We hear it all the time, the spiel about how you have to love your imperfections. They make you you! They give you character! They make you human! We all have them! These things may be true, but you really don't have to love your imperfections, you just have to tolerate them. It doesn't mean that you're weird or anything is wrong with you if you just can't seem to love your imperfections.
I have too many imperfections to count on my hands. I'm very heavy, my hair is flat on top and frizzy on the bottom, I have two small moles on my face, I've got acne, I have thin, light eyebrows and I hate it, I have small eyes, etc. I hate all of these things about myself and more. They are my imperfections. If only I could change everything about myself, right? Wrong. Then I would be a total stranger. I like being myself, despite my apeparance (most of the time anyway.) But does this mean that I love my acne, or my fat rolls? Hell no! But I've learned to tolerate it all, simply because it is me and that is what I'm stuck with unless I can find a way to change it.
if you really hate your imperfections, you can always try to change them. You don't have to, obviously, but if your acne is very embarrassing to you talk to your doctor about clindamycin phosphate lotion. If you dislike your weight, try to change your det and exercise routine. These are usually pretty lengthy and some times even expensive processes, but you will be able to tame your imperfections in these ways.
If you don't have the time, energy, money, or dedication to do these things, then you'll have to learn to tolerate your imperfections.If you can't learn to accept them as they are, try to zone them out or cover them. A lot of the time things that cause people to have lowered self esteems can be hidden or even just slightly less noticeable by finding makeup and clothing styles that help with your outward appearance. I've found that certain shades of lipstick make my lips look fuller, another insecurity of mine. Thick eyeliner makes my eyes look larger and brighter, and my glasses style helps with the size difference and fills the empty space on my face while drawing attention to my eyes. You just need to find the style that fits you and helps to make your imperfections less noticable.
If you don't want to hide them, then you'll need to embrace them. Start one step at a time. Look in the mirror and find all of the things that you do not like about yourself. Write them all down. Then find the same amount of positive things, or even more. Think back to every compliment that you've ever gotten. Even the smallest compliment counts, as long as it made you feel happy. You need to run those positive thoughts through your mind every chance you get. Your imperfections become obsolete when there is so much positivity to focus on.
You do not need to love your imperfections, but you should be happy with them. Whether that joy comes from acceptance, change, or loads of makeup, you deserve to be happy no matter what is on the outside of you. Find peace within yourself, and find beauty outside of yourself.
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