I imagine that's probably just her way of trying to make you feel better? I mean really do you know any girl in the entire world who doesn't feel insecure about their body? Because I don't.
I'm not trying to play down your problems and I don't think your friend is either, trust me I know how hard these can be, but in the end you just have to be honest with yourself, there are somethings we can't change no matter how much we want too, so we just have to kind of accept that these are part of who we are.
Sorry I don't have a better answer or anything, I could do with following my own advice sometimes because I also have these insecurities as well even, but I do believe that learning to accept these parts of yourself is one of the most important things you can do, besides the most attractive thing about someone is their self-confidence anyway, not their looks, self-confidence is something a lot of people lack but it's the most attractive thing about any guy and any girl.
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Maybe she's trying to relate to you? She's not doing a great job since you feel frustrated with her. Doesn't sound like she's the best people person. Maybe you should stop venting to her since she's pretty inconsiderate. Some people also just aren't good with dealing with body weight.
Also if you brought this up a couple of times before, maybe she's tired of it? I'm not trying to make you sound like a naggy person but have you ever completely vented to her already before? some people aren't build to hear the same problems more then a couple of times. If so, then move on venting to someone else who can actually help instead of 'play off' the problem.
Also if you want to feel better and feel 'big' maybe you should do some cardio. Exercising gives you endorphins and endorphins makes you happy.
Your friend sounds like a narcissist. I have met girls who definitely can be considered that. It's always about them, how they look, what they are up to, and nothing else. Reminds me of the time a girl I would talk to on the phone would do to me. All about her, and she actually asked me how my day was and when I started talking she sounded like it pained her to listen to it.
As for the weight loss, I feel like girls are always going to be sensitive about their weight if they suspect they may be. Do a ton of cardio and if you feel like a certain part of your body is where the fat is, do light weight training for that area and it will tone up. So if it's your legs, find a machine for that part of your legs and use it a few times a week.
Hope this helps.
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call her out on it.
sometimes people don't realize that they start to steal the attention or whatever in a conversation.
tell her "i feel like I can't confide in you how I'm feeling because you don't care, because of instead of listening/responding to what I'm saying, you talk about yourself instead. please be here as a friend to me"
either she'll get mad or she'll be concerned that her friend (you) is upset.
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