I have a husband like this! He says I need to lose weight and makes me feel terrible. I gave birth to his son and that's how he treats me. Eventually you will see he is a selfish *ss and quit trying to please him! Men like that will always have something negative to say. If you want to get in shape it has to be something you want! You can't do it to please other people. In my case I've decided to get in the best shape of my life, I'm going to do whatever it takes to be happy and feel good about myself. If my husband isn't in the picture at the end of my journey so be it. Quit starving yourself, its not healthy! Start of slow. Change one meal a day, decide that no matter what you are going to eat a healthy for breakfast. Every wk add a new goal. Look into some home workouts, they are awesome to have when you have a small child at home. Right now I'm using insanity, I love it, it burns a lot of cals in very little time. Good luck on your journey, and remember its YOUR journey, not your boyfriends. It doesn't matter if you start over a million times...I will keep starting over until I get the job done!
Your boyfriend sounds really immature. Any guy who truly loves you will not be put off by weight gained, especially if it was during pregnancy.
Most women gain weight during pregnancy, it's normal and the healthy thing for the most part. Most women take a while to lose the weight because it's hard to lose weight. Some people go back to being the size they were before, and others' don't. Your body does also change with pregnancy.
I would say forget about this guy. He obviously doesn't love you if he is that put off by weight.
Get in shape because you want to, not because he makes it a condition for his love. Plus, I bet that if you do lose the weight and stay with him, he will find some other thing to pick at you about. He sounds very manipulative and mean. I wouldn't stay with him if I were you. There are lots of guys out there who would be over the moon that you gave birth to their child and wouldn't care about the weight gain.
he should love you for who you are and be patient and understanding. you had his baby so what does he want?
he's an a**hole but unfortunately you probably can see that and it really doesn't help get anywhere in addressing the issue. Don't starve yourself since that's not healthy. Do what you can to lose the weight (if you are up to it and it makes YOU happy doing it) and tell him to screw off (not saying break up with him but tell him to mind his own business, be supportive and understanding).
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If YOU are wanting to lose weighy, don't starve yourself. Baby steps. Try simply eating healthier meals, then start walking every day, then progress to gym visits, and so on.
And... dump that jerk.
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