What I Learnt from a Day at a Mixed Nude Day Spa

I am writting this to share an experience I had recently while traveling around in Europe. For those who dont know, in Germany and The Netherlands there are quiet a few wellness centers. These wellness centers are often on large areas of land and contain numerous different types of saunas, hot tubs, herb baths, steam rooms, massage rooms, showers and swimming pools. However, where they are unique is that most of them have a nude only policy. Being a curious open minded solo traveller I wanted to give it a try and I am glad I did because I learnt a couple of valuable lessons.
I'll start from the beginning. Basically when you arrive you check in at a counter like any other day spa. These are not creepy back alley places, more like the reception area of a 4-5 star hotel. You get given a bath robe, a towel and some slippers. Its then off to the change rooms. There are no male or female rooms. Its all in together here. You get into your robe and then head into the spa area where its a maze of saunas, pools and hot tubs. The particular venue I tried had 18 different saunas. You can wear a robe when you are walking around (although many dont) but if you want to go in the sauna or any pools you have to get completely naked.

I won't lie, I was a bit worried about the whole naked thing. Especially seeing as it was men and women together. When I first went to the change room there were 2 beautiful tall blonde german women standing in there underwear. I immediately felt self conscious in my own seemingly inferior body. I pretended to fumble around in my bag while I worked up the courage to change in the large open change room. The 2 women removed their underwear and what I saw actually gave me comfort. One had pretty saggy breasts and the other had a bit of a tummy and her bum looked fatter without the designer underwear giving it shape. I decided to get on with it and change into my robe.

The first sauna was a scary moment. There were about 8 people in it. A mix of men and women. The youngest looked hardly 18 and the oldest was about 50. I removed my robe and awkwardly went inside, I feared the worst but quickly realised that I had nothing to worry about. Nobody looked at me, not so much as a quick little glance. There were about 3 20year old naked girls in there and the men acted as if they weren't even there at all. As the day went on I got more and more confident with spending time in my birthday suit and made some observations.


1. It was a good mix of people. Young and old, men and women
2. Most people actually look less sexually appealing without underwear or a bikini. You just become another body in all your imperfect glory.
3. People did not associate the nudity with sex. There was no creepy behaviour, no lingering stares or offensive comments.
4. When you are naked you are forced to deal with and accept your bodily imperfections. Once you do this you start to actually feel a certain comfort in your own skin that you dont get while compensating with particular clothing items.

Im not suggesting we should all walk around naked. I think a lot of western countries like the USA, Australia, Canada etc would not be able to handle such a place because peoples minds jump straight to sex when they see skin. This may offend or excite but I think if we had spas like this at home they would be pervy, creepy places that would certaintly not give young women the confidence to hang out naked in a mixed spa.

The point I am trying to make with all of this is that I believe we have attached our bodies way too closely with the idea of sex and attraction and that brings a lot of unwanted attention and pressure.

What I learnt from a day at a mixed nude day spa


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  • I absolutely agree. The way that Americans shelter children from their own anatomy and that of others is a major reason why people here are so sex obsessed and we have so many sex crimes. In places where nudity is the norm sex obsession and sex crimes are lower. What's taboo always becomes more desirable and inspires obsession.

    I grew up in a home where walking around naked was considered fine and normal. I saw naked art in museums and art books regularly. The naked human body is just a work of art to me. I'm not turned on or offended by just watching a naked person walk around. I barely notice and then I move on. That is how it should be.

    I raise my children the same way. I took them to a gathering where nudity was optional, and they didn't bat an eyelash at anyone's nudity nor did they start, ask questions, or care at all! Their only question was whether or not they could be naked as well.

    When peers at school obsess over sex and "private parts" my children just do not get the hype at all, ha ha. I don't have to worry about them experimenting or playing sex games behind my back.

    A flasher would not scar them for life. I just told them a swift kick to the nuts might teach the person some manners, since they are both trained in martial arts. I did not teach them to obsess, so I do not have to obsess over them.

    The world is wide open to them, and they are happier for being educated and allowed to accept all of human anatomy for just a normal thing we all share.

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    • Did you take your kids to a nude beach? My friend thinks it's weird that I go to the nude beach with my brother... But it's just normal to us. Even seeing him get a random boner is normal to me lol (I always just find it funny).

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    • I agree with every word you said here. My kids 13 and 4 with one on the way and both are use to seeing us naked at home and at beaches. My hubby and I travel to two different nude resorts in our area, but have not yet taken the kids with us as we use it as a getaway time as well. I think soon we will add the kids to the mix as well.
      I only wish things in the US were such that we could have facilities like you got to visit here as well.

    • @LivingMyLife I grew up going to nude beaches and resorts every weekend with my family and friends. It was never a big deal. I still go frequently with my brother and his friends as we are members of a very nice clothing optional resort close to where we live. I think it's totally normal for you to go with your brother!

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  • I completely agree. I'm Dutch myself and although there are still a lot of kids who will giggle uncontrollably when they see a bit of a revealing top, most adults and teens don't care as much. When you're completely naked, you all become the same. Everyone has insecurities and flaws, just like everyone has something they like and love about themselves. Being in a room full of people who aren't wearing a single thing, men and women alike, everyone just becomes the same person. All of a sudden everyone has some bodyhair, a bit of a tummy, some cellulite here and there: there's nothing sexual about it.
    Me and most people I know aren't quick to judge anyone on their appearance, especially in a place like that. The only comments we would make to each other about other people are compliments because we know everyone is there for the same reason: to relax and have fun.

    I'm glad you took your time to go to one and experiment a bit. Of course it will be awkward at first, but once you realize the things you did it doesn't matter anymore and you can relax.

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  • Great post. I have been using the female only nude sauna since I was a teenager and whenever I travel to Germany I visit the mixed spa and sauna. I love how you can be naked with no sexual connotation.

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  • I'm glad you're open-minded enough to try it and had a pleasant experience.

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  • Great and valuable experience. It inspires me to visit these places, though for the first time.

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  • I agree

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  • I'm too embarrassed to go there

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  • But what if any guy you see gets boner?

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  • I did this i couldnt see the big deal.

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