Interactions between colleagues of lower employment status.

[Anonymous]

Was working late at work and overheard two other people having a conversation. They knew I was in the next room and hey were in the corridor with the door open. The girl started to ask the guy what they thought of a particular girl at work. They were commenting about how a person works and the guy kept saying 'she thinks she knows everything! She thinks she knows everything!' I thought they were speaking about me as they referred to something like someone who smiles when in the middle of a particular job (interacting with people), that he had seen what I write, and he would expect more/better from this 'girl' at this point. The girl made some comment re this person being a boss in the future. What would 'she' be like? They laughed.

I had already felt nervous since this girl/guy's manager were with them earlier and he took her aside and talked with her in a separate room. I have no reason to think that he was talking about me but yes, I do feel insecure in my work as I've not felt confident in my work exams.

In contrast, my bosses have regularly given me accolades, told me that I'm good at my work and think I'm sensible. They are also trust me to work with little surveillance. This is something I've noted even up to the moment I heard the guy/girl having that conversation. They would not be colleagues of mine in the same profession. They would be working in allegiance with me.

Am I just allowing my insecurity get the better of me rather than the reality?

[sexyasianboi26]

I sometimes get insecure about my position, but I don't over think it to the point that it affects my ability to do work.

Take this from my experience.

I have many types of co-workers that disrespect and respect me. Those that disrespect me, will see the "shark" side of a boss (you should know the shark type boss); I will tell them that they are disrespecting my authority, and I will make them realize what they are doing wrong AND at the same time, guide them to the right path. I am known to scream at the top of my lungs, and I've been known to make my co-workers tremble in fear. I only do this to get my point across clearly, IF they are behaving in an ignorant way and are not willing to listen.

Now, those that do respect me, I let words of humility go past my other ear, and I see it as joking around.

[Anonymous]

"Am I just allowing my insecurity get the better of me rather than the reality?"

Yes. Because you don't know if he was talking about you or not. I would ask him directly whom he was talking about

[Asker]

I feel that they would not tell me who they were talking about. They are not that 'kind' of people. If it were about me, it's not constructive either way.

[Opinion Owner]

"my bosses have regularly given me accolades, told me that I'm good at my work and think I'm sensible. They are also trust me to work with little surveillance."

You seem like an awesome worker and I'll bet the others are just jealous. I would totally disregard what you heard and even start to ignore them, if it would make you feel better. Life is too short to think about other people's opinion on oneself, especially ones that would never clap anyone on the back and say "Job well done!"

[Asker]

Thank you. Just hurts to hear what seems like something directed at me. I would have been the only female of that level around at the time. I like what you said..'life is too short to think about others' opinions...esp those who don't clap you on the back.' This is very true. Thank you. Don't hear that alot:)

[Cromartie]

Yes.

[Asker]

Yes?

[Cromartie]

"Am I just allowing my insecurity get the better of me rather than the reality?" <- Yes.

[Asker]

Ok, thank you.

[Cromartie]

Is what they are saying even likely applicable to you? Maybe I had it wrong.