How do I get my girlfriend to start working out?

[Eller200]

I've been with her for 4 months now, and I keep telling her she needs to start getting active to change her life style, I know she hates her life style, but doesn't have the will power to do anything about it.

[december1990]

First of all .. If we wanted to judge you we could say your a horrible person for trying to make your girlfriend lose weight but it reminds me of my ex boyfriend.. He wanted me to lose weight and be healthy because 1. I was gaining weight so rapidly and wasn't healthy 2. Because I always complained about being fat... and I remember out of LOVE that he did this for me not because he was shallow but because he wanted to see me get better and be healthy and fit and happy

so I think your doing the right thing but the BIGGEST thing you can do is... exercise with your girlfriend or get her to exercise with you

For instance I remember my ex boyfriend.. He would always say "Why are you eating another chili dog?" Or "Why are you going to eat desert we just had a big meal?" and I'd get all pissed off about it and I would say "Let me eat what I want to" Lol because I loved food back then and just wanted to eat.. But.. I think if you want your girlfriend to lose weight.. You should get her to love exercise first.. lol

My reason for this is because if she loves food it's going to be hard to change her eating lifestyle.. unless she's a cool/ open minded/ sweet chic who already wants to make the weight loss/ diet change.. if not exercise would be better because

1. it will bring you closer

if you want to suggest exercise to her... both of you should buy gym memberships and say "we're going to do this together," 2 you can make it romantic by taking her out on a walk and holding hands

if you get her inspired by working out (like take a gym class lol zumba so she will have fun or a kick boxing class) this will motivate her to change her diet

but if you have a girlfriend who is ready to change her diet (this is hardest for everyone especially epople who love food) ... than dive her into the healthy diet changes like healthy recipes you guys can bake together

so all I can say is its good you want to see your girlfriend get better and healthy because health is important you don't want her to die or have health complications which is good

so I think you should sit down with her, voice your concerns, and help her along the way

be her coach

be her trainer

be inspiring and encouraging to her

do not be mean or condensending or get pissed off lol do this all in love

Good luck!

And pray!

[Eller200]

Thank you, you have given me a lot to think about

[tohrment]

Get involved.

Suggest you do outdoorsy/active things together. Get a gym membership together. Go to the beach to swim. Go for hikes. Or just go for long walks together.

If you make it a joint activity and motivate her, it will be much easier for her. She might realize she enjoys it and start taking initiative.

[acka72]

Excellent answer!

[digital_haze]

Screw the gym... Its only for people who are actually motivated. For most its pretty much the most boring place in the world.

Just go out, be active. You guys don't need to be running marathons or climbing mountains, just be more active than normal.

Find some activity EVERYDAY that requires you guys to be out and walking for at least an hour. Go window shopping. Do the doggy walks at the mall if they have a pet store. check out some museums (lots of free ones). Botanical gardens, lakes and parks, art district downtown are all good places to just take a stroll.

If she's the more adventurous sort, go on hikes or maybe try geocaching as a fun activity that will gets you guys out into different terrain and exploring the city/wilderness

One thing that I find really fun is walks in the rain. If it rains where you live, make a new tradition where you guys ALWAYS go for a long walk when it rains. Its fun and you guys can be silly and jump in puddles and just play and have a good time.

The most important part of this plan though, is the way you frame it. DO NOT SAY YOURE DOING THIS SO SHE CAN GET FIT...Just do it, don't bring it up. Grab her and say hey lets do this or lets do that. Some people have a natural aversion to doing things just to get in shape and will resist even if the activity is fun and not all that strenuous.

[sketchy]

Forget trying to get her to a gym - she'll be bored out of her mind and probably feel quite self-conscious and uncomfortable.

Instead, look for an activity that is actually fun for her, that you can do as well, and that will also help with fitness.

If she's the outdoorsy type, go hiking together. If she likes watching "Dancing with the Stars" etc, go take dance lessons together. If she used to play a sport when she was younger, go join a club together. If she has a bit of a vicious streak (most girls do) try some kind of martial art.

Pick up a brochure from your local community center (or whatever the US equivalent is) and see if there's anything there that interests her.

And since this is about her (not just you trying to make her look hotter), you need to be prepared to give anything a try - even if it doesn't sound like fun, you should go along (and show enthusiasm!) to be supportive.

[SheepdogAmongUs]

^best answer.

[ImSoSozzled]

Unscrew one of the kitchen chairs so that when she sits down on it, it breaks. That should do the trick.

[SheepdogAmongUs]

I'm laughing because I know I'd actually do this...It's like the scene in Tommy Boy with the car door at the gas station:

*wham!* "What'd you DO?!?!"

[Eller200]

this may be funny, but not needed

[Stacyzee]

You can't change someone unless they want to change themselves. She has to have the motivation within her to want to do so herself, until then your talking will be pointless.

[Eller200]

motivate herself? I seen crackheads who have no motivation, then when their love ones step in, they get motivated for their love ones. So your definitely wrong, my point proven there

[Stacyzee]

There is a reason why what you stated is called an opinion and not a fact.

Those loved ones push that person to get help.

But that person wants it themselves, they just needed that extra push.

Trust me I know, I've been in addiction more than half of my life.

[martyfellow]

The toughest thing in the world is to get someone to take up good habits. All you can do is hint and lead by example. IF you directly suggest it all the time I guarantee she'll get fruious with you.

[WoIIie]

People who see their problems but don't do anything about it are leaning on a crutch.

Until that crutch is gone, they will never fall and find the strength to pick themselves back up.

[WeaponZero]

By working out with her. Do active things together.

[Anonymous]

Have you considered that you could have chosen a girl whose life you accepted over one you're gonna nag for the rest of her life?

[tohrment]

He said that she doesn't like her lifestyle, either. He's trying to motivate her. That's not a bad thing.

[Opinion Owner]

This usually means, "I want a hotter girlfriend" ... Unless she specifically comes to you begging for help, she is just saying that crap to get you off her back.

[Opinion Owner]

If she has a smartphone, the "MyFitnessPal" app is really good for dieting, by the way. I think there is a web version too.

[tohrment]

You shouldn't make assumptions. Maybe he genuinely just wants her to be happy with her lifestyle. And I disagree. Sometimes those who need help are too proud to ask for it.

[Opinion Owner]

Dudes aren't that altruistic ... and honestly, most women aren't either. Guys are motivated by the big, exciting chemical rushes: better sex, better toys, success, pride. It doesn't make them better or worse than women, just how our brains work. No matter how bad you wanna bone a hotter chick, you've gotta do a REALLY good job of hiding this behind pretending to be caring.

[justlilly]

Find a gym and buy a membership for her and yourself. Then, go to the gym together.

[beerY33]

You can encourage her, but you can't make her do anything.

[KBMC1]

there is a fitnessprogram called "BBB" (BorstenBuikBillen) BreastsBootyBelly :) this should do!

[NerdInDenial]

You lead by example. Start working out yourself, and invite her to come along.

[Anonymous]

ask her to be your work out buddy