Why can't I get a girlfriend ?

[Anonymous]

i was fat and ugly and anti social .

Now , I forced myself to socialize , I've picked up hobbies that I don't like just so I can say I have hobbies . I'm worked to lose weight I'm still a little overweight . I still have an ugly face , but still every girl refuses to talk to me , give me a chance to show that I'm worth something behind my ugly face. I don't believe in confidence but I'm faking it .

[standUP]

You focus is off. You are asking why can't instead of what would help ! A big difference!

You see you are giving up before the seed is even planted. Soul searching is easier than you're making it.

First of all do not try to figure out what women want. They don't even know what they want ! So stop thinking that you need certain qualifications.

Although I can tell you what nobody wants is a negative person trying to be somebody their NOT !

No need to sell yourself short for anybody.

What you need is acceptance of where you are now and where you would like to be. But getting to your goals will never make you happy or the results you want if you are not happy in your own skin.

Looks don't matter if you have a positive acceptance of being who you are. Stop trying so hard. And just be yourself !

Work on the weight if you need. Smile with in your soul and you will shine through. Which makes you more confident. Which brings more attractiveness.

Know in your heart that you are good enough if you love yourself.

So many couples are very happy together not being magazine perfect. Looks change so that's just way too selfish of thinking.

Positive attitude or outlook on life is so attractive.

The prettiest woman I know is quite overweight and has some facial issues. But her acceptance and attitude is so inviting and cheerful and sweet , just makes her very gorgeous ! She likes herself as she is. And has an ability to shine through and make others happy just by her outlook on life.

That's where we all need to be in life.

Be yourself do what you want to do take care of yourself and learn to drop the negitive thinking. And be positive happy with in through acceptance. Ask believe recieve !

[Asker]

you do know with 15 years of rejection and being bullied , I can't become happy by myself and overnight

[standUP]

Dude you have the answer. Positive thinking and acceptance. If you want to wallow in your sick mindset then no results will happen. Do yourself a favor and give yourself a break realize you are human. Surrender your will and ask a Higher power to guide you. Sure you had a tough road and it knocked you down. But you don't need to own that anylonger. If you want change then start to accept yourself and change your pestimistic attitude into a positive optiomistic life style.

[Asker]

English isn't my first language . I didn't get your last sentence

[Asker]

i have never got acceptance plus I don't have any higher power to ask. That's why I ask here

[standUP]

Don't be negative - be positive ! Accept yourself.

A Higher Power (your creator-God) is with in you!

it will work for you. You need faith that it will!

[Asker]

how do I be positive ?

[standUP]

First accept yourself as you are right now ! And where you want to be. Strive for that goal. Once you accept yourself you will be comfortable. And then the confidence will energize you to love yourself and be available to give the love you have to that lucky girl waiting for you. I had to change my whole mindset of what I thought about myself. Just through acceptance. Look at all the good in you and every situation. Every situation ! Never the negative ! Never doubt !

[SaintRichie23]

Confidence. That's the keyword man! Look at it this way - girls are awesome at reading body language. It's like trying to escape the IRS, it won't happen. If you feel sh*tty about yourself, they will see it in how you act, move, talk, etc.

When you start being confident and believe you are a datable guy, then you'll have an easier time. If a girl says no, is it the end of the world? No. What if you thought she was the one? Well, love is a two way street, if she doesn't see it, then it isn't true love, now is it?

Keep your chin up mate, and keep your shadows behind you, because that is the only way you can go with the sun ahead of you :)

[Asker]

what if every girl I know has either rejected me or ignored me or called me ugly , and I go after girls I don't find attractive

[SaintRichie23]

Confidence - no one likes a guy who even fakes it

[Asker]

Confidence isn't real

[SaintRichie23]

-_- Ok, it isn't then. You just soak in your super depression and sit back and accept the fact that the world is out to get you. Confidence does exist, and the only reason you think it isn't real is because you haven't found it

[Asker]

i can't get confident when no one helps me and when I'm dealing with 15+ years of continous rejection and bullying

[SaintRichie23]

NEWS FLASH: Everyone has been bullied and rejected. You either realize you are like everyone else and pick yourself up or you selfishly say you are hopeless and force yourself down

[Asker]

pick my self up from what ? my life is fine my grades are good , I'm just too ugly to get a girlfriend

[SaintRichie23]

"I'm just too ugly to get a girlfriend" from that. You are saying girls are too superficial to get you a date. I'm just done here, you're missing my point every time

[Asker]

im not saying theyre superficial . I'm a realist and I know unattractive girls face the same thing too yet they never give time of day to ugly guys

[305boi]

the right person will eventually come, just gotta let time do itz thang.