Fair Play: Confessions of an Attention Whore

[KBob93]

This myTake is dedicated to @PeachSunset, who inspired me to write this. I hope you don't mind me giving you credit!!

Ok, so maybe I'm an attention whore, just like 89.9999% of women on this site. But, props to me for admitting it.

So what I'm comforted by validation so I don't forget that I'm beautiful? And don't give me that, "you should have confidence in yourself," etc. Just because I should doesn't mean I do. Insecurities exist-both yours & mine.

One time when I anonymously posted three shots of me in my undies & bra, asking if I had a good body, I gave MHO to a girl who said I had a muffin top & no butt. But you know what else? She said I had a beautiful set of boobs & she was jealous of my cup size, & that there's plenty of guys who would love my body.

See? That's tough honesty, but fair play at the same time. Because she told me something attractive about myself along with a criticism that otherwise would've probably came off as harsh, I still came out of her comment feeling okay, feeling like there's something beautiful about me to someone who even might not think I'm a 10/10. She was validating that despite certain things that are unattractive about me, I'm still pretty in other contexts; this is why I was more receptive to her criticism.

Want to get through to people like me? Be frank AND compliment! It's a little something called constructive criticism, i.e. building people up while getting your dead-honest opinion across.

I'm almost certain that this approach will save a lot of people resentment. After all, what's wrong with being a little nice?

[KDA20]

I think this debate will go on for time immemorial - I have no real strong feelings on what we shall call the true "Attention Whore" who seems to attract the ire of so many on the site but a take like this supports the use of the tactic I employ of treating everyone as if they came from a genuine place and wish to address a slight insecurity or validation. Not every insecurity can be as easily identifiable as "I just had a baby", "I lost 30 lbs" or "I never had a boyfriend".
In reality it is wise to look in the mirror and think about your personality, only a fool would say "I am the bomb, I have no concerns at all". While thinking about this, ask yourself how many people are aware of your insecurity usually zero - I myself have a slight stutter and my fear is people will think I am stupid because I can't speak properly when I voice it, people say never in a million years would they think that so why do you dwell on it.
When I go through that in my mind, is it fair to call someone a blatant "Attention Whore" , to me it would be very harsh to judge like that while I understand where the critics are coming from, we are dealing with people's feelings and if one innocent person's feelings are hurt, is it worth it for a point scoring exercise.

[Hannah591]

I don't really know the point of this take but...

some people won't like to have even slight criticism, they simply want adoration. Attention "whores" should seek therapy to address their severe insecurities though.

[PeachSunset]

Hahahaha 😂 we all have our inner "whore" which we like to pull out in the midst of guys. If i'm going to be brutally honest I use it sometimes too at my own advantage. It was mainly a joke for the girls who flood the site with cleavage MILLIONS of times, and I mean millions, like everyday nudes. Thanks for the creds :P

[KBob93]

I haven't done millions of those! But thanks though.

[Stacyzee]

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That's great for you!!

Attention seekers personally make my stomach turn.

I think they are pathetic, and have a false sense of confidence, which is only seemingly restored by those who kiss their ass.

They personally don't bother me however, because I avoid them at all costs.

[Stacyzee]

And by the looks of your photos, you're extremely ordinary.

[Stacyzee]

& There's nothing wrong with that. Just embrace who you are and love yourself.

[KBob93]

Let's please not get into it. If I have confidence issues, that's my problem. Just don't tell me to "love myself." I addressed that in my take.

[Stacyzee]

I can tell you what ever I'd like. It's called freedom of speech.
You'd rather here false praising and compliments, than the truth.
What people need to understand confidence is what adds to someones beauty.
When you're constantly seeking the approval of others, it has a way of making you look less attractive.
<3 I hope you come to a place where you can actually accept the words "love yourself" into your life and work on those issues.
Best wishes.

[KBob93]

Still an honest attention whore. Next.

[KBob93]

(I don't really think you took a look at this closely anyway)

[Stacyzee]

Sad.

That's definitely nothing to be proud of.

But you'll grow eventually.

That is all.

[Stacyzee]

What's there to look at? You're calling yourself a whore, which is a derogatory insult that no educated person would call themselves. And you are claiming you love to seek attention.
Lets combine those two words and we get "attention whore".
I mean, only people that are needy, insecure would constantly seek approval from others.
I see it on GAG all of the time and I usually avoid answering questions from these types of people.
I just wanted to give my 2 cents , now im gone.

[KBob93]

I'm fine with honesty, in the form of constructive criticism. This doesn't count because this wasn't the constructive criticism I was seeking.

"You're not pretty, but have confidence."
That's an oxy-moron if you ask me.

Bye.

[Stacyzee]

You dont have to be beautiful to have confidence.
The true meaning of the word is accepting the things that you cannot change.
Your flaws are what makes you you, and are a part of you.
Instead of doing so, you seek approval for those flaws to get a false sense of worth about yourself.

I will not fall into your trap of telling you you are beautiful like you want to hear.
I believe in people establishing confidence themselves not falsely having it stored in their minds.
Good day!

[KBob93]

It'll absolutely humor me to tell you I used to be a stripper when I was 20. That was when I had the perfect body.

So it shouldn't surprise you or anyone that I hold these paradigms about having to look attractive to be worth anything.

[TadCurious]

When I was like 14 or 15, like lots of guys that age I fixated on girls who would be considered 10/10 (whatever that means) and were like supermodel attractive. But as I get older and look at women in a more holistic way, I find that lots of times it's the little "imperfections" that makes a girl look perfect. I hope that makes sense. It does to me but I know it might not to others.

[bloodmountain1990]

Attention whores on dating sites are the worst. They should just put for their intent that they're desperately looking for attention and an ego boost because that's all they're doing.

I've had times where I'd talk to girls for a week or two off those sites and then when I ask them out, they're like oh I'm not looking to date or I'm skeptical of meeting people online. Then it's like well why the fuck are you talking to me then?

Then there's those who do agree to a date but ignore you once you give your phone number or suggest a place. Fuck those people. Like @Nuqood said, they can go play in traffic.

[bloodmountain1990]

P. S. and it's not about being nice or entitled. It's just called not having you're time wasted.

[bloodmountain1990]

your*

[KENKONG]

Not only dating sites. Tinder is like that too.

[bloodmountain1990]

I was referring to tinder too. I know it's an app but it may as well be a dating site too. Trust me I've had it on tinder a few times as well.

[Dubhlann]

I always hated on American Idol when the judges would never criticize the singers.

That's why I love Harry Connick on there. He's frank with you and will be direct and tell you want is wrong, but he'll also tell you what is right.

by the way, where are those pics? asking for a friend. ;)

[KBob93]

Asking for a friend? What? Lol

[Dubhlann]

Oh sure... I'd never ask to see you in your underwear... of course... but um... yeah this friend of mine... uh huh... sure... he wants to seem.

[KBob93]

Haha, not sure if I look too up to par in them!

[Dubhlann]

Somehow I think you're underestimating yourself.

[AleDeEurope]

Most women are attention whores, that's because many many women are insecure about their bodies.
Yeah, they may come out saying "we don't do this for attention" but we all know those two faces very well: the one they have when they get complimented, and the one when no one compliments her.

Good for you for at least being honest, unlike the other 99% of attention whores.

Oh, and by the way... Go Hawks! :P

[KBob93]

Have a compliment to spare for this honest attention whore? :)

[KBob93]

@AleDeEurope or you can call me ugly, one of the two...

[AleDeEurope]

Hahaha you're not ugly, but not my type either. You seem to have nice legs and boobs, though.

[KBob93]

That's ok. Thank you for the props! Hopefully I'm not fat or anything like that, lol

[AleDeEurope]

No, you're not, don't worry about that.

[Red_Arrow]

It has been a while since I last gave you a dose of attention. You are attractive. You worry about your stomach, and have not shown it, but from what I have seen I think you are worried for nothing. If others get tired of looking at you, send the pictures to me. And I will tell you that I find you great looking and I don;t know why your guy friends are not giving you compliments daily. Face and body, I love them both! :-)

[ConsultantIsBack]

Somewhat related, It's interesting how Gag often times attacks attractive women, calling them "attention whores" etc. like the beautiful women genuinely asking for feedback on rate me posts. And then excessively and endlessly work to lift up everyone below average. Which is obviously not bad practice, but interesting the push-and-pull I've seen on Gag.

[KBob93]

I understand your premise.

[Nuqood]

I'll stick to my tactic of telling attention whores to go play in traffic.

[archiz]

lol ok, I ll bite.
although this take doesn t offer me any new knowledge in life, you still have a pretty face to look at. and thanks to your take I noticed you.

[KBob93]

Thanks!

[pavlove]

people have a definite view of how attractive they are and when you treat them like they're more than that they find it patronizing and when you treat them as less they say you're an ahole. i find it best not to bestow on people my opinion of their attractiveness since people can't seem to take it well

[JuicyBrain]

Haha ! Since you are an attention whore, let me feed the beast. That picture in front of the Christmas tree, roarrrrr ! Looking hot and sexy 😊

[KBob93]

Haha awesome!! Really? What do you like about it?

[JuicyBrain]

The subject? Lol
The smile, the sexy pose and the boobs 😊
I love women with a little more skin on the bone. You've got roundness where it counts. Me likee 😊

[KBob93]

As long as it's where it counts!!

[KENKONG]

Why is it when someone actually points out girls flaws on gag or say they aren't hot, or call them below average their usual response is "FUCK YOU!" ? Bitch you ask people to critique how you look, you can't expect it to be all positive.

[KBob93]

I didn't say that to anyone.

[Red_Arrow]

KBob93 - I have noticed that you are extremely kind to all who answer. You are the exception, not the rule. Very Nice.

[Nxtawm]

Lol that's great cause when I'm gonna criticize someone's look on here, that's literally what I do cause to don't want to come off as just being plain mean

[skeptic007]

so should I look for attention cause I keep to myself 90% of the time

[Anonymous]

Attention whore or not, I couldn't give a shit. I don't even pay attention half the time.

[RandomPerson1324]

You don't draw my attention one bit...

[KBob93]

Whatever

[RandomPerson1324]

No, I meant cause you're ugly...

[Mistnigqa808]

Nice take and read ^_^

[DarkHumorRUs]

Butt her face!

[girlinthemirror]

men can be attention whores too