I don't ever think I'm going to meet a guy for me

[Anonymous]

This might sound stupid but I honestly don't think there is a guy out there for me. I really am not very picky- I just want a good guy who is from my religion/culture that I can relate to. Am I crazy for having the expectation that I should marry my best friend? Most of the guys that I've seen seem to care about being the life of the party and getting the most girls. There are some really nice guys out there, but I wouldn't date them because of religious/cultural differences. My friends describe me as a sweet, shy, gentle, caring, friendly, modest girl (modest in the sense that I don't believe in sleeping around and that the clothes I wear are cute but don't show too much skin). I'm not really into the partying scene or anything. I just feel like guys don't like me. Is there something wrong with me or are the guys out there just immature? Its not like I don't talk to guys or anything- I talk to them and ask them to hang out and stuff. I've never been in a relationship or anything and I'm already halfway done with college. I just find it so unlikely that my prince charming will pop out of nowhere. Please don't tell me I'm being stupid or whiny. Does anyone else feel this way or is it just me?

[aMuse]

What country do you live in and what is your religion/culture? If you have a minority religion in your country then you are severely limiting your options when it comes to your dating pool. For example in the USA 78.4% Christians while Judaism is only 1.7%, Islam 0.6%, Hinduism 0.4% and so on. If that happens to be the case, maybe you should show tolerance towards other religions... It doesn't mean you have to change your faith, just be able to love someone from another faith. The Parable of the Good Samaritan comes to mind. =P If your religion coincides with the majority religion of your country and you are moderate I don't think you'd have much of a problem finding someone that is somewhat compatible.

[JohnScofield]

It is a big world. It's perhaps a little unrealistic to say you will never do something. It sounds like the boys you know are immature. Maybe they will grow out of it. Or maybe it's not yet your time.

Regarding religion... I can understand that. Culture I cannot. I spend most of my time in cultures not like mine. I have loved to appreciate the differences.

[Asker]

i completely respect and like different cultures, its just that I would prefer to marry someone from my culture because they would fit in so much easier with my family and how they relate to my family is really important for me

[JohnScofield]

I get that. And can guess the region your culture is from. Family is important.

[kady4e]

girl, I feel just the same!

It seems like I can't find a guy that I like everything about him. or the ones I thought I liked always find a way to disappoint me. like, being party maniacs, crazy controlling and judgmental freaks or flirting with me and making me feel special but then do the same to another girl a few minutes later...

but, well, *shrug* they say the world's population now is like 7 women for each man, so, yeah, probably 6 of us will stay single :(

[hopelesslylost]

I totally know what you mean... except I love the idea of a different culture... other than that we're completely on the same page.

[posted]

You say there are some really nice guys, then say "I just feel like guys don't like me"..

If you want someone from your religion/culture you need to meet a lot of people, or find somewhere you can meet people that share those views.

In all honesty if a girl is attractive and not a complete bitch, a guy would be more likely to say yes if she asked him out, than if the situation was reversed. So it's a little easier.

[Asker]

i feel like I can't date the nice guys that are out there because they aren't from similar religious/cultural backgrounds as me. the guys that are from my religious/cultural background, at least the ones I've met, are really immature. the guys that I've met who I would date and like just don't seem to like me back. I've opened up so much and I'm working at meeting new people but it isn't that easy when all I'm meeting are these immature guys

[posted]

Most guys around high school ages are really immature from my experience around here. You can ask the guys you like, pick the immature or mature, or just wait around a while and be very outgoing...

[Karass]

The only thing I disagree with is a difference in culture the rest I would is respectable. Limiting yourself on a cultural front is a hinderance that is very easy to overcome. You sound like a great person be patient and someone will turn up.

[Asker]

thank you. I'm just saying I would prefer someone from my culture because they would fit in with my family better. I feel like its also quite unlikely that I would meet someone from my religion that is not from my culture if that makes sense- the two are very interrelated

[Karass]

Depends on the religion & level of dedication shown but I agree but its not always the case that relegion and culture are set in stone for each other it is most defeinatly a contributing factor. You can be in a relegion and also be of a different culture. But I understand what you mean completely.

[Anonymous]

i've never had a girlfriend, never been in a relationship, I often feel I don't have what it takes to get a girlfriend

[esper88]

Just immature.