AITA for being jealous of my boyfriend's weight loss progress?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend and I are trying to lose weight although he has much less weight to lose than I do. I have about 150 to lose while he only has maybe about 15 to 20 to lose to be at a healthy weight and it's so frustrating seeing him drop the weight so fast (like he's down maybe 10-12lbs in about 2 weeks) while I am struggling to drop the weight (I've dropped 12 in 4 weeks) and I am much much much much bigger than him (obviously) so I should be dropping more weight than him at this point.

I know it's great that we both are getting healthy and losing the weight but I just feel so insecure about the fact that he's going to look like a snack soon and I'm going to still look fat and disgusting. I have a long way to go and I feel like people will start looking at us as if why is he with me. He could do so much better.

Don't get me wrong. I'm proud of my boyfriend for cutting back on the alcohol and the fast food and getting his health together and I want him to continue doing great but I just can't help but feel a slight bit of jealousy at his progress. And yes I know the progress will slow down eventually but right now he's Michael Phelps in the weight loss department.

I also know that I should be focusing on my weight loss efforts and not his but when he tells me about his progress everyday, it's frustrating to say the least.

Am I the asshole for feeling this way?

[rosemilk]

weight loss is the same goal you both have and should have the same support from both sides since you two are doing it together. does not matter how much you have to lose. generally people who weigh more lose weight faster because cutting calories lets them burn more calories faster than someone who only has to lose like 20 lbs.

12 lbs in 4 weeks is actually pretty good. do not beat yourself up over this! that's 12 lbs closer to your goal. did he lose 12 lbs in 4 weeks? if he did, that's a bit too fast since he only has to lose 15-20 lbs. generally with only needing to lose that much, at a smaller weight, progress is slower. unless he's going extreme and really cutting his calories, which isn't always the healthiest because he can easily gain it back.

he should be motivating you. i'm sure he's not doing this to make you jealous, i think he's telling you so it can help you be better too. just keep going, the time will pass either way but you can definitely make a change for the better

[Asker]

Thank you. You are so right. And he is motivating me. He always encourages me. I know I shouldn't be jealous. I should be happy that we're both trying to get healthy. The time will pass and hopefully soon enough we will be at healthier weights. Mines may take a bit longer but if I stay the course I will get there! We both will!

[LazerBean]

Yes, you are. Instead of being jealous at his progress and achievements, maybe be grateful that you found someone who loves you and has chosen to be with you through your struggles.

[Asker]

Yeah you're right. I definitely should be grateful and stop being jealous.

[LazerBean]

You're a blessed woman to have someone like that, just keep pushing forward and y'all will be fine

[Asker]

Ok will do!

[Asker]

Thanks

[Anonymous]

Do you have any idea how powerful our words are? I'd advise you to only ever confess your desired outcome, not 'I'm going to still look fat and disgusting.'

In any case, your jealousy suggests deeper issues that require deliverance or working through. It is simple for me to say 'instead of seeing jealousy, see inspiration' but once you've worked through the core of the cause, this is how you will see it.

Remember the power of words. I spoke my thinning crown back into growth. Thus your own words can speak your weight either way. My friend used subliminal audio to help lose weight.

[Asker]

That's so true. Thank you. I will keep that in mind and do just that!

[Zestyassmf1997]

Yes…but your feelings are natural. As far as what I’d do to get rid of them? Hm…recognize that it’s not a competition. Recognize that your support helps him. And recognize that it’s not about you. Learn to accept that he’s getting better. And if you want, you can begin your own journey.

[Asker]

Thank you. I will do just that.

[jaskin777]

No because I know exactly how u feel I'm trying to lose weight to

[Asker]

Thank you. That makes me feel a whole lot better.

[TallAnon]

Yes; Turn it into motivation instead.

[Asker]

Ok will do!

[kingmaker21]

Leave him he deserves better

[Asker]

Why? Because of my jealousy?

[kingmaker21]

Yes you became drama n headache

[Asker]

I haven't told him any of this. This is just how I feel. I won't tell him this because I know it's just drama like you said but I can't help how I feel at the same time.

[kingmaker21]

So? Your jealousy n insecurity is your problem not his...

[Asker]

Indeed it is and I will try to sort through it and deal with it. Thanks.

[kingmaker21]

Your welcome ma'am 😘