Would a woman be upset / annoyed if I don't offer her alcohol when inviting her to my place?

[Anonymous]

Ok , so I am recently out of a long term relationship. I am currently starting dating again after a long time .. the thing is .. I don't drink alcohol at all.

I want to invite women to my place and get physical .. but I always hear that guys offer alcohol or wine to the girls...

As a girl.. imagine if a charming guy wants to seduce you at his place .. do you need alcohol.. would you prefer drinking or not ?

Would a woman be upset if I don't have alcohol or wine to offer her ?

I need alcohol, He can't seduce me if I am sober

I need a little bit .. but he can still seduce me while I am sober

I don't need alcohol to be seduced. It is all about the comfort , vibe & charm

Updates

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update: My intention is both romantic and sexual. I want to seduce her romantically AND sexually.

[Tatiahna]

I don't feel like ANY woman should feel like she can't be seduced if she's not sober or any man should feel the need to drug her up (like it or not alcohol is a drug). I'd be more offended if a guy did offer me alcohol than if he didn't.

Call me old fashioned but I think that you should be in your right mind when you are considering whether or not you're ready to give your body to someone

I would like to be offered a drink though. Tea, lemonade, juice yum ^_^

[Asker]

Perfect!

[EverythingReal]

If a guy offers me alcohol on arrival to his home I would assume he's trying to get laid and I would be worried about being drugged.

I'd be fine with no booze.

[Asker]

I am trying to have sex with her.. but I don't want her or me to drink alcohol.

[EverythingReal]

Yeah, which is fine, but you don't need to be like "HEY I'M TRYING TO GET YOU DRUNK TO SCREW YOU", you can seduce her by being romantic

[Asker]

great ! that is what I wanted to know .. :) if I can seduce her by just being charming :)

[indy7]

Many people these days don't drink alcohol. You can either let her know you don't drink and offer to pick up a bottle of her favorite wine or beverage for her, and/or give her the option of letting her bring her own.

[Asker]

wouldn't that make her upset ? or make her feel I am unromantic? do people do this ? thanks for helping me :)

[indy7]

Not if you offer to have her favorite wine there for her. But it is your choice if you'd like to stock a white, red, rose...beer... Some people can be choosy when it comes to their wines though. I experienced a similar situation with a lady friend of mine and was given a choice...

Let's see what others have to say.

[Asker]

thank you .. it makes sense!

[madhatters4]

i would just say. can I get you a drink? and then list what you have including both alcoholic and non-alcoholic options

[ShelShock]

When I go to a man's house and he offers me alcohol it's a clear sign he is trying to get laid and it makes me slightly uncomfortable. Explaining that you don't drink, then offering to pick up a nice wine for her makes her feel a bit more in control, gives you an out of dealing with a weird situation if she is expecting alcohol, and kind of sets the mood on what this encounter is going to be about.

[Anonymous]

If you don't drink alcohol then why would you feel the need to offer her some just to get laid. Of you are charming you would not need it. If a guy invites me over its a red flag that he just wants sex.

[Asker]

I don't want to give her alcohol. I am asking if she would be upset if I don't .

[Opinion Owner]

If she likes you enough to come over why would she be upset?

[Asker]

My idea is that women need alcohol to help them relax... and if she doesn't have that she will be tense.. would you think this is true ?

[Opinion Owner]

Not necessarily, if I like a guy eventually he will come around. If a girl wants to have sex with you she does not require alcohol to do it

[Asker]

so basically , making her have a good time , feel safe and happy is the key :)

[Opinion Owner]

Yes

[franz-joseph]

it is odd to not offer a guest a drink, whether or not you want to get in her pants. why not offer her a glass of wine, and have a pepsi yourself?

[Asker]

do I have to offer her wine? can't I offer her juice?

[franz-joseph]

are you kidding, offer a grown woman apple juice?

[Asker]

nope not kidding...in anycase I appreciate your opinion

[Tatiahna]

I'll take juice! Just not apple how about a nice glass of orange?

[Anonymous]

It wouldn't offend me