Being a stoner is all I know! I want to fit in with new groups.

[Anonymous]

I quit smoking a few months ago, but I find it hard to hang out with people other than stoners, I have tried but I just don't feel like I'm being myself and I feel uncomfortable when I can't say "dudddde" or "legit!". Quitting is harder than you'd think, you have to change who you are, because most sober people don't want to hang out with someone who has squinty eyes all the time and a creepy smirk (that is my stoned face and it just kinda stuck) I don't have a question, I would just like some advice on transitioning and your personal experiences, with culture changes in general, I don't want to loose who I am but I want to fit in with new groups, should I practice relaxing my face?

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also I think I scare people off with talking about government conspiracies (something I used to do with my old stoner friends) I don't like shopping and I don't like music or movies and I don't like partying so right there that cancels out a lot of friends for me. I like gardening, but there isn't a big gardening scene in my town, haha. I do like animals, but that doesn't mean I like people that like animals, they actually creep me out. dammit I think I will go back to my stoner friends!

[PatrickRory]

hahah "there isn't a big gardening scene in my town" >.< hahahha. Ah, yeah. Stopping smoking is a great thing because you realize how much clearer and focused life can be without being stoned every day. Its hard when your friends are all stoners because when you do chill with them you are tempted into smoking again. I had this same problem, the thing is I figured out all those guys werent true friends because when I stopped they stopped calling me up..all they really needed me for was a throw down on a blunt, bunch of fiends I'm telling you.

BUT, You don't have to change who you are one bit at all you just have to figure out who you are when your not high. There are plenty of cool people out there who don't smoke weed (me) and you just have to be open to befriend these people. You're just comfortable with your old friends, your nervous to stray away and accept that your life is changing as are the people surrounding you are changing. Just be open to all people and learn to get to know them before you think they don't like you. Give people a chance.

[PatrickRory]

thank you, hope I helped.

[Brando]

Don't let other stoners see this, you'll screw up their argument lol.

As for the question, you don't have to change who you are you just have to realize that you can do other things for time-fillers. If that means smoking, gardening, animals, music/instruments, just whatever. I think the only issue here is if you are becoming dependent on weed to define yourself, what you do, and the people you associate with. Why can't you hang out with your stoner friends but not smoke/leave when they start smoking?

[Just--a--Girl]

well done for quitting! :) trying to relax your face would probably be a good idea and should also (hopefully) have pretty quick results. Have a look around and see if there is a gardening group anywhere in your town or near where you live. I don't have any personal experiance with any of this but good luck and I bet you'll get there in time x

[kushman_204]

just start smoking kush again, there is nothing wrong with smoking kush its good for you

[Asker]

for the time being I cannot risk being caught smoking, but I will always have a place in my heart for mary jane, just can't for a while:/

[jimmy217]

hang out with your old friends and don't smoke? Most of my friends smoke weed but I dont...

[Shaun]

LOL

[IncubusFan]

Get a hobby