Is everyone else depressed or is it just me?

[MikeTheBartender]

I toyed with the idea of making this anonymous, but I think keeping it my real profile will add to the veracity of the story. So here we go, I have a life I think most people may dream of. I'm making a lot of money, I have been all over the world, own cool shit, I have lots of sex w hot women. But so often I find myself feeling alone. I do not have good relationships with women, I'm good at getting laid but I'm not good at keeping them around. Maybe that's part of the depression. I also don't feel like my friendships are strong. Anyway, I feel like if you saw me in the outside world you would think I am super happy, but I definitely am not. So I'm here to ask, does everyone feel this way or are the rest of you generally happy?

[Anonymous]

I am not far from your age. I walked away from dating decades ago, do not sleep around and prefer to remain single. I also train regularly doing static isometric lifts and feel great. I am on the way to making huge amounts of money but not there yet and I am never depressed.

Before I invited God into my life I was always depressed and felt like life was not worth living. We are both physical and spiritual beings. If we attend only to one side, we will never feel complete. Listen to what this guy says in the short. Although his situation is obviously different, the same message is there. You've attended to your physical needs but what of your spiritual ones?

I also saw another video from a man that said he was making about 30,000 dollars a month, getting drunk, and sleeping with loads of hot women. He said he was in the military so had traveled everywhere you could imagine. He went to parties, clubs and did all kinds of stuff but he said despite this, he was never happy... until he found Jesus. Thus this is your message today. Your soul is clearly trying to call out...

https://www.youtube.com/embed/aM0n9Azz27s

[BoobSlayer]

You sound like a total shmuck. I'd be depressed if I were you, honestly.

[MikeTheBartender]

Explain? Why would you be depressed? Hate never comes from above by the way.

[BoobSlayer]

You're 42 years old and still a victim of the whole money, objectifying women for your own ego gratification, and to use your words, "cool shit" mentality. If you were a hip hop video, I'd get through about 10 seconds of it, because I've seen it again and again. Have you ever looked inward a day in your life? Treat yourself with kindness and respect, as well as those around you, then you won't be unhappy. I don't know anyone in the "outside world" who is dumb enough to believe that you're happy just because you have charisma and material success. But, I don't surround myself with morons.

[MikeTheBartender]

Well said actually.

[kylee2437]

I think I’m a little bit of both, but I do think I have chronic depression episodes in general. Your depression may play into why you can’t keep relationships /you are so into hooking up with women. It sounds emotionally unavailable. I recommend investing into yourself more that has nothing to do with money. Hit the gym, meditate, therapy , etc.

[MikeTheBartender]

I am in incredible shape compared to the average loser, sic pack, quads, PECS etc. therapy and mediation ok maybe that could help. But I do art music etc... Nothing over comes the dark times. sometimes.

[kylee2437]

@MikeTheBartender I’ll agree to that! Just me being me , I was kind of connecting behaviors to an underlying issue which is that your depression (built up deep seeded trauma) is not allowing you to open up enough to have a genuine connection with a woman.

[On_cloud_wine]

You’re around a lot of people. We absorb a lot of energy if we allow it. On top of that, your promiscuity is making you feel like you’re not enough. That explains your depression

[MikeTheBartender]

thanks for the reply.. Can't just be a high sex drive?

[ShadezMcgee]

Been in that position before. On the outside people saw a young man who had his life squared away. Good job, good family, small amount of close friends, didn't sleep with a lot of women but being a late bloomer I messed up with women I did like, got my own place, etc.

Even though I had all of that and am used to being alone, I felt lonely and stuck. I didn't have purpose to put it simply and that bothered me for a long time. I had accomplished a lot of goals and done a lot for someone my age, but I had no idea what I really wanted to do.

It took time, but even after I found what I wanted to do it took further talks with my therapist and with my parents. It's one thing to have all that I did, but not having someone to share it with is where I realized that disconnect was. Found a girl that is similar to me a couple of years ago and we are coming up on three years here in July. It definitely made a difference for me.

[LazerBean]

There's seems to be plenty of depressed people, but I do think the link between promiscuity and mental illness seems to be strong.

[MikeTheBartender]

Like more sex is more depressed?

[LazerBean]

No, just illegitimate sex.

[slatyb]

Many people are, but not everyone.

You have money. Find a therapist. You may have to try more than one to find one that works for you.