My roommates are getting bigger, some to the point where it's getting unhealthy, should I do something?

[Anonymous]

I live with 6 other girls. 2 are also American, 2 from malysia, one from china, one from england and one from ireland. And this particulary true for the Asian girls. When they got here last year they were all super skinny and they must have gained 30 lbs last year. When they went home from the all lost a lot of weight and now they're gaining it again. I'm wondering if I should say or do something.

The two Americans were kinda chubby to start with and are getting bigger and bigger to point where I would it starts to become unhealthy. The irish and English were also super skinny when they got here and keep gaining weight. It seems like I'm the only who actually lost weight in college.

But what could you do? We usually only share one meal which is pretty healthy. I guess they just have a lot unhealthy snacks and eat lots of fruit loops for breakfast. I really like all of them and it's sad seeing them getting so much bigger. But what could I do without being hurtful or like imposing my lifestyle on them?

[madmisskelly]

You gotta remember, their health, weight, and eating habits are none of your business. Telling them they are gaining weight isn't going to help them at all, and you may do more harm than good that way.

If you live in the dorms, then there isn't much you can do because you because you don't have a kitchen. Also, if they have a meal plan, that's where its all in their own control and they are going to have to find out for themselves.

If you live in one big house, why not share the grocery shopping duties? Ask one girl to buy veggies, the other fruit, another healthy snacks like yogurt/string cheese, another girl can get chicken, fish or lean beef. Granted, the 6 of you can divide that evenly- especially on the meats because meat tends to get more expensive.

If you school offers free work out classes at the school gym then ask if they want to join you,

[Asker]

we live in an aprtment together and we do share getting groceries (but healthy snack like string cheese? lol). The thing is that we only eat dinner together, we can't do more due to our timetables and so everyone buy yoghurt and stuff for herself, where you already see the differece. I buy plain yoghurt some of my roommates buy only artificialy falvoured ones which is of course just sugar...

[madmisskelly]

String cheese is actually full of protein and is a great on the go snack, plus its only 80 calories.

Greek yogurt isn't that bad, yes it has some added sugars but as long as you aren't eating things with a lot of other added sugars then its okay.

For the most part, there really isn't anything you can do. People's eating habits are their own business until they decide to do something about it.

[LexiNinja]

You say, as I quote "When they went home from the all lost a lot of weight and now they're gaining it again." First off, that right their should be an obvious clue(light bulb) that they're aware of their weight. That being said, don't say anything. It honestly isn't your place. What, so because you don't agree with how much weight they're gaining, you feel the need to say something? When in mind, they could have absolutely no concern with it, therefore you having the only amount of concern for it which is quite weird since, 1)It isn't you're body and 2) shouldn't have an affect on your life. You're probably the only one worried about it in all actuality. I'm sure they know themselves better then you do, one can tell if they've put on some extra pounds without being told.

[Asker]

No I think it's just that obviously their parents traditional asain cuisine is healthier than our American food.

I'm assuming you have seen that happening to a friend, but it's not something you wish to happen to someone you love

[iwish46]

I wouldn't say anything unless they ask you for help. I'm sure they know they are getting bigger and that they would do something about if they really wanted to change.

[smallguy]

Don't know where your live so I assume it must be the air

[lace1228]

So people from other country's who are normally skinny gain weight then lose it when they return and regain coming back, does it not make you wonder if it has anything to do with the American diet? The academic of obesity in America compared to places like China are huge.

[Asker]

of course I get that, but how does it help if they are not eating their traditional diet here? It's insane how much weight those Asian girls gained even though they were tiny before, but the thing is you can eat healthy here too, you just have to be bit more cautios. I get that's new to them which is why I was asking if it was a good idea to offer help

[sweet_18]

It's their life. You can't help them unless they're willing to help themselves. If you point out they're fat, they're just gonna get defensive and everyone's gonna have hard feelings. Unless their weight is impacting you in some way to where it makes it difficult for you to get things done, there's no point in saying anything

[Anonymous]

Honestly, it's not like they are blind. If they're getting bigger, I promise you they know. I wouldn't say anything to them. It's not any of your business and will probably make them feel bad. They aren't killing anyone. So no need to worry.

[greenbeans23]

Uhhh how is this any of your business? Like another girl said, if you can see that they've gained weight then they definitely are aware of it too. It's not your place at all to say something about it to them, even if you do have honest intentions

[Anonymous]

Slip exlax in every meal they eat and that will teach them :)

[koolit6]

Nooooo. O.o crazy man

[Tweetumzz143]

well you can joke about it hehe ^-^