Would you organize Christmas gatherings in November?

[kitty71]

Even if the shops and the Christmas spirit is already on but is not the proper December month?

Im for one that in my house the Christmas spirit starts December 1st, cause that is the way I was aised by my parents and also many many years ago, December spirit really started in December unlike now that due for business reasons Christmas start earlier like in October in the country I live. I mean it starts in October becaue that is the time in my country shops starts to sell Christmas items an even some homes alrady start to decorate their houses. Some even have set their trees already at the houses at the end of October.

Well knowing that. I am in a dilemma of organizing a Christmas get together with some friends. I have this group of friends that before the pandemic we lets say see each other from time to time., then ti came the pandemic and like everything things changed. We stopped gathering and even stopped chatting even on the phone but we always agreed that whne things to better we need to see each other again, we all agreed on that the last time we chatted online. Then when the pandemic situation was improving I try to set up to see each other again and text them but for whatever reason it was, they changed, they were not the same friends I used to know, cause neither seem interested in seeing each other again beause nnone replied anything about seeing each other again, like they did not care, that was last year. So I stopped contacting them. This year around May I found out through some online photos, some of those friends in the group did gather on their own for a friend in common brithday but did not invite others (not just me there were others as well) who were not invited in the same chat group. The reason for that? I dont know and never care to ask but I did found rude they did that, knowing in the past I had tried to set up something but they never care to respond.

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So since I dont like to hold grudges and Im not a bitter person. I contacted yesterday one of the ladies in teh group and ask her that maybe this year we can finally gather and make like a Christmas gathering she agreed on the idea. and just told me ok just lets set a date, time and place. I laid out my idea on the chat group to read responses and told them that it could be done the first or second week of December and plan it ahead of time, in order not to clash with other December

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activites we all may have other Christmas activities with otherh people (family, other friends, work) our Christmas time approaches and indeed could b e more difficult to sent up anything. This lady tells me it is better to organize something THIS WEEK cause in December people already have plans with other people and schedules become difficult for everyone.
I mean really a Christmas gathering in November? Sorry but I dont like her idea. What should I tell her?

[SnowedIn]

For our family, the season begins the Friday after Thanksgiving. Not with shopping that day (yuck) but just, the season. I think the Christmas gathering question, though, has to do with the tyranny of the calendar. There's only so many days between December 1st and December 25th. And often too many holiday parties and gatherings. So, people extend the season in the same way that the retailers do by putting out Christmas stuff right after Halloween. So, to your question: would I organize such a gathering in November? No, or at least not until after Thanksgiving, but I also don't think it's wrong to.

[kitty71]

I mean I dont even brought up the idea of reuning in November it was this friend who brought it up. What I did in my original text was to set it up maybe for the first or second week of December and this friend told me better not because those days people have already their agendas full. Duhh and what if in that agenda our gathering is included dont you think?

[SnowedIn]

Neither of you is wrong. Again, the tyranny of the calendar. I remember working with my boss and his wife and his boss' boss' team to plan holiday events. We started in June with the calendar work and invitations went out the day after Labor Day.

[kitty71]

This friend just said that better now only because in December peoples agendas are full with other activities fro each individual

[SnowedIn]

I find that that's generally true. It's sad in a way, but I think it's true.

[kitty71]

but why those activities this friend mention ours can't be included?

[SnowedIn]

That is a great question which, I confess, I have no answer to; I'm sorry.

[Summeroflove]

For me Christmas starts the day after Thanksgiving leading up into New Years. I love to enjoy every holiday and their season. Halloween kicks off the Holidays for me and New Years ends it. Even though mid January seems to kick off another series of holidays.

I wouldn’t call it a season though. Because they’re more spaced out. It’s definitely a time of year I try to enjoy to the fullest. Because it flies by too fast.

Early planning is good. Planning holidays is a balance. You don’t want to plan last minute. But if you plan too early. This can also cause problems as well.

Sometimes we just have something and just say whoever shows up shows up.

But. Nothing wrong with having a gathering now if you wanted to.

[Dnice1]

I start looking for Christmas presents but after Thanksgiving I focus on my birthday then Christmas

[kitty71]

So what should I tell this friend. I mean she says this week to plan it out of the blue but I dont like the idea of now for me it is nto Christmas.

[Dnice1]

Well you do what works for you, sometimes it's good to plan ahead. I'd go for Thanksgiving then Christmas.

[kitty71]

I mean I needto wait to hear the responses of other friends and see if they agree with this lady to set it up for this week. But I dont like the idea in November.

[Dnice1]

Yeah I know what you mean. In November we always focus on Thanksgiving then my birthday then Christmas.

[kitty71]

We kinda do not celebrate Thanksving per se we dont live in the USA

[Dnice1]

I gotcha

[Guy13]

Perhaps, they perceive a rigid and battlefield personality that detracts from their Brand of Fun.

There are also hierarchical design within Groups. And some people never make it into the Clique or Club or Group even though they participate in a planetary or satellite 🛰 sort of way. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[kitty71]

And your answer is?

[Guy13]

For me, a party such as this would classify as a tertiary concern. To give you a sense, the formal charity events are now Halloween until middle November. Facial and Afriends November birthdays are in progress concluding prior to Black Friday. November 19-21 are my first holiday parties. One will certainly have Turkey and a “cardboard box” Santa with deer gauge on his knee and each reindeer. This sort of Holiday party may be a better option for you. I would recommend Zoom, Martini Stud bar tender, and at least have a drink.
You are taking a Virtual experience out of its initial design which is a recipe for Disaster and unrealistic…. Burning 🔥 of the mask in Santa’s fireplace may be an alternative 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Guy13]

Familial…spell damn correct 🤷🏻‍♂️

[OlderAndWiser]

Pre-covid, my alumni association has always had a Christmas party in December. It is always a big event. We haven't had it for a few years because of covid. The party is for local alumni and undergraduates from a local university. That school's calendar, designed for covid, has fall semester ending on November 18 and students don't return until January. Most will leave the area during the interim. So, to include the undergraduates, we are having our holiday party on November 19

[kitty71]

Your case is totally differnt than mine. Mine is just a normal friends gathering period.

[User3191989]

No I'm Jewish anyway but, I feel like November is too early. We still have Thanksgiving and life to go

[pizzalovershouse]

Not unless you can get family together other than then

[Guardian45]

Nope!