Just how much of a turn off is acne?

[NymphoVic]

I have facial acne. It's particularly bad on my right cheek. The Acne's been a problem for so long that I have visible scarring. Aside from my depressing reliance on coverup, the issue has made me into an increasingly reserved and quiet being. Even though I'm told I have very nice bone structure and am a pretty girl, people constantly point out the condition if my skin (as though it's news to me). My issue hasn't lessened despite numerous efforts, and it's gotten to the point where I can hardly stand to even see my face in a mirror or in film. Are other people as repulsed by my skin as I am? Just how much acne is a deal breaker?

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My acne scarring is about as bad as this girl's, but it covers a larger surface area.

[kholland65]

It depends. Obviously it doesn't help your cause, I won't lie to you about that, but if the rest of you is attractive, most guys can look past it, assuming your face doesn't have 100000 pimples on it.

Actually my first and only love to this day had a decent amount of acne. Nothing super bad, but it was there. She was a swimmer and chlorine made her flair up, so it was hard for her to get rid of it. Did I wish at times she had perfect skin? Of course, just as much as she probably wished Iooked like brad pitt, but the truth is it didn't effect the way I felt about her. She was till attractive and she had a great personality, and furthermore, she treated me great.

Trust me, I feel your pain. I have rosacea which is an incurable skin disease that basically manifests itself as looking like acne (google it). Took me over a year, lots of money, many doctor visits, and even some illegal drugs from overseas to get it under control. I understand this being a confidence killer. Many times I didn't even want to leave the house because of how bad it looked.

Fortunately you have makeup, us guys don't. Also, realize you focus more on it than other people do. I'm sure you find yourself always analyzing other peoples skin. Nobody has perfect skin, you just think they do. They're most likely just as self conscious as you. They're not analyzing your face like you are in the mirror.

My suggestion (I'm not a doctor) is to find a way to get accutane (isotretinoin). Accutane is the brand name, there are others. I think accutane is no longer in production. Stuff is super potent, so much so many doctors don't want to prescribe it anymore and will at times do monthly blood tests. Girls also have to take a pregnancy test before taking it. It's an androgen blocker, meaning it shrinks the sebaceous glands and drastically reduces the oil on your skin. Shit dries you up like a raisin, but after a few months your acne will be gone. The problem, like I said is getting a doctor to give you this is next to impossible. The last few years especially docs have gotten away from it. I got so sick of getting meds that didn't work for my rosacea I just went online and ordered some from some oversease websites that don't require a prescription. This was very dangerous on my part but I was desperate. I did some research on dosage and side effects and aired on the size of a smaller dose and only took it for half the suggested time. Lucky for me it worked without any problems. Anyway, just something to consider.

Hope my suggestions help and at the very least give you some comfort. I've been there and trust me. Eventually it will go away. It might feel like an eternity now, but it will go away eventually.

[TedStar]

Not a huge turnoff, but the acne AS WELL as your depressed and sad outlook would be the turnoff. Have you seen a dermatologist or tried accutane. These procedures take time but as a lady you have access to short term fixes link whle you look for a longterm solution that not only will clear your skin, but also make you feel better about yourself

[shadowscapes]

true. I believe in the theory that what you believe to be true. comes true. if you think guys won't date you because of your acne. even if that's not true at all, it becomes true because you will sabotage yourself so guys won't date you.

[NymphoVic]

It's not that guys don't want to date me, but none of the guys I'm interested in (who should be on my level) want to.

[TedStar]

Hmm. If they as you say are on your level than I'm pretty sure that it is not the acne that is stopping them from dating you. People generally seek others of similar attractiveness and if you aren't getting dates it is either because you over/understimated yours or potential partnsers looks or because your personalities aren't matching up.

[NymphoVic]

I don't think I'm overestimating in this case. I'm pretty sure I deserve more than the sleazy guys in restaurants or on the streets. People would say I could do better than any of the guys who've shown serious interest in me.

[Anonymous]

Someone who likes to pick their "spots" and finds humor in it is NOT the person who should b posting here. It is a real condition with serious depressive and psychological ramifications. Serendipity, have you gone to a derm? I have battled for years with my skin, been on every pill, and what I have found effective is the following: It IS related to what you put into your body. Acne is a sign that something is out of balance. Try taking probiotics twice a day. Change your pillowcase every day. ( seriously) Particularly bad on one side you say? What side do you talk on the phone on? Germy phones, etc.. =acne bacteria! DOnt overwash your face or use anything harsh. Cetaphil gentle cleanser is fine. Don't go tanning. WIll make it worse. Drink plenty of water, green tea and white tea. Take a multiviamin. Eat lots of veggies especially orange (viatmin A) and green leafy veggies. Honey masks are very healing to the skin. yogurt as well.. mess yes, but... lactic acid calms redness. Try improving your diet. Get lots of sleep. Take probiotics. Don't scrub, be gentle. and above all... don't spend too much time obsessing. I know its difficult but be pateint.

[Hannah591]

I'm not repulsed by acne. In fact, I love picking spots aha! (I know, I'm weird). I pick my boyfriend's spots all the time and I just consider it a hormonal thing that pretty much everyone goes through.

If someone refused to go out with you because of your skin, they're a shallow person and you're better off without them in your life.

I think if you met someone who had acne too, then they wouldn't care for your acne either. However, there are people with clear skin who will not judge people by their skin.

[jcook922]

Your attitude about it is going to be way more important to most men than the acne itself. That's not the sort of thing that's going to trip up most guys, especially the more shy and reserved guys. So just try to keep that in mind and don't let it bother you in regards to men, either we like you or we don't, so don't act ashamed of how you look.

[NymphoVic]

So shy guys are much less likely to notice/ care?

[jcook922]

Shy dudes are probably less likely to judge you for it, mostly because they are going to just be really happy that the two of you are talking. At least that's my opinion, they tend to judge a little less and appreciate a little more.

[shadowscapes]

i guess it depends on the severity. you would have to post of a pic of the acne (or a pic on the internet of someone whose acne is similar to yours) if you want a specific answer.

generally, if she was attractive overall, the acne won't be a deal breaker.

[NymphoVic]

If I'm depressed by and embarrassed about my face because of the acne, I'm not posting any pictures of it I be subjected to public scrutiny. I know it would help, but I just can't. I didn't even take any pictures of myself when I was in Europe two weeks ago, for fear of ruining the picture. (I have 5000 pictures, only 2 being of my feet dangling over the side of a Spanish fort, and one shot of a new dress I'd purchased (neck down)). It's in the higher end of moderate acne.

[shadowscapes]

look online for a picture of acne that is similar to yours.

[Opalivian]

People grow up and they disappear. There's no need to worry. Korea has the best cosmetics. Maybe give their products a try. Toner, moisturizer, and lotion fixed all mine.

[NymphoVic]

The thing is, I have kept a very strict regimen with toner, repairing serum, and moisturizer/sunscreen for the past two months, with very little change. And I'm using very high quality (expensive products). I'm 18 and everyone I know has fading or completely diminished acne. A large portion of the acne is stress related, and I know what the cause is, but unfortunately, it's not going to dissipate anytime soon.

[blackkid2]

To be honest it is a major turn-off. If it weren't there wouldn't be an everlasting industry dedicated to conquering the pimple.

[ekathleen77]

my question who do you like if you don't date fat people and you don't date people with acnce who do you like because that's half our society\

[blackkid2]

So what about the other 50% that would qualify? Do they not count? You're the source on that statistic.

[Anonymous]

It's not a major turn off since acne fades over time. Though if the severity really destroys the whole beauty, then it's a major turn off in itself.

[NymphoVic]

Ive been to a derm, and he prescribed a medicated cream that doesn't dry out my skin too much. Lot of my acne is gone, and I now only have 5-6 spots. However, it still looks like I have acne because I have a significant amount of scarring, which doesn't go away without an exoensive procedure.

[Deviouscourage]

It's not a huge turn off, however self consciousness is a turn off.

[Anonymous]

Not much lol.