He doesn't know what he wants??

[sammylammy]

hey people!

This past Tues I broke things off with the guy have being dating for 3.5 weeks because I was having trust issues with him...long story short he was hearing rumors about me but refused to tell me the people that were talking about me and what they were saying.The following day I started having second thoughts and I told him that maybe I made a mistake ending the relationship so quickly..i thought to myself maybe it wasn't a good enough reason to break things off.He didn't contact me since that day...he said he had to Process what I had said. so last night (sat) I spoke to him to ask him like what happening bwt us if we are done or not and he tells me he doesn't know.I know that I still like him and I am willing to give us a second try but it seems to me like maybe he doesn't care...i even apologized for hurting his feelings that by me ending the relationship was not a good thing to do because I was upset.i still see him staring at me a lot...we make eye contact and I can't help myself from smiling. ...what should I do and will he come back?I know am smart if he wanted me by now he wouldn't have wasted anytime on coming back to me the moment I apologized ;(...oh we have known each other for 3 months..his very sweet always calls me at night, makes sure am happy...hang out...etc

[Arwens-Fire]

Will he come back?Who really knows,its really up to him.

In my opinion,you completely over reacted to the fact that he didn't want to share petty rumors that were being spread about you.He probably didn't even care what was being said,because it was all SO petty and ridiculous.What would you have done knowing about the rumors being spread? Other than becoming more upset about the overall situation?Girls...always want to perpetuate DRAMA.All he was doing was protecting you because he cared enough about you. I'm assuming he thinks you are one of those women who overreacts about the smallest things,hence his hesitance to date you again.Its great that you apologized and took responsibility for your actions,however,don't be surprised if he doesn't return to you.Lesson learned.Good Luck.

[inquisitiveemt]

Give it up while there are hardly any emotions involved! I had a friend ergo had the same bs pulled on her. Turns out he fabricated lies about hearing "things around town" so she would second guess herself & make sure she wouldn't misstep because he had "ears" around town. RUN GIRL, RUN AS FAST AS You CAN! He's got trust issues that you don't need to deal with.

FYI him being sweet & calling you @ night & making sure your "happy" is really his way of checking up on u...don't apologize for listening 2 your gut! There are plenty of guys that don't try to manipulate or "beat around the bush" & will come right out and say names of accusers to the girl he's trying to have a relationship with. Instead he holds the names captive, y? Bc he's a liar.

[Anonymous]

He is collecting data - he's trying to see what you're really like, because your reaction showed a highly strung emotional side that wasn't very attractive at all, and within a day you were all "Oh I'm sorry, let's get back together"

He needs to know if that was a random act of madness, or a sign that you've got issues. So he's thinking about things, and thinking about you, and any steps you make or things you say right now, will be analysed to death.

Another impulsive crazy move from you, will probably settle his mind up one way or another.

[InquisitiveMale]

You broke up with the guy 3 weeks into the relationship over a trivial thing and now expect the guy to immediately turn back on because you want it. You made the mistake but it's his problem. I don't think so. The guy is likely thinking things over and asking himself if dating someone so impulsive is in his best interest; if you're worth the time.

[3boys4me]

He's prob looking at you as being extremely flighty right now. He's giving you space because he's confused as to whether he wants to continue things w someone who could get rid of him so easily over basically nothing. If he comes back then he must really like you so I would hope you would take things a lot more seriously w him cause if you do not then you will lose him for good this time. If you care about someone and want to be w them then you need to give them the benefit of the doubt and put your trust in them and if you can't do that then you just aren't mature enough to be in a relationship at this point.

[gummybear888]

3 months is nothing. it will work out if it's meant to be