Please tell me what you think I should do?

[Goofy0123]

So my boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months. Our relationship has been good but lately I’ve been feeling down. I guess I could say I bring myself down and he adds to it. I’m 19 years old, 5’4 and weight 150. If I’m not mistaken my ideal weight for my height would 130 and that’s what I use to be 2 years ago but I started eating unhealthy and out all the time so I gained weight throughout the years and I don’t look as good in swim suits or in certain clothes anymore because of the extra fat I’ve gained. I really want to lose weight but with school and trying to find a job I don’t seem to feel motivated yet to do it. It’s very important for me to lose weight health wise and for my self-esteem but school and work seem more important right now before that. So this is where my boyfriend comes in. I was already weighing 150 when we started dating. He likes me because I make him laugh; I’m nice, friendly, sweet, encouraging, respectful etc. So he likes me for my personality basically. I know my body is not what he’s looking for. He’s told me this before and I respect his honesty. He wants a slim girl probably Kim K kind of body. I exaggerated a little but you get my point. He wants a girl with a killer body that can rock a bikini any day. So yesterday we were on the “losing weight” subject and it just made me feel like crap. I know he wants to motivate me to lose weight but when he tells me it just brings me down I just feel so upset with myself even more than what I did. You might be like then tell him how you feel… Well he knows exactly how I feel about it. I sometimes hit him with the “You better clear up your face then” because he has really bad acne on his face and back but you see I hate pimples and stuff like that (I have clear porcelain skin) but every time I tell him that I feel horrible and I don’t even care about his pimples/acne at all. It doesn’t bother me because I like him just the way he is; I wouldn’t change any of his flaws, but that’s just me. I sometimes feel like I should just break up with him and just focus on myself. Maybe then I will finally eat healthy and work out and get everything in my life together. It’s very hard thinking about this because he has impacted my life greatly and he always just wants to help me out on top of that my family loves him. If anyone was in this situation with body issues and boyfriends all in one what would you do? In tips on working out or anything that you think will help and motivate me in anyway will be strongly appreciated. Thank you!

I should stay with him

I should break up with him

[Anonymous]

Why would you hit him back with negativity that doesn't bother you? (pimples)

You seem to be bothered by the way you look and not just his point of view, it affects you a lot because you believe so as well. He, is not going to make you skinny if you don't want to. Clearly, he has been with you regardless of how you much weigh, so he's not as superficial as you believe he is.

People around you, especially men, will eat a lot and you just need to learn to stop yourself from it. When I'm with my boyfriend, he eats close to twice as much as me, and I need to control my weight through diet and exercise to keep my weight.

Your weight is clearly something that bothers you, which is why you said " I bring myself down, you are eating unhealthy foods, you don't look as good in swim suits, you want to lose weight etc etc"

You say it's because of school and finding a job, but these pressures you will always have them.

You need to take the initiative in what you wish to do for yourself.

I'm in med school and I find time to work out (30min-1hr/day) and I wake up early in the morning to make my own food so I don't eat the junk in the cafeteria.

Your boyfriend is not an excuse for your weight or for not being able to take care of yourself.

[1ibiz]

It's all bout what you put into your body. You eat unhealthy things then not only you will gain weight, but your going to have a lot of symptoms in result of it. If your not eating right, then your getting low quality energy, which will then put you in a bad mood and cause estrogen levels to go up, causing you to gain more weight! For every 5 feet your suppose to be 100 lbs, for every inch above 5 feet is an additional 5 lbs, this is the way to calculate a healthy bmi. If your 5'4, then you should be 120 lbs, which is very achievable in a fast, easy, and less painful results if you know what your doing. It's about knowing what to eat, when you eat it, and the exercises you do. It's not as hard as you think because it's 80% nutrition, 20% exercise. Let me know if you want me to go further, I tend to waist a lot of energy to people that don't want my help!

[Goofy0123]

More help would be strongely appreciated!

[1ibiz]

Okay, First let me start with a little deprogramming, I don't know what you think about the media and the government, but most of the things you been told is a lie to get you sick and stupid. They do this to the general public. I mean who else will pay for healthcare? How would companies and banks take advantage of you if you weren't stupid(not that I'm calling you stupid). Everything they tell you is to misguide you into the wrong direction. So what I'am about to tell you will confuse you!

[1ibiz]

They tell you to reduce or eliminate your fat intake, and eat as many carbs as possible. You need fat. Your brain is made out of 100% fat, your organs are cushioned by fats. Fats helps regulate weight loss and weight management. Fats form up your cell wall allowing your cells to be nourished by nutrients and expunge waist while simultaneously prevent toxins and pathogens from entering the cells. Eat plenty of fats from whole foods. Meat, fish, fowl, eggs, avocados, olives, green plants for

[1ibiz]

vitamin k (a fat soluble), nuts and seeds too. It's all about what fats to eat. All the foods I just listed other then the nuts and seeds you can eat in bulk. Nuts and seed have higher polyunsaturated omega 6 fatty acid that throws you off with your omega 3's. This is the most important part to understand. Foods that have a polyunsaturated fat content needs to have a fair ratio between the 6's and the 3's. The more omega 3's you consist of in your body, the more natural you eat! If you consume

[1ibiz]

excess amounts of omega 6's then your creating the inflammation response in your body, which will make you sore, have hot flashes, and is the leading cause of cancer. Limit your carbs. Excess amount of carbs will make you fat. Carbs comes in many forms and binds with many bonds, They are called saccharides. When you eat barbs they convert to glucose in your body, if you eat excess amounts of carbs then the form glucose and stores it into the form of glycogen(fat) onto your muscles. The media

[1ibiz]

will tell you that eating meat(even red meat) is a risk for heart disease. We have been eating flesh for millions of years, theirs no reason why it would start giving people heart disease now. They tell you that eating foods high in cholesterol will make you have higher cholesterol. That's also not true. The amount of cholesterol you consume has no effect on your cholesterol levels, but eating the wrong foods will! My whole life I've been told that grains(whole grains) are good for you. Grains

[1ibiz]

is one of the biggest mistakes to mankind. They have too much omega 6's, they have so many anti nutrients that sucks the life out of. Phytic acid that prevents your body from absorbing minerals. lectins that damage your intestinal lining that closes off the gap to your colon. Grains also rate very high on the glycemic index( all foods that are grouped up and lists the glycemic load to each food. Like I said saccharides in many forms that your body has to break down), The most sugary whole foods

[1ibiz]

rate about 50 on the glycemic index. Grains rate from anywhere between 80-120 on he glycemic index. That causes you to have a spike in sugar levels, make's your heart work far much harder, drives out excess insulin from your pancreas, and then after you feeling bloated, less nourished, and worked more, your body then stores it as fat onto you body. Also legumes(peanuts, soy, beans,chick peas, lentils) have majority of the same content. Avoid those too. Your goal is to consume everything your

[1ibiz]

body needs, and avoiding what it doesn't need! That mean genetically modified food too(white potatoes, papayas, sweet peas, etc..) This is how your diet should be; meat, fish, fowl, eggs, avocados, olives, plants, and vegetables~ in bulk. Tubers such as sweet potatoes and yams~ in moderation. Stems such as yucca~ in moderation. Roots such as beets and radishes~ in moderation. Fruits and berries~ in moderation. Nuts and seeds~ in moderation. You also need to consume sea vegetables for they're

[1ibiz]

Iodine content( kelp, nori, dulse, etc..), and I recommend Kale Greens, They are the power house of nutrients compared to all other plants. Take a good supplement of a fish oil that give you a good kick of omega 3's, and find a little time to do some exercises. I know I just typed a lot, but it's a lot to know!

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

If he's honestly that shallow and not willing to be with you regardless of appearances, then he clearly doesn't really care. I'd say meh... it is good to be healthy, but I bet you're not nearly as in trouble as you think.

[Anonymous]

ugh backne ... [barfing]