Boyfriend says he only has eyes for me?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of 2 years and I were having a conversation last night about the hotness of Natalie portman. I think she's gorgeous. I often will point out women I find attractive. I'm pretty open that way. And confident in myself.

He swears up and down he doesn't even notice other girls. He says he is so enamored and fixated on me other girls are just people and his mind doesn't even think that way anymore. Its kind of weird to me and I told him I am completely comfortable with my own beauty and that of other woman. He doesn't have to police what he says to me. It was kinda irking me and I pointed out a few beautiful women in a magazine I had and he said no to everyone. I kinda wish he had a female celebrity crush or something. Its kinda a turn on. Yet he insists he doesn't think that way. He won't even watch p*rn. I suggested watching it together a few months back and he said it would cheapen our love. What the heck?

I am so confused. And as sweet as his words sound...I don't believe him. Any guys at all out there ever been in a relationship where you were so in love or fixated on your girl that you didn't even notice other hot girls? Or ever want to look at p*rn?

[Ugliness]

I only have love for my wife. I see nice girls, nice guys. But I don't desire them.

In fact she says she sees women flirting with me and hitting on me and I'm just totally oblivious to it all. I still don't know what she's talking about. I may be naive. But I'm not out hunting for anyone else. It's possible your boyfriend is on the level and he's not interested in p0rn, at least if it doesn't involve you. Even if he's BSing you, it sounds like he's sincere in his objective to focus on only you. Maybe you shouldn't knock it.

But I'm sure we've all heard from time to time that some rgard looking at p0rn as a form a "cheating" and he may feel quite insecure about it. The fact that maybe you're encouraging him just sends out mixed messages and probably won't help. Take it at face value. He loves you and you're the one he wants to look at. Is that really so bad?

[Trisha13]

My boyfriend stopped watching porn when we started dating. Said he felt it didn't belong in a relationship. He also sees checking other people out and thinking about them is also a form of cheating. When he tells me I'm the only one he wants, I believe him. I don't catch him checking out other girls, ever. Guys can be like that.

[kidmichael1]

He notices...and might even look at Porn...but he won't admit to it because he likely is really in love with you and doesn't want to risk you getting angry with him. You are secure and he's not. Just keep reassuring him that you won't fly off the handle with him.

With me? I don't hold anything back...My lady is secure like YOU are. And I tell her everything along those lines. But she knows that no matter where I work up my appetite, I'm going to eat at home. She's good with it.

Hopefully, he'll develop that same security. Good luck.

[lananoel]

My husband tells me things like this..We were rushing out to go eat once and I wasn't looking my best. Their was a HIGHLY attractive waitress there that even I was STARING at by instinctual comparison.. (I get that way sometimes) I was talking and he interrupted me to tell me how beautiful he thought I was.. Men that worship you are RARE but in existence.. He didn't even acknowledge the waitresses beauty.. He DID however note how rude she was. I was too busy being intimidated to notice... Just take it for what it is. He loves you.. Tunnel vision is real <3<3<3

[queenofpeen]

That sounds exactly like my boyfriend and I! I don't mind at all if he looks at other girls, but he still insists that he doesn't. I guess I'll just consider it a bonus :)

[MikeK]

This is women for you -

They ALWAYS bust men's balls when they look at other women - now you have a guy who worships the ground you walk on, he won't even acknowledge other women, he won't even look at them, and that "irks" you...

Jesus Christ ladies, make up your mind!

[Asker]

LOL. Agreed. I however, have no qualms about my boyfriend looking at beautiful.women. I do. I just couldn't quite wrap my head around what he was saying. And couldn't believe it to be truth. It doesn't really matter either way to me. But I will take it for what its worth. I never "needed" a guy I'm with to feel that way. So it took me by surprise.

[Anonymous]

Oh, yes. When I was with this woman, sure I would notice women here and there, but nothing that ever made me turn my head, nor that would attract me. My eyes and thoughts were for her alone. However, I still did watch p*rn, but in my mind saw me and her doing what I was watching.

[Asker]

Wow. Thanks for the responses guys. I never thought what he was saying was true. I didn't.ever want him to feel like he had to say those things. Its sweet. But only if really meant. I am actually pretty shocked at these responses. Pretty neat to think sometimes in the right relationship guys actually do feel this way.

[Anonymous]

yeah that's happened to me before. its actually normal.. I think lol or at least to me. I don't know if that's good or bad, but it turned out not to work with my ex so. but yeah if your open that way I don't know why he wouldn't be open as well. unless he really is that fixated on you. but anyway, you sound like a girl any guy would die to have lol

[AustinMan]

There are men like that but they are extremely rare. I'm betting that if you asked his male buddies that they'll tell you he enjoys girl watching as much as anyone but if he ever had a really jealous girl, he's learned to err on the side of caution.

[MrWizard]

I've been there, especially in the first few years of a relationship. I wouldn't push the issue. Enjoy your relationship together.

[Anonymous]

You should feel appreciative, many girls never find such a devoted guy in their entire lifetime.