What do guys think of old scars?

[Anonymous]

guys what do you think when you see a girl with old cutting scars? I used to do it and now I have these ugly scars and I'm afraid he won't like me because of it?

[JohnnyBlaze]

The scars themselves wouldn't be an issue, but the back story would.

Most people don't understand why someone would cause themselves injury; it's hard for someone who hasn't done it to grasp the logic of inflicting pain in order to relieve pain. People have a big fear of any uncommon mental state, and may be afraid that you have a mental disorder or might start cutting again.

That said, it wouldn't bother me in the least. I have a matching mark or two of my own and have fallen for a girl with a number of SI scars. As far as I'm concerned, we all have our black marks in our lives. If you dig deep enough, you'll find it with anyone. Cutters just show our black marks more openly than others, that's all.

I'm not saying all of this in an effort to scare you. Personally, I hope whichever guy it is absolutely drools at the mere mention of your name. However, the reality is that many people fear what they don't understand, and SI is definitely something most people don't understand.

[MrWrong]

If I was dating the girl, upon discovery it would make me want to hug her. I would keep a mental note about it and inquire as to why she did it. Usually it's because of emotional abuse from parents.

My ex and another girl I dated had self-inflicted scars and they didn't bother me.

[escapethefatebrizaXX]

i was scared of showing my boyfriend at first but then I just felt more comfortable with him, and I am sure he wouldn't pay you out because of it if he likes you.. don't be embrassed just tell him if you trust him and show him when your ready ... my boyfriend is OK with it makes him sad a bit to see it but he understands

[xobrowneyedbeauty]

good question. I have scars too. I feel like it shouldn't be a big deal though. that would be really shallow if it was a big deal but there are probably guys out there like that unfortunately.

[Lovelesspassion]

Your past is your past.. I would love you just the same..

I might ask whys and whats.. But thata only because I like you..

Just be honest..

Any guy who wouldn't like you after he seen them didn't like you befor he seen them..

[elements]

Any decent guy won't be turned away because of those, as long as you have stopped cutting and have dealt or are dealing properly with whatever caused you to cut in the first place.

[Stacyzee]

Every one has a past whether our scars are visible or not.

If he really likes you he will accept you.

Just open up to him and let him know that is who you were and now this is who you are.

[whydogirlsmesswithme]

I personally wouldn't mind. I've felt like doing that and worse for years. I don't look down on people for feeling like ending it is the best option. I would try to make her feel comfortable enough to share her story and know that I care.

[Anonymous]

I am not a guy but I am bi. I personally would not be bothered by them in fact I would kiss your scars instead of cower from them. But that's just my opinion. I don't think boys are squeamish about that stuff either.

[NerdInDenial]

Like any other scar, it doesn't matter. If I am attracted to the girl, that's such a minor detail.

[jamiez91]

if a guy likes you it shouldn't bother him, I for one would not be put off by them

[arashmenalagha]

he shouldn't be if he likes you

[Anonymous]

if your past. explain it to him

[Ezmotts]

If you explain it to me, I'll understand.

[Anonymous]

cutting? lmao