How do I get rid of an annoyance?

[Anonymous]

I don’t even know how it turned into this, but I did something kind of dumb. I just want to forget the whole thing the event, the date, what I did, the person, everything. It’s always stuck in the back of my mind. I don’t even care about the person?

I just want to not think about it. How do I forget it?

[Aubrey97]

It will fade somewhat in time but for now, trying TOO hard to forget something just makes you dwell on it even more and it's even more cemented on the forefront of your mind than it would be if you weren't actively trying. Keep your mind occupied with anything else and maybe avoid some random things that are prompting you to think about it but it can't fade if you keep reminding yourself to try and forget about it. When it comes to memory, a month is basically nothing. Whatever it is may take years to fade away in your memory. In the mean time, just not worrying about trying so hard is the first step to stop reminding yourself about it constantly.

[HollyK21]

If only we could flip the switch and be rid of bad memories/decisions but I’m sure you know it doesn’t work that way, only time will heal those wounds. I’d really advise you stop trying to run from it and instead do the work to move past it in a healthy way. Take accountability for your faults, make peace with your decisions rather than beating yourself up for them.

[Asker]

But just how? What do I do first? I thought I took accountability, that I actually am past that? But I just can't forget.

[HollyK21]

You thought you took accountability by doing what exactly? You also have to be patient with yourself, it’s only been a month, for you that feels like forever because this has been on your mind troubling you every day so I’m sure that’s made your time drag. In reality that’s typically not enough time to get over something that’s burdening you in such an impactful way.

[Asker]

I started talking to people more and talking myself through it? Doing something new, focusing on other things. I don’t know, Honestly what I did mostly harmed me mentally more than anything.

[Summeroflove]

Face it. Whatever it is being a coward will make it worse.

[jazzy34]

Unfortunately, we can’t block out certain unpleasant memories. I’m sorry for whatever happened, but you just have to move on with life. If it was that traumatizing, however, seek therapy.

[queenofcardio]

Keep your mind busy. It takes time to get over stuff.

[Asker]

Its been some time since that happened, a month or so.

[Anonymous]

Time will fix it eventually.

[Daytoday79]

Just walk away