How do I tell her to lose weight?

[Anonymous]

I tried telling my girlfriend that I don't like curves. She understood but she still hasn't gone to the gym or do anything to tone down. I wouldn't call her fat but she is not as slim as I like em to be. Other than that she is pretty hot and has a cute face so I don't want to throw her away

[justrandomlymadethis]

You sound pretty damn shallow. Everything else is good about her but that she has curves? Shouldn't you have realized this when you got with her in the first place. If you can't see past this simple thing, then I think your relationship is destined to fail, if you belittle her and make her feel insecure when girls are already insecure about being too fat or too skinny, or too flat chested. Society already puts her down in some way, so you should be her support. If anything if you felt she could lose a little weight but still love her regardless like a real man should, then you can do it in better ways than being rude, you could ask her on activities like hiking together or tennis or swimming. There are things you can do together that are fun and active that could help the situation.

[Anonymous]

A girl will loose weight only for herself, because she wants to look better and feel better. Even when your Boyfriend tells you that you should loose weight for health reason, to feel better, etc etc, if the girl doesn´t want to, she won´t do it. My partner has been telling me those exact words for over two years, I didn´t really pay attention to him, still he was with me. However, it was until this year that I said to myself: I want to look hotter, I want to be healthier, I will do it for myself, not for him.

[Asker]

How do I tell her to do it for herself like you are doing.

[Opinion Owner]

First of all, you gotta be honest and really caring for her health, for how she feels and not tell her lies on your real purpose. As my bodyfriend kept insisting that I loose weith, I entered into a rebellious mode in which I said "No, I am not going to please him" but now I have realized that there is a lot of risk for Diabetes in my family, high blood pressure, and that I have to take care of myself. Just be honest with her, but don?t try to manipulate her with this, she?ll know it.

[Arwens-Fire]

Are you kidding me?If you don't like what her body looks like,then find another girl and dump her...so she can find someone who CAN accept her for who she IS.If you liked her for more than what she LOOKS like (which is not indicated anywhere in your question),then you wouldn't even be posting this superficial ish.I hope that she wises up and decides to leave you.I would never be with a guy who put such strict demands on what my body should look like,or what he thinks is attractive,or what he doesn't like...get the eff out of here.

Dude,you're as immature as they come.

As I said,get the eff out of here with this ish.

[Cottoncandydreams]

"so I don't want to throw her away"

"she is not as slim as I like em to be"

Why did you even get into a relationship with her? Maybe she likes her figure? Who are you to tell her to get skinny. Not to be rude but if you can't accept the way she is you don't deserve her. Like I am so disgusted by this question.

[Asker]

why would you be disgusted? I meant I like her but she would be perfect with your skinniness and the rest of her qualities

[Asker]

wait nevermind, now that I enlarged your pic, you might not be skinny. I'll leave it at a maybe. Alright catch you later dear

[zeddy]

Exactly-if she was how she is now when you first started dating you have nothing to moan about. In the least rude way, I sense some immaturity. You can't possibly be serious with this girl if you want to change her appearance. And if you're not serious about her she shouldn't change anything for you. Either take it or leave it, don't change it.

[Cottoncandydreams]

people these days...

[vsangel7]

Okay, skipping over your rude comments about your girlfriend (what do you actually see in her than?)

Offer to go to the gym with her, take a kick boxing class together or something? I'm assuming you're in good shape because you have the balls to say your girlfriend isn't so try and encourage her to do something. I'm sure she's self conscious and hiding it no girl likes hearing her boyfriend doesn't like her curves.

[Darkfairie17]

Maybe she likes how she looks? Why should she change just to please you? I'm not saying this to be rude, just curious.

Just because you mentioned this to her does not mean she needs to change herself.