Difficulty with a shy guy?

[Anonymous]

before I begin I warn you this will be really long and complicated but I'm really going crazy so PLEASE bear with me!

this summer. in summer camp/band, I kept catching the guy I like staring at me everywhere we were in sight of each other. at first I didn't really notice or care to it because I thought he didn't know I existed. he never tries to talk to me but we have lots of friends in common and are usually near each other. he and I held brief eye contact really often for awhile-a few weeks. now all of a sudden he doesn't stare anymore...like he's facing my direction but his eyes are looking above my head or to the side or whatever...sometimes I catch him looking but now he quickly looks away like he's scared or something. I'm really confused. why did he stop staring so openly? I'm afraid to talk to him because he's so awkward and his answers are so short and never makes eye contact when we talk..did he lose interest in me or something? why does he act so weird?

[TeamNiceGuy]

he could just be an awkward person and end up staring at you by accident, a lot of people are like that.

on the other hand he could very well be interested in you and is to scared to go talk to you so he may have just given up on the whole thing entirely. I'm not super shy but am a bit and I've done that exact same thing. I suggest that if you really like him all that much that you should make the effort and go over and talk to him. even if he is awkward or whatever you're never going to get him out of his shell just by staring at one another :P if you're interested just bare with it and see where it goes. Worst comes to worst you have one awkward conversation and then you count your losses and go back to your staring competition ;) best way to find out if he is interested is to get to know him and then confront him about it. he would know better than anyone, good luck and I hope this helps :)! he just needs a little push is all

[idkitsausername]

Well... I would say from what you said that he thought you were hot at camp, and had no problem looking at you. I would say that now he has a crush on you and is scared that if you catch him looking at you you'll reject him. Walk up to him, talk to him, and flirt with him, try to find a way to touch his arm. You will make his week.

[TMWLOP]

well it's not really that he's acting weird, in a sense he could be just very couscous, being shy myself when I stare at the girl I like I get nervous and look away, he maybe talking short so he doesn't say something stupid, and even though it looks like he's looking over your head or to the side he's probably looking at you, I think you just gotta go talk to him, if your interested theirs no harm in it, and I don't think he lost interest but really, putting things start is better then betting around the bush