Anyone else have periods of time where you just want to start over completely? How do you deal with those feelings?

[JaxiCats]

I keep having the thought of getting rid of everything and starting over entirely. I just want to be free of everything but I can’t (I physically, emotionally or mentally can’t do it). I have pets, a job and a fiancé. I’ve been struggling with these thoughts/emotions for years and therapy isn’t helping enough. It feels like when you restart a play through/run like in Minecraft when you make a new world.

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It feels almost, if not like a quarter life crisis.

[IslaTheWitch]

Some people are like that. It doesn't have to be any crisis (in my case, for sure, it is not :) )

I don't deal too much. In such moments I sit down and do plans. I look for legal requirements to emigrate to Australia, China, or any other part of the world I consider interesting at that moment. It's quite exhausting, so after some time, I give up :D And return to my normal life

I have countless pages in my bookmarks with all the needed info for emigrating to different countries and how life looks like there. Just the number of things I would have to do was stopping me.

[dynamicyandere]

I’ve had times when I felt like, “Damn, I should have ____ instead.” Or “If only I didn’t ____.” Or “Man, I wish I didn’t waste so much time on ____.”


But, we can’t change the past. The past is unchangeable. There’s nothing left we can do about the past


The future, however, always can be changed.


We can do the best that we can moving forward.


Life is like a game of poker.


You’re dealt a hand, and you just have to play that hand, the best way that you can.


Accept what is outside of your control (the past), accept the choices you have available to you now, and make the best choices you can to move towards the most fulfilling future you can have.

[JaxiCats]

I’m not talking about my past at all. I don’t regret my past or anything.

[dynamicyandere]

Your past is what has led you to your present.

If you have no regrets about the past, why would you want to start over?

[dynamicyandere]

I went through an existential crisis around ages 21-23.

But, one of the things that helped me was getting clear on what I wanted in life — what kind of life I’d be satisfied with on my deathbed — and just made choices moving forward that honored that future self.

[JaxiCats]

Because I don’t know what to do with myself, i feel overwhelmed (which happens very easily) but I don’t know how to overcome it and I can’t just take it one at a time unfortunately (never have been able to and it won’t get easier as I get older) so then I’m stuck not knowing what to do, think or feel and I’ve been like this since the start of highschool

[dynamicyandere]

Hmm. I believe one thing that may help is trying to believe that things can get better in the future.

If you don’t believe that’s a possibility, you’ll limit yourself to what’s possible.

Perhaps there are some doors in life that can open, but only if you have the hope that they can be opened.

I used to get stressed out and overwhelmed a lot easier in the past.

But, over time, as I learned how to work through it better, slowly but surely, I eventually became able to handle stress quite well.

So, it will take time. But it things can better. You need to believe that it’s possible though.

[Ironic_Method]

I think most people have had that thought one way or the other, but the fact is: you can't. Best start making changes now to make yourself happy.

[jxxrn]

I know exactly what you mean. That feeling is very familiar to me. Sometimes I will actually go through my house and throw a bunch of stuff away. Too much stuff causes me a lot of stress, and throwing some of it away helps me feel better. And sometimes I have those urges where I just want to reset my life, start fresh and make better choices. I know that’s impossible to do because I have kids now, but it’s a gnawing feeling nonetheless.

[JaxiCats]

How do you deal with it?

[jxxrn]

Honestly, not well. When it happens I get into a bad funk where I have no motivation to do anything. I think I struggle with depression, and maybe this phenomenon you described is linked to that, I’m not sure. It’s hard to snap out of it, and it’s lonely

[JaxiCats]

It is, I had countless friends and acquaintances in highschool that I just cut off or stopped talking to because I get like this. I full on block them. Now I’ve just been filling whatever I feel with a hobby like aquatics and now I have spent almost 1000 in fish, fishtanks and stands, filters etc.