I don't think any guy has ever had a crush on me, what to do?

[Anonymous]

Aghh... this is stupid but I can't help thinking what's wrong with me over and over again. I'm 17, a junior in high school and almost all the girls around me have had boyfriends, guy friends who like them, people who have had crushes on them etc. except me... I'm a quiet girl who is focused on school & my hobbies and such but it seems like no guy likes me. I've never had a first kiss, held hands with anyone, no one has ever asked me out.

I'm not trying to be annoying or mean - but I DO see that girls who are average/not so good looking have boyfriends and I wonder what is wrong with me, I think I am just not attractive I guess.. People tell me I am really pretty, cute etc. and attractive, and people say that online, but no guy has had a crush on me I think :(

the only things that happen between me & guys - they just look at me, stare, check me out I think. glance over at me... this happens VERY often. I talk to a few that I know in classes and such but just friendly conversation and some laughter, banter etc.

it's annoying because I feel very inexperienced and think everything is wrong with me!!! I'm genuinely a very kind, sweet person and I take care of myself and get good grades, focused on school & my instrument etc. and such. :(

[Anonymous]

I'm the exact same. I'm extremely introverted so I don't talk to many people. The only guys that ever ask me out are super awkward and clearly don't understand social cues (which is probably why they approach me in the first place). My friends say it's cause I look "intimidating" since I'm so quiet.
At a certain point, you kind of stop worrying about it. In high school, it seems like everyone gets laid and is dating, but there's actually lots of people in the same boat. Chances are they do like you, but are just too scared to go up to you.

[Asker]

I think we could possibly be the same person... I'm introverted as well. the only guys who talk to me sometimes and com up to me and approach me are awkward... geeky etc.! not that it is a bad thing... it's just people I am not interested in.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, I'm pretty awkward myself, but not nearly as much as these guys. I really think it's that "normal" guys that actually are interested are intimidated and these are the only guys that do approach (again, bc they don't get social cues). I find that I don't really let people get too close to me. Maybe it's the same for you?

[Asker]

I think it might be the same because these cute guys I know will stare at me and look at me and even get close to me but will never approach... I think they are intimidated from what i can conclude and possibly too shy to approach. it's the people I'm NOT interested in who will come up to me for some reason? we sound the exact same!!

[Opinion Owner]

Well, like I said, there are lots of people in the same boat! I guess, what you can do is try talking to these guys who do look at you? If you are interested? I know it's easier said than done, and you'll probably get nervous, but it's never as bad as you make it out to be. Maybe the next time you catch a crush staring, just smile or start talking to them? I don't know if I'm the best to give this advice (given I clearly don't follow it myself) but maybe it's worth a shot?

[Hityahardman]

Its the same with me. Even tho i never know why, i stop worrying about it at senior year, its just not worth the stress.

[LennyBs]

I thought I was real ugly and that no one liked me, so I asked a female friend of mine and she started laughing. Apparently half of the girls at my school had a crush on me, they were scared to tell me cause I seemed very confident and popular. Maybe they think that you’re shy and cause of that they think that you’re the relationship type and like you said are focussing on school more

[Asker]

what do you mean by relationship type? except I don't have any guy friend to ask if anyone has had a crush on me. sadly

[LennyBs]

Some people don’t like relationships, for example me, I prefer just hooking up having fun and I’m probably afraid of commitment. Some people are more focussed on being good in school, or are too lazy for a relationship. Smile at guys you like, make them see: Hey, I’m single and rdy to mingle! Sounds stupid but why should someone tell you that they like you of they think you’d just reject them?

[Stamps]

You THINK.

However, we people can't read minds, and for good reasons. If you really are attractive, and overall a kind, sweet person, girl, I'm confident there has to be at least ONE guy that has/had a crush on you. You just don't know yet. People, especially at your age, most of the time are afraid to say they have a crush on you.

[Asker]

I agree... I'm afraid to tell someone I have a crush on them. so I don't really know. it's just weird how the world works

[Stamps]

@Asker
It isn't weird. We are afraid of the consequences. What those people will say to their friends. And what those friends will say to their friends. Especially in high school. Unfortunately, not many people can be trusted when it comes down to telling them a private thing. People in high school always try to play it safe. And I'm guilty of that myself.

[Jwoody960]

Some guys need a little help. They could be feeling the same way. Lots of guys have fear or rejection so they look for a sign you like them back. Next time you catch one staring at you and checking you out, throw a subtle hint that you like them a little. Maybe a wink or a smile. If that doesn't work try talking them first.

[Asker]

hmmmm you think a smile isn't too creepy. there is this boy who I find cute in a class and we make eye contact sometimes and I want to smile at him but I'm worried I might freak him out and scare him away.

[Jwoody960]

I don't think it would be creapy, you could even just wave. As am introvert anything that gives me a little hint I would feel more comfortable approaching to me conversation. Maybe even just say hey as you pass by him in the hallway

[DivideByZero]

Of course they have. They just didn't admit it that's why you don't know.

[Canadaman99]

You can't know that lmao

[Asker]

no guy has every admitted they like me or anything. but then again I've never admitted to anyone I liked them. I don't know you can be so sure about that though

[DivideByZero]

And neither can you. Go laugh your ass off elsewhere.

[Asker]

hmmm... what? sorry...

[DivideByZero]

I was referring to Kolton or whoever.

[Canadaman99]

But dude, you are dealing with absolutes when it really doesn't work

[Pittskrieg]

Your biggest critic is always yourself. There's nothing wrong with you and the people you think are judging you are judging themselves way harsher. I'll bet you're completely fine and the only person standing in your way is you

[alfaalfa88]

Your time will come. Being a teen today is terrible, espetially for sexual relations. Internet has completely segregated men and women physically. Probably the classmates that look at you fantasize about you but are too scared to approach, or even worse, might be happy enough fantasizing about you because porn and masturbation fullfill their sexual needs.

[CuberGuy]

Well... I've had this thing... this feeling that no one ever had a crush on me. I kinda felt the feeling beyond your words cause i get those compliments too often just like you said... handsome, smart, and blah blah blah... But the problem is, not a single sign of affection just friendly and simple small talks... but this feeling being continued, is just overwhelming and frustrating...
I'm kinda starting to think what if no one is really gonna love me ever?

[Nerdking]

Dont worry about it, lady i never dated till i was 22. Focus on your education you'll be glad you did, and im sure someone will fall for you.
P. s dont be desperate to find a boyfriend, as you'll attract the fuckbois with an intent to use you making every other guy after the same as the first asshole.

[Lavenderlove9]

Yeah... but I would be happy if someone approach me and I would really appreciate that!

[Lavenderlove9]

Yeah! I too faced the exact same thing in my college. I didn't know what is the reason why anyone hadn't had crush on me. Nor anyone (cool looking guys) approached to talk to me. The awkward and geeks used to approach me. And I used to feel that Iam far better than most of the girls around me in college who were friends with boys!

[Lavenderlove9]

Tag me or reply to my answer if anyone is talking to me!

[disgustingweebtrash]

I feel the same, I don't think any girl has ever had a crush on me

[Nayna10]

Oh my God ! How does this story matches exactly to. mine.
Sobbing...
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[Anonymous]

I'm the exact same. You're not alone

[Anonymous]

Wait him find you