I don't feel like a girl will ever fall in love with me.

[Anonymous]

I'm 22, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, only kissed one girl and never been on a date. Not to mention I'm painfully shy around girls which has held me back in life a lot.

I've been complimented on my looks and personality but I don't believe I have what it takes to get into a relationship with a girl I truly desire. I'm a hopeless romantic but I don't ever see me being romantic with a girl because I just can't see it happening. I'm seeing everyone around me, including family members, falling in love and I can't see me falling in love, as much as I want to. I just can't picture a girl telling me "I love you" and actually loving me for who I am. I can only see that happening in a surreal world.

Anyone else feel the same way? Sorry for sounding emotional. My sister keeps talking about her new boyfriend and how they are both in love and it got me down.

[TheQuestioner]

Sometimes I feel the same way. I will be turing 21 years old in a few months and I have had little luck with women. Nor have I ever had sex, either. I'm also shy around women and I have autism.

But if there is one thing that I have learned is that the BEST women will appear out of nowhere. I found my last girlfriend entirely by accident on Facebook. Her profile appeared in this dating application and I messaged her. A few months later I was in an incredible relationship and traveling across the country with her. My best friend (who is female) and I met on a website much like this one. I made a post that she answered; we later messaged each other. Two years later I drove to the United States to meet her. Four years on we are inseparable.

Your time will come when you least expect it :). Maybe you could join online communities that share your interests or a club nearby?

[Hades]

Have you considered moving to Asia? Also, how tall are you?

[kimsparrow]

i feel exactly the same. I hate how everyone is all lovey dovey while I'm alone. but the thing is... it's more attractive if you love yourself just how you are and then when the right girl comes, she comes. you just have to accept how things are at the moment and really really TRY to be a bit more confident around girls. the first time is always the hardest but it'll get easier talking to girls the more you practice.

and by the way imagine having all your closest friends and cousins in love and tell you about it all the time. well, that's exactly what I have and most of the time I just want them to just shut up already.

[Iceangel08]

Don't let it get you down. Ur shy so I am too. Don't let that be what's holds you back. Maybe if you went somewhere you like going you could meet a girl with something is common with you and then maybe talking with her wouldn't be so bad. If she was easy to talk to then maybe you could ask her out then. Its just an idea. R maybe you could get a family member to help u. Or even a friend. I almost let my shyness keep me away from the man I am married to today. Hard to believe I have two kids with him now. But I believe trying to find someone who has some common ground with you would make things easier. Good luck. :)

[conqueso]

I feel the same way. I have been a few relationships and I am not a virgin, but I always break up with boys when it gets to the good part. I find it very hard to trust people, which is why I keep breaking up with them when we get to close. I feel like I will never find somebody that I trust enough to NOT break up with them. I guess it doesn't help that all of my ex's are douchebags :/. But anyway, you're not alone. Many, many people feel like you do. Just wait for the right girl. :)

[moviedude714]

better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all, plus your a girl, it's easier because you don't have to initiate anything, no offense but that is just my opinion

[conqueso]

oh not at all... girls have to first initiate interest. Most guys are shy and if a girl knows what she wants, she has to go and fight for it as well as fight through all the douche bags.

[moviedude714]

yeah but the odds are completely against a girl asking a guy out, as in it is very rare

[moviedude714]

so you have asked a guy out before?

[conqueso]

Yes, I've asked out plenty of guys. Some say yes, some say no... it all depends.

[socalgamehater2006]

thats nice to know, you don't feel it is the guys job to make the first move?

[ihatetakingcharge]

Seriously, I hate how we guys have to be "A Better Man" but girls do not have to be "A Better Woman"

[socalgamehater2006]

same here as well