol

[melanieeeB]

She might use it one day tho haha

[Fleet7635]

Well I guess maybe the world couldn’t handle her powers but it’s ok

[Guardian45]

With Great power comes GREAT responsibility!

[AsaKyo]

My dad has called me a pig, a lard and a fat ass my whole life lmao

I've never been obese, but when I was in high school, I was gaining weight from the stress of dealing with toxic people and even when I lost all that weight at 16 and have been trying to keep it all off since then, he still calls me all those things, so I guess it's a lost cause

[CrazyGirl2]

I think my mom and dad gave me a great foundation upon which to build things like a healthy body image. My mom has really big boobs, so I always figured that I would too… SURPRISE! That never materialized, I was a B-cup for almost the entirety of my teens, but then earlier this year my breasts were really sore, (like puberty sore, the girls will know what I mean) anyway believe it or not at 19 I finally grew into a full C-cup and while obviously nothing like my moms huge boobs, I’m so happy with a “C” cup, like ecstatic. So other than that I'm fairly attractive, I'm in great shape (although I did gain my freshman 15) I still look good, and I don’t have a body image issues. (Thank God! Well, and mom and dad)

[jennifer_bloom]

My dad likes to eat junk food and it makes our entire family gain weight. When I tell my dad I want to eat Kale salad, he makes roasted peanuts and marinated chicken. When I tell my dad I want to buy oatmeal, he tells me to buy pizza. When I tell my dad I want to eat chicken wings, he buys hot dogs.

[Agape93]

For the longest time they made me hate it. Like I wanted to remove my skin and organs so it would stop.

But ever since lkle 11th or 12th grade, I've been taller than just about everyone in the family without a weight issue.

[melanieeeB]

Oh damn it sounds awful, I mean the way they made you feel... hope it's better now🙏🏼

[Agape93]

Yeap I cut them out of my life entirely. Fuck em all.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I've always had a weight problem all my life and some family members would make some sarcastic comments about me like this one late great uncle would say it looks like you're feeding these kids a lot of spaghetti and that kind of hurt me also in school I dealt with peers making fun of me yes it was a battle.

[UniquelyBasic]

My family has a lot of more big people, not obese but sort of big and Im the complete opposite. I didn't try to be skinny but its just how I am. I dont have a problem with it though.

[melanieeeB]

It's really good that you yourself don't have a problem with your own body🙏🏼

[UniquelyBasic]

Yeah, Im happy with my body but thats not to say I can't improve some things about it though.

[Mansearching]

You do you. If someone else has a negative opinion, then no need for them in your life. Family has to accept who you are.

Now. There is curvy bc of your body type. But there is being overweight or obese that effects your health. If people are talking to you about that then you may need to listen. Bc they love you and want you around. So if its bc you have a Kim K butt or Pam A. boobs then they might be jealous.

[ArtemisSilver]

Probably for the worse, I used to do yoga and work out as a teen until I was abused to the point of never leaving my room and giving all that stuff up. I've tried to get back into it but it's harder as you age.

[Anonymous]

Well, they didn't really say much when I was fat. But when I ate a lot of trash they would tell me I would get fat.

I got an eating disorder and became extremely skinny, it worried my family and they kept on commenting about it. I weighed 46 kgs.

Now I weigh 57 kgs and I'm healthy and I don't eat too much or too little. They don't say much about it. I'm not fat, I just have muscular thighs and arms.

My family haven't affected my body image that much.

[Andres77]

We were so busy trying to make money to pay bills and buy food that we didn’t have the luxury of spending time over something so petty and irrelevant.

[hypojoe]

I was born with hypospadias and after surgery never had a follow up never knew what it was even called untill my 20's im still dealing with it i m currently waiting for reconstructive surgery i could write a book about what my family did or didn't do

[Anonymous]

I've been told i'm the spitting image of my father, 6'5" and gangly.

It's not a problem for me. But I'm not a real extroverted person. I have been told my stature is intimidating before. And considering how many times a week I get asked how tall I am. I always wonder if that keeps a majority of people away or my lack of extrovertedness does.

[LiamJHayden]

Not sure. I am taller and more athletic than my parents or other relatives were.

[Iron_Man]

I come from good bloodlines everything was perfect

[clampfan101]

I feel extremely… average. Nothing comes to mind.

[Anonymous]

I always got criticized and made fun of for being bone-skinny and weak. There was no food to eat.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't care about it. So long i am not fat or starving.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

I have a little belly (not fat) but my parents kinda think guys should look like that

[LEGENDARY4200]

Never really had that problem. They've always been supportive no matter what

[roy_ricky09]

I'd say you are blessed

[Engin12]

What is body image?